Heya playa, is there someone that you like that you want to get closer to
over text or DM but you're not quite sure how to go about it?
The secret lies within creating a group chat with them.
I'm going to walk you through exactly how to do that, the pros and cons of a group chat,
and how to slide into their DMs to carry the conversation over there.
Messaging someone that you like can be kind of scary.
How do you keep that conversation going?
How do you maintain their interest?
How do you ensure that you're actually going to get a response back from them?
Sending that DM seems like a lot of work so what's an easy step you can take right now?
Starting a group chat.
There are a ton of different reasons why you'd create a group chat with your crush
but a few of the most common ones tend to be because you have mutual friends,
you both share similar interests, or you're in a class together.
Each of those scenarios creates an opportunity for you to not just invite your crush or your
crush's friends, some of your close friends, and other people that might fit into that category.
Once your crush joins they're gonna see a bunch of
other familiar faces in there as well and feel a little bit more comfortable
so make sure to add your crush in well after you've added a few others.
Also, make sure to add a title to that group chat
so that your crush and everyone else know what it's going to be all about.
Now there are some pros and cons to talking into your crush in a group chat.
One of the biggest pros is the fact that it's an open conversation.
You can join in, someone else can, your crush can say something, you can respond to them,
the fact that anyone can talk to anyone eliminates the idea
of this awkward silence of you asking something and getting no response.
It also gives you a chance to observe your crush and learn more about them.
Because you're not the person that's always facilitating conversations you can watch them
interact with other people, learn more about their hobbies and interests just by paying attention.
And the same can be said about your crush observing you.
This is your chance to put your confidence on full display.
Let them see that you're witty and you're funny and you're the person
that people turn to to ask for advice and to share things with.
Some of the cons you may face is that you
invite them to the group chat and they just never respond.
They're a part of it, they're reading messages, but they're not interacting with anyone.
You might also run into the pretty common challenge that a lot of people face with
group chats which is notification overload.
It's just non-stop pinging over and over.
Another big challenge you might actually...
Oh my god, how do I mute this group chat?
Or another common problem that's totally fixable,
I'm gonna explain how is that it's just not direct enough for you to talk to them.
Maybe you throw out a question here and there and they respond once or twice but you're not
really getting close enough to them so how do you go from the group chat into their DMs?
This is going to require a bit of strategy.
What you want to do is ask an open-ended question for your crush to answer.
I'm going to link up a free guide I put together over
here which is 20 icebreaker conversation starters.
Just pull one of those and throw it into your group chat.
Now if they don't respond directly, tag them and two other friends so it doesn't look like
you're singling them out and you're just asking a few different people for their perspective.
Hopefully, that's going to be the prompt that's going to get them to respond,
and when they do respond that's going to give you the invitation to carry
the conversation over in the DMs and to go deeper into the question and their answer.
In your initial DM to them, you might even want to say something like "I was really
curious to learn more about your answer but I didn't want to flood the group chat with
just the two of us talking so we could talk more about it here if you'd like."
This will help open up the doorway for you to have more one-on-one conversations with them
without it seeming weird like you just message them randomly out of nowhere.
Starting at the group chat,
building up the conversation there for a while in the interactions, and then moving over to
the DMs so you can have private conversations is probably the best and smoothest way to go.
I'm curious though are you currently in any group chats with your crush?
Leave your comments down below and let me know.
Now you might be thinking once I'm in their DMs how do I keep that conversation going?
I'd recommend checking out the video over there on the screen now where I walk you
through exactly what you can say and do to have a fulfilling conversation over DM with them.
Also check out my icebreaker guide there on the screen now,
both of those resources are going to help you out tremendously.
On that note, I'll catch you next time.
As always, love and peace.