IYANLA: Michael claims not to date black women
because he is different.
But I feel that he hides behind that label, just as the women
who entered the House of Healing hid behind the angry label
for so long.
MICHAEL: My perspective of black women
were my aunties, my cousins.
All the way from, you know, I had cousins that
made me feel weird, you know. You're different.
You dress funny.
You-- you-- why you act like that?
Black women look at me and say, I can tell you don't like us.
I'm like, what?
I don't like you? Uh uh.
I love you.
But I can't help it if I learned 20 instruments.
I can't help it if I play flute and walk barefoot on the beach.
And I'm from South Central.
I was amazed at you, because I've been told yesterday,
you're a beautiful girl.
And I watched yesterday--
Michael, she's a beautiful woman.
OK. I'm sorry about that.
Tell her.
Beautiful woman.
I said, you're a beautiful girl.
I told him, I said, this generation right now,
people in their 20s, it's hard.
Y'all are making it hard on these brothers.
We've got to wake up every day, everything
has to be about status.
We've got to buy this, even if we can't afford it.
And then y'all on Instagram beautiful, and you talking
like you don't have no daddy.
You sound like a dude talking, like you
ain't got no home training.
Ooh, [INAUDIBLE].
And you say you're a bad bitch?
That's not a bad bitch.
I'm talking in general.
I'm talking about the general that--
you're-- how old are you? -22.
Yeah.
Your generation.
Girl, you're 22 years old.
You're doing this.
You got them hot flashes?
Yes, it's hot.
Michael, that's disrespectful.
I want you to understand that.
Why would you do that?
Because I'm being funny.
I'm a different kind of personality.
Now you're trying to make me look
bad, like I disrespected her. -You did.
I got a woman with a-- I got a son with a black woman.
My mother's black.
You disrespected this woman in this room at this time.
-May I finish, please? -No.
You said, I'm making you feel like you disrespect her.
LIRA: [INAUDIBLE]
I want you to understand, the same
way I said to you earlier-- LIRA: [INAUDIBLE]
---that we would-- excuse me.
Miss Lira, we're not going do that.
We're not going to do it.
LIRA: I felt disrespected by his comment.
No. No.
No.
I'm handling it.
So I want you to understand that to make
a comment as a man like that to a woman, it wasn't funny.
It was disrespectful. -OK.
First of all, I'm going to apologize.
But what about what I heard when I was growing up, up until now?
It's dis--
That don't have nothing to do with her.
No, it is disrespectful, because it's
a psychological imprint.
All I'm saying is that I thought it was funny.
IYANLA: Miss Lira.
Miss Lira.
You're not going to do that.
We're not going to it, Miss Lira.
It's out of order.
I feel like he was out of order.
Yeah, but I handled it.
And you got the apology.
I'm talking about the first comment that he made.
Yeah, but I'm handling it.
I said to you earlier, and I'm going to give you--
But I don't like that. I don't like what he said.
Yeah, but you know what?
I'm gonna give it to you cause you weren't here.
We taught the ladies the distinction
between hearing and listening.
I'm listening, and I didn't like what I heard.
Yeah.
So I commented on it.
So you don't have to respond.
That's your power.
Don't give him your power.
You don't have to respond.
Hold it.
I told you, I will handle it.
Just breathe, and hold it.
When I feel disrespected, I feel
like I should have a voice.
You said we-- we're allowed to have a voice.
Yeah. I'm your voice.
-I want to say something. -Today, I'm your voice.
I didn't like what he said.
I'm your voice, because you are reacting.
You're not responding.
Breathe, and we'll handle it.
I've breathed enough for the day.
I don't think so.