- Signs that each of the 16 personalities,
they're not into you.
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Welcome back to the Koffee Korner.
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But seriously folks, sometimes there might be
someone that you are interested in
and you're not sure do they like me back.
So listen in for all of these signs
because they could apply to anyone
but for each particular type, I think this is the one sign
that it's like, if you see that, it's final.
They're not into you.
ESTJs, if they're not into you,
well, they're probably the type most likely to just say
"I'm not into you," but that's not really a sign now, is it?
That's just them saying, "I don't like you."
So a sign that an ESTJ doesn't like you,
they're not into you,
is that they don't offer to help you with something.
ESTJs just love to get into other people's business
because to them it's not meddling.
To them, it is I'm helping you achieve
what you're trying to do.
I'm helping you check your to-do list off.
ISTJs basically for an ISTJ,
if the communication is all about work,
or if it's all about accomplishing something
or if it's all about some kind of exterior thing,
it's not really about you,
it's not really about them, they're not into you.
At that point, they're really just communicating with you
because they just need to bounce an idea off someone
and you happen to be there,
because if an ISTJ were into you
they would be like really focused in on you
and want to talk to you about all kinds of stuff,
not just random task they gotta do.
So sorry, when your neighbor comes over and says
"can you help me change the oil on my chainsaw?"
They're not into you.
If an ESTP isn't into you, they won't open up to you at all.
Now, I know what you're thinking.
You're like Frank ESTPs don't really seem like
the kind of type to open up to you,
but here's the thing.
Here's my logic when it comes to this,
is that ESTPs like to talk about themselves.
They like to brag.
I mean, look, everyone likes to talk about themselves
to a degree, but ESTPS they're just like
"look at how great I am.
Look at all this stuff I did.
Isn't that cool?"
And if they like you,
they're gonna try to show off by talking about themselves
and all the cool stuff that they did,
but also if they like you, they're gonna use that
as an opportunity to kind of open up a little bit.
Now it's not the opening up that, you know
maybe an INFP would do,
where they're just like bearing their soul to you.
ESTPs are very calculated.
They're cool and calculated
and they know, like they're very smart.
They they've got this baby INFJ in their brain.
That's like, "Hey, I can make this person like me more
if I just say something about me
that sounds like I'm opening up.
So here I am talking about all the cool stuff I did
and maybe I'll just say some kind of like,
'oh it made me feel like this'
and now they like me more"
but that's only if they're into you
and this video is about, if they're not into you.
ISTPs, if they are not into you,
they'll suddenly have a lot of conflicts.
They'll have a lot of reasons
why they can't hang out with you
or be at wherever you're gonna be.
The thing about ISTPs is that,
they're pretty good at going with the flow.
So if they were really into you,
if they liked you, they would drop whatever.
They don't have a strict plan they're going by.
Sure, they are like Hermits in a sense
where they like to stay at home and not be bothered,
but they're also the kind of people
who can just jump into whatever activity.
They don't mind rearranging their schedule.
So if you're trying to make plans with them
and they're like, "nah, you know
I got so much stuff in my schedule.
I can't move it around.
I got, I got a manicure, mani pedi, I got..."
That's not a good sign.
ESFPs, if they aint into you,
you're gonna have to reach out to them
anytime you wanna establish contact.
They are not gonna reach out to you first.
If they like you
they're going to make sure their presence is known.
Even if it's not saying much,
even if it's not starting much of a conversation,
because ESFPs, conversation isn't always their strong suit,
but they will, they will make an effort.
They will say, "hey, I'm here."
They'll do something to say,
"Hey, look at me, spotlight on me."
So if you have to constantly reach out to them,
it's not a good sign with anyone really.
You know, there are types where it's like
even if they really like you, they won't contact you.
ESFPs, not one of those types.
ISFPs this one is brutal.
If they're not into you,
you will feel as though you don't exist to them.
It's not just like they won't talk to you,
it's like they won't look in your direction.
They will look through you, perhaps.
You'll be in a group with them, like a small group
and it's like, "did they realize I was here?"
Did I put on my invisibility cloak
that only works for Jimmy or whoever the ISFP is,
in this scenario.
