- How's that feel in your hand?
- Now see, this would cause problems.
- That would cause problems. (laughing)
(uptempo string music)
Hi, I'm Ruby and I'm a dominatrix.
- Absolutely. (laughs)
- I like to dominate people,
as in I like to tie them up and I like to humiliate people.
I like to have control, that's my big thing.
- Awesome.
(woman in back mumbles)
Hi.
- Hey.
- I definitely recognize you.
- I have done mean things to that person.
(laughing)
- [Man] All right, come on out.
- Hi.
- Hello. (laughing)
- I'm Ruby, nice to meet you.
- I'm Taylor.
That's scary.
- Yeah, it is.
Are you dominant or submissive?
- In the bedroom I'm more submissive,
in lifestyle more dominant.
- Are your kinks more physical or mental?
- Physical.
- Are you into restraint?
- It could be a form of restraint.
I mean, it's physical and it's with hands.
- Is it an unusual kink or a common kink?
- No, it's more common than other kinks.
- I would know it?
Choking.
- Yeah.
Choking - Choking, hot.
- So I know in the BDS community there's
a lot of people who want to separate themselves
from breath play because it is so dangerous.
- For sure. - What's your opinion on that?
- Everything has a risk.
Breath play does have risks.
I would say that hand over the mouth chokes
are the safest choke you can do
because it's effectively impossible
to kill someone doing that.
So, disclaimer.
The riskiest things you can do with breath play
are playing with someone who has a heart condition
and putting pressure on the windpipe, which is right here.
Also never do breath play by yourself.
- Sure - It was nice meeting you.
- It was nice meeting you too.
- Hey.
- Hi, I'm Ruby, nice to meet you.
- I'm Derek, nice to meet you.
- Do I intimidate you? - Definitely.
(laughing)
- What's intimidating about me?
- I think the poise.
- Yeah? - Yeah.
- When I'm like this? - Yeah. (laughing)
- Could anybody have your kink?
- Anybody with a penis could have my kink.
- Interesting.
(laughing)
- I'm open to whatever.
- You're open to whatever.
You're just like, you're just game. (laughs)
How do you feel about this?
- I do feel like I would like that.
- Yeah.
- That's not very hard.
- Oh, you're really red now.
(laughs)
Does your kink involve edging?
- Yeah, definitely, for hours.
(laughing)
- My final guess would probably be edging
and forced cum eating.
- That's not it. - What is it?
- Its autofellatio.
- Interesting, I never would've guessed that.
- Really?
- Yeah, 'cause that's very unusual
to actually be able to do that.
- Yeah, it's my favorite way to get off.
I can get both my nuts in.
- Do you think that's healthy for you?
- I've been back and forth on it.
I mean, if I go at it for, like, three hours,
when I'm done I'm like, oh god,
and I have to slowly stretch back out.
- How else does it impact you?
- You know, emotionally,
it does manipulate my relationships a lot.
My orgasms can't just belong to one other person.
If that's the case, if someone needs too much,
it causes me to have a reaction against them.
Thank you. - It was nice to meet you.
- Yeah, it was nice meeting you, thanks.
- Hello. - Hello.
- How are you? - I'm good, how are you?
- I'm very good.
- We do. - We do.
Do I tell you what to do?
- Oh, yes.
(laughs)
On days that I'm very lucky.
- Take off your jacket.
- Yes, ma'am.
- Is it okay if I spank you?
- I would love that.
(man moaning)
We have a long standing relationship
and we trust each other pretty well
so I know that she has my best interests at heart
and she knows that I will take care of myself
and advocate for myself when I need to.
That frees us up to be a little more fluid.
- Yeah.
(man whimpers)
- It's more like that. - Yeah.
- On your knees. - Yes, ma'am.
- What do you get out of being submissive?
- It makes me feel comfortable.
I grew up in a family where everything was run by women.
So like, I'm used to being in a position where women
are the ones who are in charge.
(man purring)
- So how are you? (laughs) - I'm good, how are you?
- I'm a little nervous. - Why are you nervous?
- Because you're really pretty.
(laughs)
- Have you played much?
- Yeah.
I am on the weirder end of the guessing today.
- Weird things?
- Yes, weird things.
It's not strictly human.
- Oh, ovipositors?
- Yeah! (laughing)
She got it.
You nailed it, that was it. - Nice.
- An ovipositor is a device that is like,
its almost like a dildo
but it's supposed to be an egg laying thing.
