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[PD] Hello.
Hi ~
Encountered?
Oh.
When they want to keep the relationship underground.
Oh those secret kind right?
Yeah.
I do think that if you don’t have common sense
I think that is like, to me a big red flag.
- Not necessarily. - Because you know when you go on dates,
I always observe the social cues.
So if they are rude to the service staff,
they just have the very entitled vibe.
- Then I cannot. - Oh ya, that’s like gross.
When they tell you that they love you on the first day.
On the first day.
Like they call you, and then they go like
"I LOVE YOU, I love you very much!"
Love bombing is a red flag.
Talents will be given five red flags each,
and have to rate the different scenarios based on how they feel.
WAH, OKAY.
5 red flags.
You know why?
Axel don’t even send me home.
I grab home myself.
I feel like if Axel send somebody else home right,
then never send you, that is like 10 eh.
It’s 10 red flags.
Can you
Thank you.
Let’s just assume that it’s late at night.
No choice.
So I’m okay, no flags.
But if it’s like in the middle of the day kind..
- Like 8pm still got mrt, still got bus. - Ya.
Why?
Actually, even if it’s 1am, there’s this thing called Grab.
Everybody have it nowadays.
- That’s true. - Why you cannot Grab yourself?
Let’s say they work in town.
Then the friend lives in Jurong. - Okay.
But your partner live in Bedok.
Okay, that’s a bit much..
So it’s like he goes all the way one round the island just to send her home.
A bit much hor? - A bit crazy eh..
Then you don’t know what they are doing right?
- OKAY. - I mean the more time they have in the car,
the more things they can do.
THIS GIRL CHIO ANOT?!
I do have friends who are very nice right,
they will send me home if it’s along the way.
If you go out of the way 1, 2 times if the person needs it, it’s fine.
But always??
Then I think it’s a little bit problematic.
Okay but I don’t know the scale of other things.
But for now I’ll give it like a one.
1, 2, 3.
3 red flags.
3.
Honestly I don’t see that as a problem.
I also don’t think it’s a problem.
I feel like I will go and look through together.
- Like ‘eh this one chio. ‘ - Cute.
But what if he got double standard?
- He don’t allow you to follow hot people. - Then cannot!
Right?
- Cannot double standard. - Ya cannot.
I think to me double standard is a big red flag.
If you can do I also can do.
Correct.
I’m actually more concerned that he uses Instagram at this point of time.
Like you should be on TikTok.
TikTok so dynamic.
It’s not just photos, videos.
The girls moving.
Have you seen Won Ho on Instagram just showing his abs everyday?
Have y’all seen that?
Like his butt is out in all the pictures.
I’m like YES!!
Yes!
You know?
So its like, you know that it’s a very parasocial relationship.
Because you know them as just hot figures.
And maybe sometimes you look at them you want to..
like you know you can’t be with them.
- You just want to admire them. - Correct.
0 red flags.
1 red flag.
No red flags.
Axel you can go and like any girls or guys picture.
You want 2D characters also can.
Sure.
Same friend?
[PD] Yes.
Okay, I think 2-3 times a week is a little bit much.
Because in a normal Singapore situation right,
you will meet your partner max 1-2 times a week.
Correct.
That is the problem.
That's the problem. We are all so busy.
We are adults eh. - Exactly.
Like I got no time to see you every single day.
Imagine you meet you partner 1-2 times a week.
But you meet this person 3 TIMES A WEEK.
That is like.. OH.
Excuse me??
So to me I feel like that’s a no.
Like instant no.
This is the friend that I meet more than 2-3 times a week.
For a meal, for movies,
- for cycling. - No but we have to say that Axel also watch the same time as us.
The Eternals.
Yes!
- If I’m doing it, I have to be okay with him doing it. - Correct.
No double standards!
Yes, that’s right.
[PD] 3, 2, 1
0 red flags.
1, 2, 3.
- 3 red flags. - 2 red flags.
2 red flags.
OH! 2 red flags.
OH!
We in sync ~
Okay, it’s the Zula gal things.
Yeah that’s right.
Eh, I okay!
- I okay one! - Please, continue.
- If you text me 10 times I also don't know if I will reply. - Same.
Oh my god.
No I think it’s also mainly because of the nature of our jobs.
Sometimes when I’m on shoot, I really cannot check
my phone for a few hours straight one. - Correct.
So I don’t reply messages until I finish the shoot.
Then I can reply. - Agreed.
And just.. I just don’t like to text.
