hey everyone and welcome to top think today we're going to learn about the 60 second rule to attract
anyone now let's begin how long does attraction take a couple of days a few hours a handful of
minutes can a romantic spark appear almost instantly within seconds of meeting someone
well dozens of studies have answered this exact question one published in 2007 by the
journal personal relationships examined whether attraction can develop in less than 10 minutes
and to test this theory participants went on a number of speed dates speed date lasts anywhere
from five to ten minutes long they force people to make quick romantic decisions am i attracted
to this person do I think they're funny when I go out with them again when your date only lasts to
five to ten minutes your mind has to work quickly right but the big question is can you develop
romantic feelings in less than 10 minutes is that enough time to know whether you're truly attracted
to someone this study says yes they found that speed daters were attracted to specific people
within just five minutes of meeting them but what if attraction develops even faster than that a
study from the University of Pennsylvania claims that five minutes is too long this study examined
over 10,000 participants and just like before they placed each participant in a speed-dating scenario
Bob but this time researchers measured the speed of attraction down to the second using behavioral
shifts and social cues researchers focused on the exact moment when someone experienced romantic
attraction so how long did it take less than 60 seconds a 2010 neuroimaging study published in
the Journal of Sexual Medicine found the same astonishing results it turns out your brain
essentially falls in love within 60 seconds of meeting someone that you find attractive
so how does this 60 second window effect your chances of finding romance what can you do to win
someone over in such a brief period of time now sixty seconds may not seem like much by the time
you've introduced yourself and had a bit of small talk those 60 seconds have flown by so how could
you possibly create chemistry in that short period of time these discoveries tell us that attraction
isn't based on the things you say it doesn't really matter how you introduce yourself or
what subjects you cover in those first 60 seconds attraction stems from someone's impression of you
that includes your personality your attitude and of course your appearance so if you only have
60 seconds how do you make the most attractive impression how can you create romantic feelings
in less than a minute number one immediate confidence you've probably heard this a thousand
times confidence is key but why is confidence so important to romantic attraction and when
does confidence matter most because we make up our minds in less than 60 seconds your confidence is
most important right at the beginning a calm self-assured introduction leaves a lasting
impression of cool-headed confidence but everyone knows the beginning is the most nerve-wracking
part approaching a stranger is one of the most difficult things to do especially for someone
who's inexperienced but the first 60 seconds really count all you have to do is believe in
yourself for that one brief minute if you can do that you'll almost always make a better impression
and appear significantly more attractive number 2 light-hearted optimism when you meet someone
for the very first time things may get awkward and they almost always do but a little optimism
can turn that awkwardness into a smile or a laugh the key here is this don't take yourself or the
situations so seriously relieve the pressure relax and just have a good time remember the goal is to
connect with someone in a fun light-hearted way you want to make each other smile you want to see
if you to have the playful spark that creates romantic chemistry so maintain your optimism
no matter what happens if there's a moment of silence hey don't worry don't beat yourself up
over it instead enjoy yourself have a sense of humor and keep the conversation light if you're
having a good time there's a good chance they are two number three slowing down nerves are natural
on a first date but they aren't very attractive in a potential partner it's okay to feel those
butterflies in your stomach just be aware of how your nerves affect your voice your tone and your
body language for example many people speed up their speech when they get nervous they rush
through sentences use too many filler words and forget what they're talking about if this sounds
familiar the solutions simple slow down remind yourself there's no need to rush men and women
who take their time when speaking clearly and confidently make better romantic impressions
number four physical maintenance do you take care of yourself personal hygiene is one of the first
things that people notice about you if you're not paying attention to your bad breath or body odor
it may ruin your chances of attracting someone you like many people guys especially pay special
attention to their personal hygiene only before a dates 99% of the time personal hygiene flies out
the window but there's an obvious difference between someone who regularly maintains their
appearance and someone who crams it in at the last second so spend a little bit of time each
day maintaining your smell your hair your teeth and your skin because as little as 15 minutes
a day could make all the difference number five attractive body language in the first 60 seconds
body language speaks louder than words you just think about it when you first meet someone the
content of your conversation is pretty textbook right there isn't a whole lot of time to get to
know each other you don't know each other's jobs or passions or hobbies yet attraction develops
in those first 60 seconds and body language is a big reason why without realizing it we draw
conclusions about people's personalities based on their body language if for example if you see
someone fidgeting you may assume they're Restless nervous or simply don't want to be there the same
can be said about confident body language when someone sits upright makes eye contact and smiles
regularly we associate that physical positivity with their personality and those personality
traits make them more attractive right off the bat number six willingness to initiate this one
is geared more toward men than women on average women prefer men who take the initiative and maybe
you go out of your way to introduce yourself or introduce a topic to get the conversation rolling
each time you take the initiative you're showing potential partners a confident and assertive side
of you you know what you want and you make an effort to get it to a potential partner this
is an incredibly desirable trait number seven natural kindness now I'm sure you've heard the
phrase nice guys finish last many people hear this and assume that kindness doesn't do you
any favors but kindness and altruism are two of the most attractive traits for men and women you
can demonstrate these traits in all kinds of ways even in the first 60 seconds now you don't have to
make some dramatic gesture to show that you're a nice person just be considerate because it's the
little things that matter most for example holding a door for someone tells a potential partner that
you're kind and have good manners when leaving a first impression kindness is never wasted not
only is it a nice thing to do it's also a very attractive quality number eight visible effort
how much effort do you put into your appearance do you comb your hair do you wear clothes that
flatter your body almost all partners pay attention to the effort you put into your
appearance if you spend just a little time finding the right outfit it makes a significantly better
impression on the people you meet it shows off your looks and it tells potential partners that
you care but you don't have to spend hours picking out clothes or combing your hair just right if you
invest a little effort into your appearance that effort will go a long long way number
nine physical activity men and women are more attracted to athletic body shapes well that's no
surprise when you first meet someone you can tell almost immediately how active they are women in
particular prefer their partners are more muscular and athletic shape makes men seem stronger more
confident and more but don't worry if you're not the most muscular person in the room you don't
have to be a bodybuilder to attract someone's attention in fact studies have found that too
much muscle works against you instead potential partners want you to care about your physical
health if you make an effort to stay in shape that alone can grab someone's eye number 10 act like
yourself this final trait is more attractive than any of the others on this list potential partners
above all want you to act like yourself be genuine they want you to behave in a way that's true to
who you are because that's when you're the most confident that's when you're the funniest and
that's when you demonstrate passion intelligence and curiosity so many people treat attraction
like a game they play and to some degree it is but the most attractive quality about you isn't
your sense of humor confidence or body shape it's your sense of self it's who you are even in the
first 60 seconds if you're honest with who you are from the get-go you're bound to attract someone
who not only appreciates your individuality but also finds you irresistible hey thank you
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