And you make little gelatinous eggs
and it goes inside of you and lays them inside of you.
How did you discover that you were into ovipositors?
- So it kinda started as a joke,
and then I watched porn and I was like,
oh, this is good, actually. (laughs)
- Lots of my kinks developed that way.
It started as a joke and then I was like--
- That's a good video. - That's a cool video.
Now I'm watching this stuff
and this woman was like, hey, will you do this with me?
and I was like--
- Damn it, another kink!
- Yeah, right, just collecting 'em.
It was great meeting you.
- It was great meeting you too.
- Hi. - Hey, how are you doin'?
- Good, nice to meet you, I'm Ruby.
- Jim.
- How do you feel looking at me like this?
- Oh, aroused.
- Yeah? - Yeah.
(laughing)
- Have you ever been dominated?
- Yeah, a little bit.
- Let's do it.
- Yeah? - Yeah.
Oh, oh, hold up. - Yeah?
- Wait a minute. (camera man laughing)
I mean, that ain't bad.
- Are you more into, like, top half or the bottom half?
- Primarily the bottom half I would say.
- Butts your thing?
- Uh-huh. - Uh-huh.
- Butts, yes. (laughing)
- Legs?
- Legs, love legs. - Yeah, yeah.
Feet?
- Yeah. - Yeah?
- Yeah.
- Is that what we're here to talk about?
- It is.
- Yeah, rockin'.
- The curves they're like hors d'oeuvres.
They fit in my mouth and rock out.
Yeah, that's it. (laughing)
- Hi, I'm Karen.
- Hey Karen, I'm Ruby.
How do you identify?
- I'm straight.
- Are your kinks more sexual?
- Yes.
Hm.
- How's that feel in your hand?
- Now see, this would cause problems.
- That would cause problems. (laughing)
- I'mma have to get me one of these.
I actually like how this feels.
- Do you like to inflict pain or mostly pleasure?
- All pleasure.
Your body?
- My body, most def.
- Yeah? - Oh yeah, oh yeah.
Oh yes.
- I would say that you're into sexually controlling men.
- I'm into role play.
Simply exploring your body inside out.
I like to create the mood, you know.
If I'm gonna be a maid, I'm gonna have the bed,
the candy, a little tray.
- Mm-hm. - With his drink.
- Elaborate.
- Sex is so important to self.
If you're not getting self-satisfaction, why do it?
- Exactly, there's no point.
Hello.
- Hi, I'm Gary.
- Hi, I'm Ruby, nice to meet you.
- Nice to meet you, Ruby.
- How do you identify?
- I am a gay man.
Very fancy.
(laughing)
- You dominant or submissive?
- I am switch.
- You're a switch. - Yes.
- Are your kinks more physical or psychological
or emotional?
- All of the above.
It involves role play.
- It involves role play.
Does it cover your face?
- Yes.
- I do have a leash in there, a leash and a collar.
Is it puppy play?
- Yes!
Arf!
(laughing)
- Cute!
- [Gary] Arf!
Arf!
- How did you discover that you were a puppy?
- [Gary] First Tumblr, and then I had a chance encounter
with another gentleman who is now my alpha.
And then he offered to introduce me to my first experience.
Wanna take me on a walk?
- Absolutely. - Arf, arf
Arf. (Ruby laughs)
- Thank you. - Arf, arf, arf!
Arf, arf.
- Hi, I'm Ruby. - Hello Ruby, I'm Nick.
- Where do you play mostly?
- I do a lot of paddling and spanking,
sometimes psychological dominance as well.
But that's not what I'm here to talk about.
- That's not what you're here to talk about.
So many red herrings.
(laughing)
- Recently had a birthday and we had a party,
and I had everybody bring food to put on me
and its not that I'm into wet and messy necessarily,
but there is something associated with that
that I am super into.
- Things being eaten off of you?
- Very close.
- Being licked?
- Being licked. - Hm.
- Specifically when I get licked, I,
like my whole body convulses.
- Can I lick your wrist?
- If you would like to lick my wrist you can, yeah.
Absolutely - Sure, I'll lick your wrist.
(laughing)
Lovely to meet you, and to lick your wrist.
(laughing)
- Well done.
- I mean, I learned some things.
People are very specific.
A lot of times I got part of it
but not the entire picture.
- I would say most people are weird on the inside.
I wish that the entire world was more
comfortable with their sexualities.
- Thank you! (camera man applauding)