what is the real secret to making a man want you long term what is the secret to making a man want
to stick around claim you feel wild about you want to chase you crave you what is the secret to women
going from dating to commitment to marriage what is the secret to making a man want you long term
to making a man want to chase you crave you and have you and spend all of his time and attention
with you and really claim you as his own I'm Adrienne Everheart and i'm a feminine energy
dating and relationship coach and in this video i'm going to teach you how your powerful
feminine energy is what has great power over the man and gives you this superpower so that a man
will really want to date you claim you have you for longer than what you've previously
been experiencing i'm going to explain how i'm going to give you a mantra i'm going to tell you
exactly what to do and say no matter if you are dating or in a committed relationship
i'm going to cover both of those topics and i'm going to do it quick and be sure to subscribe
if you haven't subscribed to me already the secret to getting a man to want you long-term
if you are single has everything to do with dating if you are in a relationship or you're committed
it has everything to do with desire but i'm going to talk about the one secret recipe
that you must have and that is something called confidence now before you turn off this video
and skip and you go wait a minute adrian i've got loads of confidence it's me i'm fine i'm totally
confident it's the guy that has the problem i want to talk to you a little bit about feminine energy
confidence and what that means and what that looks like in terms of dating and keeping a committed
relationship going keeping that desire going and that interest going which is ultimately the same
thing with dating desire interest they want to know more about you they want to keep pursuing
you so it's really the same thing for those of you who say Adrienne please make more videos
about people in committed relationships it's the same thing you want to date your man for life but
i don't want to get off subject there let me stay on track the first thing i want you to think about
is that when you have endless confidence when you are not afraid of your emotions and you are not
afraid to speak a boundary and you don't have to do it being nasty you don't have to do it being
rude you can be a lady and you can express yourself confidently and know what you feel
there is never a fear of avoiding your emotions or avoiding any sort of confrontation or problem
again when you aren't afraid of your emotions you have endless confidence so let's go deeper
into what that means for one confidence is not a show this is not about i'm not afraid to dance
on tabletops and tell somebody exactly what i think and read them write them and erase them
i'm confident it's not about that confidence is something that you have within it is an energy
a feminine energy that you have stored within yourself and it has everything to do with
vulnerability so let's break it down situation by situation the first thing i'm going to talk
about is avoiding pain so often people come to me and they say i'm just not ready to date i'm still
getting over this other man i'll know when i'm ready and what they're doing is avoiding pain when
you are avoiding pain and you're avoiding triggers ultimately you are avoiding intimacy with yourself
let's go back to my mission statement of this video which is when you aren't afraid of your
emotions you have endless confidence the reason women don't date and they keep themselves stuck
at home in isolation is that they are worried about what they're going to experience when they
are faced with a man possibly liking them a man opening his heart to them a man ghosting them a
man being rude a man not showing up for a date a man not responding in a way that they'd hoped
so this is where you get to know yourself and you get to know the pain that you have in your
body what you've been avoiding all these years is you so if you're avoiding you and you're
avoiding your pain and your vulnerability you can see why this will create a wall around you
when it comes to relationships and the type of man you're attracting so often women come to
me and they say i keep attracting these guys who aren't into intimacy they don't want a commitment
they don't stick around they're not interested are you really unzipping your heart to them you might
think you are you might believe that you're giving them everything that they need to have intimacy
and connection with you or are you strategically plotting out your words your wardrobe what you do
what you say where you go when you say it how you say it are you up there in masculine energy mind
plodding and i also mean plotting things with your husband your boyfriend with dating situations are
you in strategic mode which is masculine energy or are you in your vulnerable feminine energy
body the biggest thing you want to begin to pay attention to is you setting the pacing and the big
one here with women is urgency urgency so urgency makes us want to avoid the pain of a man needing
to figure it out of a man pursuing you of giving a man time to come towards you time and space
and you might say look i've already given him time i've given him so much time and i've told him
this is it you've got to commit to me you've got to show up and be there for me or i'm out the door