ISFPs have a hard time faking it.
This particular scenario is especially true
if they are getting the sense that you like them
and they don't want that to go anywhere, they can't fake it
and they're gonna be like shutting off everything.
If they liked you, they would put themselves
in opportunities where they appeared open for you at least
to start talking to them,
but ISFPs when they're not into you
will avoid any possibility of you talking to them.
ESFJs, if they are not into you, they're not gonna laugh
at anything you say.
ESFJs, like to laugh. Everyone likes to laugh.
FJ types though will laugh, even when something isn't funny
because it's like, "hey we're just trying to
do what's socially appropriate."
ESFJs especially will be the ones to like,
"Hey, yay. We're having fun.
You're telling jokes.
Oh haha. That's so silly.
That's crazy. Dude, you were like so funny."
Even if they're not very funny.
So if you're telling jokes around an ESFJ
and they ain't laughing,
they have probably picked up on, oh man
this person likes me
and I don't wanna give 'em any signals that I like them.
So I am not laughing.
I don't care if they told the funniest joke ever.
I don't care if they are,
I'm trying to think of a comedian.
I can't...
ISFJ is if they're not into you
they're gonna do something very uncharacteristic.
They're gonna bail on plans at the last second
and this is a big sign
because ISFJs tend to not bail on stuff
even if they really don't want to go.
They won't just bail for no reason,
but they'll look for someone else who they could help.
They're like, "oh sorry, I can't hang out with you,
because my grandma needs me to cleaner garage"
Re-prioritizing. That's what it is.
They're taking the hanging out with you
and they're like, actually that's a lower priority
than me doing this other thing,
helping this other person, whatever.
This is a sign that they're not into you.
ENTJs. If they're not into you, guess what?
They're not gonna ask you any questions.
ENTJs ask questions all the time.
All the EJ types really will ask a lot of questions.
They might not even care about the answer.
They just like asking questions and if they like you,
they'll find a way to ask a bunch of questions.
They might not even be very good questions.
It's just like, pointless.
Why are you asking me this?
But that's one of their favorite ways to communicate.
So if you've got an ENTJ around you
and they're not asking you anything, that's a bad sign.
That means they're purposefully trying to avoid
interacting with you
and they will ask questions of people
who they don't even really like.
ENFJs, if they're not into you
they're not gonna be matching your energy
and this goes for in person or in text.
ENFJs especially,
they mirror without even realizing it all the time
and ENFJs tend to match your energy and then double it.
So if you go up to an ENFJ and you're like,
"yeah, hey, so good to see you."
And they're like, "oh yeah, hi."
Not a good sign, but Frank, you might be saying
in your video about how, signs that the types are into you
that you said that ENFJS will act super cool
and like, they don't care about you.
Here's the difference is that when an ENFJ is into you
and they're playing it cool,
they're still gonna find a way to continue to be around you
and somehow keep that interaction going.
If they don't like you,
if they're not into you
they're trying to kill the energy as fast as possible.
ENTPs is kind of a similar thing,
but what you're looking for is brevity.
Though with the ENFJ, you're looking at the energy
and the emotion, with the ENTP,
you're looking for like the amount of information
that they are putting out there.
ENTPs, if you didn't know,
they like to talk about ideas.
They like to get into deep discussions about things.
It gets to the point where a lot of times
in conversations with ENTPs, I'm like, "can I go home now?
Like has been going on for a while."
Then they're like, "Frank, you are home
and I am a figment of your imagination."
Frank, this video just went off the rails.
ENTPs can't help, but want to elaborate on things.
They can't help, but want to dig deeper
into things that you're talking about.
So when they're not into you, they don't care.
They're not trying.
They're just like, "okay, cool.
I gotta go do something goodbye."
So watch out for the brevity.
If an ENTP is ever like succinct, not a good sign
for your chances with them romantically.
An ENFP, here's an interesting one
and this one could apply, like at any point
even when your two, three, four dates in.
For an ENFP, who is not into you,
the way they feel about you will change constantly.
Now I know what you're saying.
