Do you remember the coffee shop that we used to go to after school?
Yeah.
Wait!
What?
You're doing the stim. we're we're stimming together!
Yeah I guess you're right.
I love you!
10 out of 10, 10 out of 10.
One of my besties.
Think of something you're really good at.
Anything. You got it?
Well then why do you suck at golf so much?
If you just tried a little harder, you could be good at golf too!
You hear how fucking stupid that sounded?
That's what it sounds like when you say to a neurodivergent person,
'Well you seem to be able to function just fine on your special interests. I'm sure if you just tried a little bit harder you could focus just fine on this completely unrelated other thing that requires an entirely separate set of skills.'
Being able to focus or function on one thing does not mean you can just try a little bit harder and focus and function well in a different category too.
They're different things.
I know a lot of people mean well when they say this and they're trying to comfort us but, just just stop doing that please.
Appreciate it. Thank you.
This is just a reminder that impulse purchases can be an indicator of hyperactivity in adults with ADHD.
Isn't that right terry the 70-inch pterodactyl?
YeS
I can't get out of bed today.
I want to get off the couch so bad.
I can't stop eating.
Just one more game, please?
We have all been there. You ever wonder why?
This is uncommonly referred to as Dopamine Reward Prediction Error.
Yeah those four words.
And what ends up happening to us in these moments is that we are looking for a reward.
We're looking for the reason to get up, the reason to feel motivated, the reason to feel strong.
What we don't realize is we are satisfying that urge while we are staying down.
While we are getting a reward from the journey not from the outcome, what a lot of us don't realize is you're never just sitting there on the bed are you?
No, you're flipping through TikTok, you're watching tv, you're getting your dopamine.
When you're playing games you want one more round, you get your dopamine.
When you're eating and you want your 38th chicken finger in a row you're getting your dopamine.
So when we're like 'Do I get dopamine if I get up?'
Maybe, but if you get it staying down you 100% have it at all times.
Understand this, put the dopamine away, take a break.
*siiigh*
What's wrong?
Nothing...
Are you thinking about it again?
noooo
Are you sure?
It's just that some people always know where their phone is.
Sorry, can you hang on just one second?
Yeah, that's fine.
Can you hear me?
Oh my gosh, You've been on mute this whole time.
Yeah, you asked me if I could hold.
I told you to hold? Why? What was I doing? How long were you waiting?
Like five minutes.
Five minutes? Like I was talking to myself for five minutes?
I mean it is you so... sounds right.
But I was doing so for so long without anybody responding as if that's totally normal.
Also at this point I forgot what I was even talking about so...
Hey um, here's a list of things that I want to do today.
Oh cool yeah let me see.
You can pick one.
You didn't even look at it.
Yeah no I, I didn't need to. You can pick one.
No I'm fairly certain if I manage my time correctly, I can in fact do all the things that are on the list.
Ah, is that...
You wouldn't be... you wouldn't be giving me attitude would you that's not...
No, you know what actually just
hahhaaaaa
Just that you can uh, you're not doing any of them
no that's
zilch, nada
No that's fine.
That's okay. Rest day, self care day.
Uh, bubble bath, crank up the Harry Styles sounds good.
Haha, false.
You will not be resting.
Youuuu will not be resting.
Instead you'll be sitting there and panicking *all day long* about all these things you should be doing.
You really should be doing them, but you will not be. You will be sitting there panicking instead.
This seems nonsensical.
OKAY
If you or someone in your life has ADHD you need to hear this.
We're not fidgeting because we're not paying attention.
We're fidgeting so that we CAN pay attention.
Now say that to yourself, internalize it, and have a great day.
Ya know, I've been thinking about how a lot of the really shitty parts about ADHD aren't directly from ADHD.
People with adds working memory sucks so we forget stuff all the time.
Now that is immediately detrimental. It sucks to forget stuff. It's very inconvenient.
But perhaps even more detrimental than that is because we know we forget stuff all the time, we constantly just assume that we are forgetting something.
It's just a matter of how important that thing is.
And that brings a lot of anxiety!
Ao it honestly feels like the actual symptoms of ADHD is just like one part of what a person with ADHD is actually going through at any given time.
And that's something I would really like people without ADHD to understand.
Hey, go drink some water!