so you broke up with your ex and you're
heartbroken you're struggling to figure
out where it all went wrong
and you're thinking about what you can
do to reverse your mistakes and just as
you feel like you formulated a plan you
see something on social media that makes
your heart sink like a rock you find out
that your ex is seeing someone else
and of course all of a sudden
overwhelming feelings of sadness and
pain consume you and you think that
there's nothing that you can do at this
point and of course you are at this
point probably feeling you know more
panicked than ever all you really want
to do is just write your ex an email or
a text something that will convince them
that they're making a big mistake and
that leaving what you had behind would
be a massive loss but hold up before you
pick up your phone and write that
message or novel to your ex just play it
cool I mean if you've been watching any
my other videos then you must already
know that this is absolutely the last
thing that you want to do sure you've
probably heard about my no contact
period and how you need to to make your
ex return to a an emotional neutral
state but none of that advice really
feels like it's helping you right now
does it
no you just really want something
anything that will help alleviate the
emotional distress you're feeling right
now so how do you get over this
incredible pain how do you move on and
what are your next immediate steps to
get your ex back into your arms well in
this video I'm gonna try and answer all
of those very difficult questions how's
it going everyone I am Brad browning of
course I'm YouTube's number-one breakup
and marriage expert I've helped
thousands of couples find love again and
you can bet that I'll be able to help
you in your specific situation now the
experience I just talked about at the
beginning of this video is one that I've
heard thousands and thousands of times
and I really do know how hard it can be
but I also know that everyone thinks
that their situation is unique and
special but most of the time it really
isn't so even if you think that the
following advice that I'm about to share
doesn't really apply to you trust me
that many of the core principles
actually will in fact the number one
reason why people don't get their ex
back after reading my advice is because
they cave and end up not following what
I teach so let me just stress that again
the number one reason people don't get
their ex back under my coaching
supervision is because they simply don't
follow my advice to a tee now I know
every single fiber in your body right
now is telling you to call your ex text
your ex and big
for him or her to come back but trust me
when I say that if you do this your
chances of getting your ex back are
gonna fall to almost zero so instead of
panicking you know just do your best to
relax think rationally and follow what
I'm about to tell you now in order to
get your ex back we really need to stick
to to the science and the psychological
research hysterics begging and pleading
are not gonna work and as fact as far as
I know this kind of erratic behavior has
just never worked for any of my clients
so what we need to do instead is build
the type of Attraction that forces your
ex to to want you desire you and really
become obsessed with you again you're
never ever gonna go to pity your ex into
wanting you back and furthermore if he
or she's seeing someone else
there's almost nothing that you can do
or say that's gonna make them change
their mind about being with you again at
least not right now okay so if you've
just broken up with your ex and they're
already dating somebody else then
they're in what you call a rebound
relationship but don't worry and before
we get into it I just want to tell you a
few things that you need to know about
rebound relationships before we move
forward first rebound relationships
don't typically last for the long term
secondly rebounds are often very short
and third rebound relationships are
really all about passion and that last
one is a really big one because you know
right now your ex just found someone to
temporarily replace you and they're
probably riding the wave of emotions
that comes with that right now
so the more that you try to beg or plead
the more they're gonna lose attraction
for you and fall right into the rebounds
arms so what is the best strategy to
take given the circumstances well the
best move right now quite frankly is
just to not move at all just wait now I
know you've probably heard about my no
contact strategy but in this case you
you also need to engage in a strict no
ex strategy as well so basically that
means you need to do whatever you can to
get past these hugely emotional and
negative feelings by just blocking your
ex out of your mind completely now I
know that's easier said than done but
here's a couple tips number one just
don't go on social media or at the very
least you know unfollow or hide status
updates from your ex number to delete
your ex's contact information from your
phone this is going to at least prevent
the the old drunk text or phone call at
2:00 a.m. and number three you need to
take all of the gifts from your ex
all of their belongings and just you
know put them in a box and just hide
that box somewhere so that you just
don't think about it or have to be
reminded of your ex all the time out of
sight out of mind right and number four
keep yourself occupied it'll be easy to
just you know sit around and mope and
cry but to truly get beyond your ex
right now you need to keep busy so you
know hit the gym spend time with your
family make new friends that kind of
thing just stay busy now guys be strict
about these rules and make sure that you
don't deviate okay because once you do
it's like falling back into the hole of
despair again and it's gonna be even
more difficult to climb out of that hole
the next time so for the next month you
know just make sure that you're doing
everything in your power to stick to
those four simple rules that I just
talked about and do remember this is all
in addition to no contact now I know if
