Hey everybody today
We're going to talk about ways to deal with online hate and bullying and I have seven tips to get you through it
Unfortunately there is some Magic pill
I can give you or a shot or a tip or a thing to make you bully proof. There's always going to be haters
They may mean people online who are going to spout
hateful comments
And things towards you and try to bully you
But the one thing I want you to take into consideration while I'm offering up these [seven] tips is that
Bullying and hate in general says more about the person doing it than it does about you
and I always try to keep that in mind because
Consider, how bad you'd have to feel to be spouting hate to someone else that you probably don't even know in your life
Imagine how shitty their life is and how bad they probably feel?
Sometimes that just makes me feel a little bit better when dealing with haters and the first tip and my personal go-to
Is don't pet it?
And I like that term because I like to think [of] haters and bullies as like rabid dogs online where if you say anything back?
You comment back even if you're just trying to like appease or like defuse a situation
You don't know what you're going to get they might bite you they might throw something back?
And I find if we try to talk back to them or argue back
we're just giving them more fuel to use to throw more hate back at us and so I always my go-to is just don't pet
It and my second tip and this one's going to make you laugh. Make me laugh when I wrote it, but it's so so true
you can be overly witty and outsmart them or
Completely confuse them so let's say that you really just cannot because I know some people cannot take the don't pet it route
They're like no
I have to say something [this] is so offensive or this is so rude or how dare they even try to do that I have
to say something back you [can] come up with an extremely witty or
Smart comment that they probably won't understand reference something that may confuse them and my personal favorite that I've actually
Done in the past back in the day when we had like aol messenger and chat rooms and I was like
13 playing around with my friend Katie on them we've all been there
I know we used to when someone was really rude or mean
We'd talk back to them in a made-up language or even better like russian like we pick a random language
And we translate it on google, and you pop it in there, [then] they have no idea. What's happening?
They don't know how to respond to you
and I find it really funny and sometimes it just helps to turn a
Nasty horrible situation into something that can make you laugh am I right and my third piece [of] advice is block them
There are so many ways to block people. I know people create other accounts trust me
I deal with that all the time, but there are still so many ways to block people you can even filter
Comments if you have a youtube page you can go into the [comment] section and add words that you want to be filtered out
There are so many ways that we can make our spaces safe and happy and healthy trust me
I've been doing it for five and a [half] years online and
I've never regretted blocking someone and my fourth tip is
Tell someone about it whether that be a friend or a family member just to vet or professional so you can talk about?
What's happening?
and how it made you feel make sure you're talking about it and the especially if this is happening online if it is happening on any of
The little areas that I manage especially what's happening on my site. Let me know talk to [me] about it
Tell Carly tell Ally tell some of our moderators about what's going on because I
Do not [hesitate] to block people who are misusing my platforms the use of my website is a privilege
It's not a right
And I try to keep all of my communities very safe and happy and healthy and if someone can't abide by those rules
Then I have no problem
blocking them so tell us somebody about it so we can do something and my fifth tip and this one's going to sound kind of
[weird] but keep records if someone is bullying you over and over and over again making other
Accounts finding other ways to bully you using other platforms to get to you using different username
whatever it may be
Keep all of those records if anything ever happens if they escalate it to another level you're going to want all [of] those records
When you go to the authorities to tell them about it because things can be done
Bullies can be brought to justice [this] does happen and there are so many ways for you to keep records whether it be through
Facebook or Twitter or even text make sure that if something like that's happening
You're keeping the records just in case just to keep you safe
[so] that you know you're protected and my 6th [tip] is
To spend time [with] loving friends and family you know those people in your real life that aren't online
Bullying you make sure you spend time with them
Nothing can feel better than a hug from someone who really loves and cares about you
So make sure we're making time for those relationships and making time for people in our lives who are positive
That way we can kind of balance the good and the bad and hopefully outweigh
with some good with some happy wonderful relationships instead of focusing on those negative ones that are happening online and
My seventh and final tip is do some positive self-talk
[I] know
I say that all the [time], but it goes a long way
Especially if all you're reading online right now because sometimes for some reason those negative comments get stuck in our head
And we think about them, and we we can almost recite them verbatim even though we've deleted them
It's important that we change that that we start by saying good [things] to ourselves
[writing] down some things [we're] grateful for some things
We did well this week write those things down and say them to yourself and repeat them to yourself until those
Cancel out and like shut down all that nasty negative stuff that we've been picking up from that bully or that hater I?
Hope you found these helpful
I know a lot of us struggle with this the online world is wonderful
but it also comes with kind of a dark side too where people have the ability to hide an anonymity behind a screen and
bully us but know that you don't have to deal with it. You don't have to pet it
You can block it and you can surround yourself with positive supportive people who love you
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