Hey guys,
with few high value
options in the modern dating world
and a lot of competition for them
is staying single the best option for you?
My answer might surprise you.
Because the reality is
the reason why so many men
are choosing to stay single nowadays
simply makes sense.
Not just logical sense
but dollars and cents,
saved money, saved energy,
and saved heartache.
And the truth is
some men do think
that a loving relationship with a good woman
will solve all their problems,
not true.
But here's the thing,
whether you want to stay single
or if you do want to pursue a relationship
the steps you go to find fulfillment
or and or a relationship
are going to be the same.
Because a woman by your side
is not the answer you're looking for.
And what you are looking for
is something I've actually
never discussed in a video yet.
Welcome to just the tip Tuesday.
So, I've talked about why men choose
to stay single in other videos
and I'll link some of those at the end
but to sum up
many modern women
are rewarded by society
for their bad behavior.
Act like entitled selfish princesses,
are high maintenance but low reward,
lack any sense of accountability,
and a lot are feminists
but not feminine.
The worst part is
they're all delusional
about their true
relationship market value.
Of course, the real true keepers out there
they're hard to find rare
and even harder to get.
There's a lot of competition for them.
It's no wonder men are choosing to stay single
but is staying single
the best option for you?
So, let's look at that
and then I'm going to share with you
the secret to true happiness
whether or not
you choose to stay single
whether or not you choose to
look for a relationship.
So, staying single is the best option for you
if you never feel lonely,
you don't long for non-sexual intimacy,
you enjoy a solid group of true friends
or even one or two.
You feel a general sense of fulfillment in life,
you don't feel the need to start a family,
or you're deeply bitter
about women's true nature.
The more of these you feel
the less of these you need a relationship
or should even have a relationship
especially feeling bitter about women's nature.
Women's nature is not going to change
so if you feel that way you're best to bow out.
Because you're not going to get a keeper,
you're going to get the throwbacks
and that's only going to confirm
your biases about all women
instead of it being about most women now.
Now, as I mentioned a lot of guys think
that a loving relationship with a good woman
is going to solve all their problems.
That's actually not true,
but having a loving relationship
with a good woman who's by your side
does make life easier
especially through the difficult parts
and there's always going to be difficult parts.
But the key point is
a good woman but again, either way,
whether you want to go through the effort
of finding a woman, a good woman,
or if you want to choose to stay single
but be happy being single.
The steps to true happiness and fulfillment
in a relationship
or to find a relationship
or to stay single
are the same.
So, the secret to happiness.
Well, the first thing you need to accept is that
the secret to finding happiness in life,
true fulfillment
starts with yourself.
You're 100% responsible
for finding the happiness you desire.
Accepting that fact
may sometimes feel
overwhelming or disheartening
but it's actually empowering
because you can only control
the things you can control.
And here's the part where I haven't shared anywhere else.
So, the secret to finding
and attracting a woman
if that's what you want to do
or to staying single
and feeling happy and fulfilled
if that's what you want to do
is to trigger your own fulfillment hormones.
Uh, what?
Don't worry it's not going to be too complicated
it's going to be pretty simple in fact.
So, what do I mean by fulfillment hormones.
Well, essentially our body produces
a bunch of different hormones
and they affect our physiology, our body
and the effect our psychology
our mental state.
But essentially physiology and psychology
are going to be the factors
that determine how happy
and fulfilled we are in life
and they also happen to influence
how attractive we are
to the opposite sex.
So, from what I've studied
and come to the conclusion of
there are about five hormones
that will help you
become your most attractive self
if you're looking for a mate
and give you the most fulfillment in life
if you're not looking for a mate
and those are serotonin,
dopamine, testosterone, adrenaline,
and oxytocin.
Let's look at them.
Serotonin helps you feel
calm and content.
Actually serotonin is released
when you do feel calm or content,
which can happen when you're
looking at a sunrise or a sunset.
Dopamine is active in
motivation and reward.
So, you get a hit of dopamine
when you feel like you've accomplished something
but dopamine also helps you move
towards accomplishing something worthwhile.
So, like setting a goal
and taking action toward it.
Testosterone contributes to all sorts of functions
that include mood
and muscle strength and density
and making sure
you have proper sexual function
in the *** regions.
Now, there are a number of natural ways
to increase testosterone,
it might be by
being around attractive woman if that's what you want,
it might be by
engaging in a competitive sport,
it might be by working out it,
might be by getting checked
and making sure you're actually in balance.
And I'll put a link for
a company that will send you a kit
so you can get checked from home
if you're in the United States.
So, adrenaline
that might be a surprise for some of you
because adrenaline usually happens
when we're scared.
It's like the fight-or-flight hormone.
It releases cortisol
so that we can run away from bears.
You shouldn't run away from bears because they will chase you.
But anyway, it's the hormone that
a lot of times you don't think
you really want to feel.
But if you practice intentionally
triggering a little bit of adrenaline
then it actually helps you manage stress
when it does come up
so that you're not in chronic stress
and that can be done by high intensity,
interval training,
it can be done by cold plunge.
Don't do anything without talking to your doctor
especially if you have health conditions,
but adrenaline will give you
that roller coaster feeling
and help you manage stress better.
When you manage stress better,
you manage life better,
that makes you feel better,
that makes you more attractive.
And oxytocin
is the bonding hormone most associate with
being in romantic love
or being intimate in romantic love,
but you can also
release oxytocin by petting a puppy
or having a puppy.
So, for all you guys who are like
forget it I am getting a dog
that might be the best thing you do.
Side note, puppies are chick magnets
you know, you know little yeah, anyway.
So, anyways that's the irony.
Is that doing all of these things
or doing things that
trigger all of these different hormones
are going to make you feel better in life
and automatically
that's going to make you more attractive
to the kind of woman
you actually want to be with
if you want to be with one.
So, is taying single
the best option for you?
Well, only you can decide that.
But if you think you want to
do some things differently
maybe tapping into some of these hormones
by taking certain specific actions
so that you can have a more fulfilling life
regardless of a woman
then you might want to check out
my WakeUp2Luv program.
Now it is set up to
help you get a girlfriend
but there are other modules
that will help you determine
what you can do in your life
to improve it in the areas
that would be most meaningful for you
regardless of a woman.
And if you're not sure
if you should get your testosterone checked
then you might want to check out my video on that.
Thanks for being here, God bless.
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