all right this video will show you five things that you must give up in order to
feel happy instantly I'm gonna share with you ways to go about it so that
you're really able to generate that emotion and make that your dominant
state of being welcome back to another video my name is Aaron and I help people
expand their consciousness now in this video I'm gonna be sharing with you how
I feel happy a majority of the time now when I learned meditation about five or
six years ago I would say that that was one of the biggest game changers that
happened in my life because in that moment and within two or three days of
deciding to do it that's when my life really began to change I began to
observe my thoughts rather than react now the things I'm going to share in
this video were things that I gave up and when I did it made my general state
of being go from about a solid 4 or a 5 out of 10 to about a solid 7 out of 10
now of course I still go through waves it's not like I'm always blissed-out but
the idea is that a lot of letting go of the negative stuff that doesn't serve us
is what helps us raise so that we feel better a majority of the time now the
first thing that we must give up in order to feel happy instantly is
attachment to our thoughts now let me say something to you that can be an
epiphany and it can absolutely transform your life if you really allow it to and
that is that you think thoughts but you are not your thoughts now this for me
was a game-changer because I realized in that moment that I did not have to
constantly react to my environment I realized that the only thing that is
really important is not the circumstances that are happening but
it's the way that I respond to the circumstances that are happening that
the only thing that really matters is my own state of being regardless of what is
happening now this means that once we become aware that we can think thoughts
but we are not our thoughts that we can neutralize our thoughts we can observe
our thoughts now let me ask you a question in this moment right now what
is the next that comes into your mind you see when
we do this when we put the attention on the next thought that comes to our mind
many times we've become actually more present to the moment we allow there to
be some space within and this is where the power is it's in the alertness it's
in that space in between the words now knowing that we do not have to be
attached to anything that we think gives us the ability to neutralize the meaning
as to things that happen now the way that you can use this in the
analogy I always use just because it's the easiest to understand is imagine
you're at a park at a park bench and you're watching people walk by you can
observe them walk by you don't have to label them you can but you just observe
them walk by and if you put a label on them then you let go of the label and
the idea is that in the same way we can do the same thing to our thoughts we can
allow our thoughts to be there we don't have to chase them just like if
someone's walking by us at the park we don't have to get up and walk by them
and chase them we could do the same with our thoughts just let them be there
allow them to be there the key is in the allowing not the controlling not to try
to block us off from all the negative energy allow it to be there and it will
naturally go away that was the game-changer because when I learned
meditation about two or three days into it I was feeling some result but I felt
like I was trying to control my mind and I was trying to shield myself from
negative thoughts the game-changer was when I let them be there I allowed them
to be there and then what happened is eventually the negative thoughts
subsided and eventually they went away the second thing that we must let go of
in order to feel happy instantly is letting go of blaming others now
understand that when we blame others what we do is we automatically give our
power away we say that our happiness is dependent upon what you are doing or
what you have done in the past now the key to let go of blaming others is to
forgive we can forgive ourselves and we can also forgive the other people you
know I went through a lot growing up I went through a lot with my ex stepmom
you know me and my brother a lot of times were locked outside for maybe nine
ten hours a day we were you know required to do yard work we weren't
allowed to eat very much so we were very malnourished and then when my dad
divorced her when I was 15 my dad firefighter so he was in the home very
often and she would kind of lie and say like this stuff wasn't happening you
know when he divorced her when I was about fifteen my brother was about 13 or
12 then all of a sudden we had all this freedom and even though we had this
freedom we enjoyed ourselves didn't we were allowed at friends because we'd
have any friends before we weren't allowed to really do many school
activities because we were always in trouble for something to be some stupid
thing and for years I had a resentment towards her and I felt I was like why
did this happen like why did all this happen and eventually what happened
though as I realized and I looked at her and I'm not a judgmental way but I
realized that she grew up the same way her dad was abusive towards her and
treated her the same way it had an anger problem just like she had an anger
problem and that's what she learned and that's why she treated me to my brother
the same way now didn't make it okay but what it did do is it allowed me to
understand there's a common saying I think it's from the book the 7 Habits of
Highly Effective People seek first to understand then to be understood I
understood where she was coming from because I realized it was a pattern that
she learned and that made it a lot easier for me to forgive her because
then I realized that she's just acting out of the unconscious mind she's just
being the way she thinks she has to be maybe she has a belief that she has to
control every situation and she asked that power over people in order to feel
good doesn't make it okay but it's something I came at peace with and by
not blaming her anymore I let go of all that negativity for years I felt that
negative negativity and once I did that it completely let it go now how can you
apply this in daily life well I was like one of my coaching clients was working
going through something because she got to an argument with someone at her job
and it happens I guess consistently and the key to this is knowing that that
person that may have lashed out towards you is coming at it from a certain point
of view but what we can learn to do is to forgive them with the awareness that
they always make decisions based on their own level of rationalization let
me say that one more time people will always make decisions based on their own
perspective their own rationalization and how they've made it okay inside
their own head now doing this makes it so much easier to forgive realize you
can forgive yourself or maybe react in a certain way and as you forgive yourself
everything begins to change now the third thing that you must let go