so this is an example of i've stood by for so long i am now exhausted and
exasperated and he's gotta buck up or get out so you're at a completely different place now
and i want you to remember that at any time you can hit that reset button
and you can go back to a place of you know what for three months i'm going to try something
different i'm going to peel all my energy off this man i'm not going to have any urgency or
expectations for him to do or say things the way i need him to do it because that would be strategy
and i'm instead going to find out what it is i'm really feeling in my body and when
you discover what you're really feeling in your body you set the pacing you let the relationship
unfold so let's look at a few examples let's say your husband comes home from work every day and he
doesn't give you any attention he hardly talks to you he doesn't text you anymore he's just
not coming towards you so all of your focus has now become about what is he giving me what is he
giving me for me and i want you to instead switch your focus to what am i feeling when he comes home
i feel sad i want to connect i want to chat with my best friend i want to feel those
warm juicy feelings that we used to feel with each other the next step you want to have is what can
i do to give that to myself if my husband's going through some season with how he responds with me
what can i do to make myself feel juicy and happy and connected to people the next step how can i
be juicy and connected with him where can i show interest in his life and just show up and listen
and just show up and give him a little room in space instead of pushing an agenda pushing a
deadline pushing a timeline pushing a to-do list judging him criticizing him picking out where
he's wrong peel your energy off of him find what you feel in absence of whatever he is doing or
saying or not doing or not saying right for women who perhaps are still very much in love with an
ex and they're just not ready to date they're just not ready to do something by you boldly
putting one foot in front of the other and getting back out there and dating you are announcing to
the world energetically that i'm showing up for myself i'm showing up for a long term goal i have
now when you do this it creates a ripple effect that your ex feels and every other man feels
and this is why in the abcs to get him back program which is my proven get him back program
this is why women who do this program notice that out of nowhere the guy writes them the
guy calls them he gets in touch with you somehow they can feel it i cannot explain
why this works this way but i do know that once you're connected to someone you have a bond and
when your energy changes whether you are married or dating or missing an ex when your energy
changes and your vibe goes up and you start taking care of yourself and finding what you feel and not
running from it you exude this amazing feminine energy confidence when a man gets in front of
you you're not going to judge him and criticize him and pick apart what's wrong with him and make
him feel this big because that's what guys hate they hate feeling small especially by a woman
that feminine masculine energy he's got to feel like the alpha this doesn't mean you
have to be like wow you're just so great all the time but you're also not picking him apart
and finding everything that's wrong with him you have been able to sit with what you feel and find
your emotions and find your confidence from within this means that no person place or thing has any
power over you someone can stand right to your face and call you the worst name in the world
and it only affects you if you allow it to now don't get me wrong there's a time to be angry
and a little time to be sad or hurt but ultimately that is that person's problem that is their issue
i'm a goddess on a pedestal you see you can take feedback you can take criticism you can listen
objectively but ultimately you know that what one person says about you it's their business
that's about them not you the last most important thing is a little mantra i want to share with
you that i want you to repeat after me and get grounded in your feminine energy right now now if
you want to go deeper i have my best-selling ebook and two-day video class 500 ways to talk to a man
and if you're new to dating i cannot recommend it enough FEMM Tools for dating where you set
the pacing you end over investment that makes you get so caught up in urgency
and outcome that you forget to feel when you forget to feel you don't connect with the man
mantra number one i will not be rushed i will not rush others i can let things unfold now this
last one ladies you always have the right to say i need a little time to find what i feel and you'll
notice that masculine energy is there rushing you urging you trying to get an answer out of you
you set the pacing oh i just need a little more time to find how i feel
i need a little time to feel my way through
you can say this in so many ways in my ebook 500 Ways gives you more now if this video has
been helpful it's turned you on to a little bit more of the power and magic of feminine energy
it is this place of not overthinking not action not doing but finding what you're feeling go
deeper with some of my self-study programs the links are below in the description and in the
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bye-bye