Heya playa, are you the type of person that overthinks every interaction you have with
your crush?
Every look they give you, every smile, every time they say hi?
If so, stay tuned because I'm gonna explain what you can do to break out of the mindset
to make things start working for you and your crush.
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Now if you find yourself constantly overthinking everything that you do, the first question
to ask yourself is why?
Why am I always in my head?
Why am I always second guessing myself?
Why am I always assuming things are bigger than they actually are.
If you're someone that's always in your head, the first thing you're gonna wanna start doing
is being more verbal with how you feel, not just to your crush but to everyone that you
know.
And I don't mean just outwardly telling your crush, "Hey, I like you".
I mean more in the sense of just verbalizing your feelings.
When things make you angry, when things make you sad, when things make you happy or excited.
Let's say for example you're sitting in class thinking about your crush and you're not sure
when the next time is that you're going to see them.
Well in that moment you might feel excited for that next encounter you have or you might
feel worried that it will never happen.
A lot of times, people get stuck in that realm of uncertainty.
They don't know what's going to happen, instead of changing their mindset to be "well, what
can I do to make the thing that I want happen, happen?".
That might mean finding out what your crush's schedule is, what they do after school, where
their friends hang out, just learning a little bit more about them so you don't sit in that
cycle of thinking about it.
Now when it comes to overthinking and second guessing yourself, this is the one that most
people get tripped up on because that fear of rejection is super real and no one ever
wants to encounter it.
You might end up telling yourself "well if I talk to my crush, they're going to think
I'm weird" or "I'm not gonna know what to say" or "The whole situation is gonna be awkward
so it's probably best to avoid it".
Instead you're waiting for someone else to take action.
You're waiting for your crush to be pro active to come talk to you to make things happen
to set the wheels in motion and trust me, thats just not how things are going to end
up playing out.
Most likely if you're not proactive, your crush is not gonna be proactive.
So you need to take the first initial step in taking to them, in getting to know them,
in building something with them so that you can have that mutual reciprocation going back
and forth between the two of you.
I know you're scared that you're going to screw things up with them but take my word
of advice here.
It's way better to actually know what the outcome is rather than always sitting in uncertainty
never really quite knowing how things would have played out.
Even if things don't work out for you, that's ok.
It's still a learning experience and something you can grow from to do better next time with.
But in those times that you do have interactions, let's say you say hi to your crush in the
hall and they smile at you, or they look at you every so often, you might start to think
what their intentions are.
You might start to attribute more to it and think that just a simple look is a sign of
romantic interest.
Now I'm sure many of you have already seen my five signs a girl likes you video, but
the problem with looking for signs is that you spend too much time waiting to understand
what's going on rather than being active about it.
And what I've come to learn over the years is that you're way more successful when you
actively talk to your crush.
When you interact with them and start to build that connection rather than trying to wait
for all the check boxes are marked off for the signs that you think they're showing.
In other words, signs of interest does not translate into actual interest.
The only way that you're actually gonna find out if your crush is interested in you is
if you talk to them.
Is if you get to know them better without doing that and just waiting for every kind
of look or hair flip or smile or things like that, you're going to end up sitting there
waiting things out until your crush gets bored waiting for you to make a move.
I've seen this happen way to many times.
A person ended up liking somebody else and instead of actually just saying hi to them.
Instead of actually getting to know them, they just sit there and wait and wait and
wait until their crush just moves on or someone else swoops in and asks them out.
So do your best to not allow your overthinking to replace your action.
Action is way more important in these type of situations.
If you find yourself constantly stuck in your head trying to work things out, the best thing
to do is to act on them and see how they fall out.
But what do you think though, are you someone who constantly overthinks every situation
that you're in?
Leave your comments down below and we'll talk about it.
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As always, love and peace.