of in order to feel happiness instantly is attachment to memories of the past
now the key to this is always bringing the awareness back to the present moment
realize that the present moment is where the gift is the present moment is where
you really feel and are able to get out of the head and into the moment and into
your body really that's what it is and in order to do this what you do is
realize that the past was an experience you had and anytime you catch yourself
going back to the past what you can do is be grateful that you're catching
yourself and bring it back to the present moment what you could do for
this and the most powerful way to do it is to bring the awareness out of the
head and into the sense perceptions so this is where what you do is you put
these into your hands right now do that with me right now this little exercise
put the awareness into your hands and as you just you feel from that point of
view you feel the sensation your hands you don't even have to do this you can
but you could just go like this and you can kind of feel the energy in your
hands and as you do that as you put the awareness there you're automatically
bringing the awareness majority in the head and into the body and you'll feel
more spaciousness you'll feel more gap in between your thoughts when you do
that and as you do that what you do is you become more present to the moment
and then you are less identified with the past less identified with the future
so that's a very powerful thing to do realize that you are not the result of
your past you are who you choose to be in the present moment
this was another epiphany for me and when I coach people this is one of the
biggest game changers that people experience is realizing yes bad things
have happened in the past good things have happened in the past bad things may
happen in the future good things may happen in the future regardless of what
that is you are who you choose to be in the present moment and you can decide
how you respond to what is happening this is a mantra that you can always
apply any time you find yourself drifting off into the past or drifting
off into the probabilities of the future now this is something that I do and I
always realize I choose my state of being and having this awareness allows
us to take ourselves out of the past and put ourselves in to the present moment
now the fourth thing that we must let go of in order to feel happy
instantly is negative self-talk and complaining so this is kind of similar
to the first one but realize that anytime we are complaining we are buying
into something that we don't prefer to believe in anytime you catch yourself
venting to someone else at your job ask yourself the question do I prefer to
experience more of this because even though we think venting is a great thing
because we're letting it out yes it's better to express our emotions than to
bottle it up but be aware of how far you bottle it up just talk about it for
maybe so many seconds maybe 20 30 seconds and after that revert back and
shift your focus whatever we focus on will grow so the key to this is to not
focus on these things for so long to focus more on how we prefer to be and
this means observing those negative thoughts observing those complaining and
really allowing yourself to let go if you find yourself around people that are
always talking a certain way always bring you into a certain emotional state
of being decide that you're going to get away from them maybe in a compassionate
way you're gonna go do your own thing or you're going to limit the time that you
talk about certain things revert the subject I used to do that because I had
a sales commission job at Barneys New York and if it was slow we would kind of
all get together in circles and talk about how slow it was and talk about the
type of customers that were coming that day and that caused more negative
emotion more negative momentum and what I would do is I would either walk away
from that group or I would shift the conversation something I wanted to talk
about that was much more positive so you have the ability to choose what you
talked about what you think about what you focused on and catch yourself and
revert it back to the way you prefer to be now the fifth thing that you must let
go of in order to feel happy instantly is my favorite thing and the most
powerful thing that I think we could really let go of and that is a negative
self-image or negative beliefs now in order to do this the only thing we
really have to do is first off become aware of what our self-image is how do
we relate to other people do we view ourselves as an awkward person do we
view ourselves as somebody that can't really talk in social situations do we
view ourselves as somebody that you know is a victim of circumstance have
awareness of what your self-image is in the moment you become aware of what that
is is the moment you can actually change it because before it was on autopilot
running itself out in order to feel happy view yourself as a happy person
view yourself as having empowering beliefs rather than beliefs that limits
you this is where all the power is this is where I implore you to really go
within and ask yourselves the question what do I believe to be true about
myself what do I believe about Who I am and how I relate to the outer world as
you ask these questions you're getting deeper and deeper into the way that you
think realize we're always giving a reflection of what we believe to be true
and when we get to the core of what that is that's where everything begins to
change so I wanted to share that one with you I will link at the end of this
video some end cards that show understanding
about how to change our self-image and how when we do that everything changes
so that you can go deeper if you want to and that's really where the power is so
remember the five things that you can let go of include understanding that we
are not our thoughts we may think our thoughts but we that is not who we are
when we learn how to observe them that's where we take our power back we can know
that as we are able to let go of the memories of the past as we know that we
are not the result of our past we are who we choose to be in the present
moment we really start to feel more present we take the awareness out of the
head and into the body then we can also remember we can forgive the people that
have done bad things to us forgive the people that maybe we have resent before
we don't have to blame other people realize everybody makes choices based on
their own level of rationalization what we can do is knowing that we can at
least accept what they have done allow it to be there and know that it wasn't
something personable it's just something that they acted out because that's how
they thought they had to be and then what we do is we remember that we can
let go of any negative self-image let go of limiting beliefs by simply becoming
aware of what our self-image is and then deciding to let it go so with that being
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