I just don’t like to text.
Ya, same.
I think what’s the worse red flag is they call.
That one I punch.
If they decide to call me multiple times a day that one finished man.
Okay, I personally think this is not a problem because I do this.
Mainly because, you know people adults, people have lives.
Sometimes I’m on shoot from 9am to like 9pm.
I only have time to say ‘ Hi good morning!’ and then ‘ Hi, I’m done with shoot. ‘
Like literally, that’s all the time I have.
My red flag is when the person, you know that they are free.
You know that they have nothing on that day,
but they don’t put in the effort to communicate with you.
Also I would say that it’s even more of a red flag if
they text 1-2 times a day, but they are busy living
their lives on social media otherwise.
You know what I mean? - Ya, correct.
Oh my god.
And I also cannot right, if let’s say my partner is never a conversation starter.
Don’t have to be always.
But if never ever then it’s always on me right.
Wah.. are you not interested to talk to me?
Am I boring?
You got nothing? - You are always the instigator.
- Ya. - Oh damn.
Oh my god, I know why I’m not okay with it already.
I feel like this was what happened between me and my ex.
Ya!
Bleep but yes.
1, 2, 3
- 1 red flag - 2 red flags.
Re-evaluate your relationship.
At least talk ah! Talk!
Put some thoughts into your talk.
1, 2, 3.
1 red flag.
That’s right.
No red flags.
No red flags for this.
White flag in fact.
Yes, can.
- Wait no, white flag is surrender. - No, ya it’s surrender.
- Green flag! - Yes.
Green light.
Okay, green.
Green light for you. - Ya.
Luxury gifts??
What the heck?
Firstly as your partner, I will be concerned about our future finances together.
Because what is yours is mine, what is mine is yours in the future right.
How are you spending??
Some more why is it not spent on me?
Is spent on your friend?!
Okay but if your friend buy for you then is kind of like
you’re spending on yourself because minus off right.
BUT STILL!
I think you got some problem with your shopping habits.
Maybe you don’t need so much luxurious stuff.
Then the problem is no longer on you buying for your friend.
Is you spending so much.
That’s true.
- We have really secured ourselves a very stable partner. - Yes!
Can afford!
- I love eh. - Can afford luxury goods.
Who is this person?
- Can buy car, - Ya.
- Can buy luxury goods. - Then can exchange on a regular basis.
Got money.
Very good.
Wow.
I can only imagine what our future will look like.
- Then cannot! - Oh then that’s a different story.
If the partner is not planning financially then of course cannot.
This one is already
That one 5 flags.
That to me is already a problem because
first of all, you’re not financially savvy.
If you’re not financially savvy that one already red flag.
- I won’t even be dating you in the first place. - Ya..
It seems like a very one-off and deliberate intention to buy this specifically for that one person.
And to not tell you also..
It’s clearly trying to be like secretive for no reason.
So I would give this..
how many would you give this, Sangee?
I would actually give this a 3.
Okay, I would say 3…
I would say 3.5?
Maybe I’ll cut it in half.
3.5 red flags.
2 red flags.
3 red flags if just because, finance.
- Yes. - Right?
My 2 flags is purely on finances actually.
5 red flags.
I want someone who can actually be smart with their money.
No!
This one is a no..
This one is the one thing I cannot compromise on.
You know why?
Communication is very important to me.
Like I cannot.
This one is like a deal breaker for me.
I value quality time and just one-on-one heart conversations.
I know I’m not the best at giving advice.
But if my partner doesn’t even trust me to listen right,
then I don’t know why we are together.
- Ya. - Right?
Because you should be able to pour your heart out to your partner.
I think without the than you, okay.
Yes.
Because people are entitled to their own best friends.
Correct.
And you are one best friend.
But there is also other people that they can relate more.
- Correct. - Right.
But if it’s than you..
Then I am ready.
Yes.
Okay, 1,2,3.
5 red flags.
Oh, really?
Ya.
- 4 red flags. - 2 red flags.
- 2. - I give 4 red flags.
Because to me,
I’m the kind of person that if I have issues,
I will talk to my partner.
So I will be very sad if my partner don’t tell me things.
Right..
Like why? :’(
5 red flags.
5?
5 or maybe like 4.5.
- I’ll give it a 4.5 red flags too. - I think 4.5 red flags too.
I don’t know what is the extend of 5 so I will not put till the end yet.
I think it’s not to the point where I will break up with you.
But it’s more to a very serious issue.
- To me. - Yea.