You're like "Frank aren't ENFPs
just kind of naturally all over the place."
Yes, but not with their feelings.
ENFPs, yeah. They like to experiment.
They like to do different things.
They like to be spontaneous,
but when it comes to relationships,
when it comes to how they feel about things
that's not a quick moving ship.
All right, that takes a while to actually turn around.
Like when an ENFP is into you,
they might be like doing a bunch of crazy stuff
on the surface, but you'll know like from day to day,
they feel the same way about you
or if they hate you.
They will hate you consistently.
INTPs, here's an interesting one.
If they're not into you,
they will not respond to your texts.
Now with INTPs, they don't respond
to a lot of people's texts, but if they like you
they for sure are gonna respond four shizzle.
It might not be immediately.
I think sometimes INTPs like freak themselves out
and they overthink, but they will eventually ping you back
if they're into you,
especially if you're kind of making it obvious
that you're into them and they don't respond
and you've gotta kind of like track them down in person
and be like, "hey, why'd you ever respond to my text?"
You don't really need to ask
because I'm here to tell you they're not into you.
So yeah, INTPs, they are absent minded
but I think they are much more likely to respond to you
at some point, if they're into you
and I think there are other types, like, I don't know.
I think for instance, like an ESTP
is likely to kind of just forget to respond to you.
Even maybe an INTJ could just somehow like,
"oh, I like didn't see the message."
Speaking of INJs, a sign that they're not into you
is that they're like distracted a lot.
Especially if they're on their phone a lot.
You're hanging out with them, you're around them,
and they're just like not talking to you
and they're instead focused here.
It's clear that they got bigger fish to fry
and it's frying here on the phone.
Obviously, you know, it's not a good sign,
if anyone of any type is looking at their phone
when they're with you,
but there are some types that just like do a lot of stuff
at the same time.
Like if you're with an ESFP and they really like you
they still might be on their phone a lot
but they'll be able to manage it.
They're good at going from one thing to the next
and being like, "okay, done with that.
I'm looking back at you.
Okay, the phone."
But with an INTJ, it's hard to switch
from one thing to the next.
They're either here or they're there.
They can't go back and forth.
If they're looking at their phone, they don't,
they don't even wanna mess with you.
That's sounded really mean,
but that's what we're like in the Koffee Korner.
You can tell we're mean, 'cause we spell it with two K's.
'Cause we're gonna KO and you suckers up in here.
Similarly with an INFP, the sign that they're not into you,
is that they're not listening.
Now, this is even without the phone in the hand thing,
INFPs are really good listeners.
So if you're in a conversation with them,
they're looking at you, they seem engaged
but they're like not retaining anything.
Like when you talk to them later,
they're pretending like they were listening,
but they weren't.
This is especially notable for INFPs,
because they tend not to fake stuff like this
very much.
INFJs, yes. INFJs fake listening all the time.
INFPs feel a bit more of a responsibility
to really get into the depths of everything
that you're saying.
Like they can make a real connection with you,
like a real authentic connection,
but if they're not into you,
obviously they don't care about that
and some INFPs will be rude enough
to just not even pretend to listen,
but I think a lot of them will be nice enough to be like,
"okay, yeah, I'll listen."
INFJs, if an INFJ is not into you,
here's what's gonna happen.
They are going to be very deliberate
about never talking about the future
in any way that involves you.
INFJs are very aware about the impact
that words have on other people.
They can look ahead and be like, "if I say this sentence
this person is going to react emotionally this way
and think it means this other thing
and that means this other thing will happen."
The INFJ knows that's going to give the impression
that I am into this person and that I want to be with them
in the future.
Now, of course, there are some situations
where you can't avoid talking about the future,
but if you are paying attention and you're like
this INFJ is weirdly not even using like the future tense
in his sentences, not a good sign player.
In a way they're doing it
because they don't wanna be disrespectful.
They don't wanna lead you on,
but they also don't wanna just come right out and say it.
They're hoping that maybe you will just get tired and leave.
It's why it's important to be aware of that sign
as well as the 15 others on this list.
Thanks for watching until next time,
stay cool and attractive.
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