things might seem grim right now but I
guarantee that if you get past this this
early difficult phase you're gonna come
out a lot stronger on the other side how
well basically just you know picture
your ex once they eventually get out of
that rebound relationship they're in and
just imagine the the feelings of loss
that they're gonna be feeling those are
the same kind of feelings that you're
experiencing right now at this moment
and at that point you know who do you
think your ex is gonna be thinking about
well if you've been playing your cards
right and taking my advice then your ex
is probably going to be the one
contacting you at this point and it's
gonna be missing you like crazy now when
you do get to that point you're gonna be
in total control but before I tell you
about how to take advantage of this
brand new position I do want to
encourage you to head over to
breakupbrad.com and watch the the free
video that I've got up on my website
there it's about ten times more
comprehensive than this one and it
covers quite literally all of the bases
so if you are still confused as to what
to do next after you finish watching
this particular video just go to
breakupbrad.com and watch my entire
tutorial video for free okay back to it
in this video I'm gonna go over a few
things you can do to to make sure that
your ex begins chasing you and obsessing
over you again in no time now if and
when your ex does break up with their
rebound then this is your absolute best
chance to get your ex back for good
really the most ideal situation at this
point is if they text you after the
rebound ends so what do you do when that
happens well quite frankly you do
nothing at all
if you do find yourself in this
situation really you want to regain the
control that you've lost since the
breakup so like I said if you've been
following the advice on my other videos
your ex is going to be thinking at this
point that you're living the best most
exciting life and they probably feel
that they missed up big time by letting
you go so at this point do not come
running back to them as soon as they
show any sign of interest in you again
this is a huge mistake that a lot of
people make and it is just not the time
to lose your cool or to get overexcited
the best thing to do after your ex text
you is just wait at least a day to reply
and really there are very few if any
exceptions to that rule and after the 24
hour period passes then you can do your
best to seem you know delightfully
surprised at their text and the response
you could just say something like hey so
good to hear from you sorry it took me a
while to to respond I've just been
really busy things have been really good
on my end how are you doing now
obviously you're gonna want to tailor
that response to your own personal
situation but what you really need to
know is that you must project positivity
and happiness in your text message and
you really just need to show your ex
that you've been doing really well since
the breakup this is going to just
shatter the image that they have of you
in the back of their mind and at this
point really they're gonna naturally
begin to chase after you and just
remember that humans are hard-wired to
be attracted to two happy vibrant people
and your ex is no exception now what if
your ex doesn't call I'll call or text
you after they break up well at that
point you're still gonna need to find
out if he or she is actually still with
their rebound or not but again that's
something you only want to do after the
30 days of no contact and only if you
feel like you're emotionally stable if
you do find out that he or she is still
in that rebound relationship then just
you know continue engaging in no contact
continue removing all thoughts of them
from your mind
if they aren't still on the rebound
great now is your chance to pounce
before I give you a couple of techniques
on how you can do that it's probably a
good time to plug my coaching program
because if you're at this point then
things are probably gonna get really
complicated and you will want to have a
breakup guru in your corner and who
better to do that than me
breakup Brad now before I scare you off
just know that this personal coaching is
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all right so right now 30 days have
passed and your ex just got out of there
short rebound relationship what do you
do well at this point what you need to
do is send them one of the many text
messages that I outline in my ex factor
program for this video I'm just going to
tell you about one example text and this
is one that I call the big ask basically
you just send your ex to text that says
something like hey I need a quick favor
um
you were hung he's good at planning
trips I'm just wondering if you there's
any chance you could quickly give me a
hand planning a trip to Scotland that
I'm going on this summer and really it
can just be as simple as that
you'll want to make sure that you you do
text your ex for a good reason
you know don't say something stupid like
you know I miss you or I love you at
this point because you know those kinds
of messages aren't gonna do any good
really the only way you're gonna get
your ex back is to meet up with him or
her and build real natural attraction
now if you have been following my advice
up to this point then your ex probably
is going to be more than willing to help
you out with whatever you've asked for
at that point you just want to set up a
quick coffee date because that in-person
meeting is where the real magic happens
because really at this point you're in
the best position possible to use some
of the tactics that I teach in my other
videos and again if you do need more
techniques you want more help check out
the free video on breakupbrad.com where
I go over some proven psychological
tactics you can use to make sure that
your coffee date with your ex turns into
them being together with you again in a
real relationship so just go to
breakupbrad.com right now and watch that
full free video to get more tips okay
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