So I think 4.5, not 5.
4.5 red flags.
Oh shit. This is so common.
This is so common.
Actually at the start if my partner,
like when we are dating only right, not together,
if they already express some dissatisfaction with my
friends, I think I already don’t want already.
Ya, same.
Like why would you tell me that?
Correct.
If he cannot change or like he cannot see why I
appreciate my friends, then that’s to me is a big red flag.
Agree.
Im a friends person first, sorry.
To me, partners are replaceable.
Life long friends not replaceable.
Yeah, 100%.
- Wah. - It’s hard.
Okay, there’s this saying.
You marry your family.
You marry your partner’s family.
But then family is also equals to friends.
Because friends are the family you choose.
Yes.
If you want a very cohesive relationship,
then definitely might consider breaking up.
Just because, if we are together and they don’t like
the person or they don’t like my friends right,
I cannot hang out with them.
That’s right.
Because if you hang out with them,
then your partner will be unhappy right?
Then strain the relationship.
Then eventually break up.
Then if you don’t meet your friends and avoid your friends because of your partner,
then your friends will be unhappy with you.
And then in the whole grand scheme of things, you will be the unhappiest one.
Then your mental health messes up.
Then you die.
I mean you don’t die but you will just x.x
Oh so difficult! - Shag eh.
It’s like your asking me to choose friend or love.
But..
But my love is my best friend and my friends are also love.
You know what I mean?
[PD] You partner doesn’t like your friends.
Ooooo…
Instant 5.
Cannot, ya.
This one I rate for you first.
5 red flags.
Cannot!
- Okay, first of all, who are you to - not like my friends.
Who are you to comment about the friends that
have been in my life for the past 10 years and I have
no problem with them.
All my friends, we are chill.
If he doesn’t like my friend because they are toxic, then ya, sure.
That’s like 0 red flags. You know what I mean?
But if you just come into my life and you suddenly say ‘actually I don’t like your friends’.
I’d be like huh?
Like what did they ever do to you?
I’m very rational.
- If you can tell me why with a P.E.E.L statement, I will listen. - Correct, same.
Because I am a person who will P.E.E.L my friends.
But most of the time they will just be like
‘Uh I don’t like lor.’
Ya lor.
- This is a 5 red flags. What about you? - It’s a 5 for me too.
2 red flags.
- Oh same? - Ya.
But I will try my very best to convince my girlfriend
to hang out with my friend.
Show that they are not the person that they think they are.
5 red flags.
He sounds like a possessive person.
Like he just wants you to himself.
Yup, cannot.
Dangerous.
No.
NO.
I okay.
- Hey, sis! - I completely okay.
We will go Dutch.
We love~
Come on~
It’s 2021! - Exactly.
I pay for u!
- I’ll be your sugar mummy. - That’s right!
Just call me mummy okay!
Sorry mummy!
Sorry!
I literally say someone post on their Instagram story the other day like
‘ What do you think about guys if they don’t pay for the first date?’
I’m like don’t pay lah!
NEVERMIND!
HELLO!
I would pay.
But if she expect me to pay..
It’s like my mom she tell me " go and clean the garbage."
But I already going to clean.
Oh my god I know what you mean.
- I know what you mean. - Right?
It’s like my mother ask me to go and shower.
I already planning to shower when this video ends.
Now I want to add three more videos then I go.
It’s like.. >:(
Then you don’t want to do already.
Ya.
Because somebody else tell you to do.
Yes.
I will do it.
But if you expect.
And you tell me like “Nope. I’m not going to pay.”
Then I’m like you pay yourself!
You pay for me!
You think this first date for your only ah?
It’s for me also okay!
It’s my first also. ):
So if the person wants to go Dutch, I’m totally fine.
But if the person expects me to pay for everything..!
Lend me.
This is the amount of flags!
What the heck.
1, 2, 3.
0 red flags!
0. Yup.
Definitely a 0.
This was fun.
It was very fun.
I feel like we are not that difficult.
In terms of as a partner, don’t have a lot of flags.
I think as partners we are quite open minded.
And I actually realize that those things that people
would put red flags, we never put.
But those very small petty things,
we put more. XD
We have grown to become very independent.
Yes.
That’s why a lot of things that revolve around being clingy,
we don’t like.
Correct.
All these “rules” that have been put in place are
put in place by societal norms and what society
deems as right or wrong.
But as a person, you can make the decisions on
what is right or wrong, as long as you
respect your partner, and both you and your partner are
happy in that decision making process.
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