Heya playa, have you ever wanted to be the funny person?
The one that makes everyone laugh, the one that your crush actually pays attention to.
If that's the case in this video I'm gonna explain how to be so funny that your crush
loves you so stay tuned.
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Now when it comes to being funny it's about way more than just making someone laugh.
Sure you can tell a funny joke or you can do something silly but humor is a lot deeper
than that and being able to have good quality humor in front of people where you're not
embarrassing yourself is the key.
Have you ever noticed that if you hear a person tell a funny joke you go on to tell other
people that you heard a funny joke but if that person tells a string of funny jokes,
you go on to tell other people that that person themselves is funny.
And that simply means being funny means being consistent, you're the kind of person that
whenever others are around they know they are going to have a good time and that's the
exact type of environment you want to create for your crush but, how do you do that?
Well in order to do that I would say follow these rules.
Step 1, make your humor observational.
Look at what's going on around you, see how people are interacting, see weird things or
funny things that people are doing and incorporate that into the type of humor you're trying
to build.
For example if your teacher says or does something weird in class or something odd just happens
in school that you and your crush can relate to, that's the perfect way to segway into
a conversation with them pointing out the absurdity and the ridiculousness of what just
happened.
In a situation like that, the humor might be as simple as turning to your crush and
then looking around the room and saying "Are we the only ones that just saw that?
Like, did that really just happen?", allowing you and your crush to recognize that life
is weird sometimes and it's important to acknowledge those things because it helps build a bond
between the two of you.
And let's just be real here, weird and awkward things are constantly happening at school
and it's totally fine to poke fun at things that you might say that are mess ups or your
crush might say that are mess ups, in fact, if you point out something that your crush
does that's maybe a little awkward or weird and poke fun at them for it, you can even
flirt with them in that process.
You can tease them a little bit, show them that you think it's funny but you're not there
to hound them or make them feel bad.
That little type of interaction is going to show them that you have a sense of humor and
that's going to make them open up and feel more comfortable talking to you and interacting
with you.
The second thing you want to make sure you do more of is include them in on the jokes
with you.
By saying things like "Oh my god, what should we do in that situation?" or "Oh my god, I
can't believe we just saw that happen" allows them to feel like it's the two of you against
the weird and awkward world that exists and when your crush starts to hear you speak in
that way, they're going to start to feel like you're more of a team than you are against
them or separate from them.
And there are so many ways to sub communicate humor to your crush without even having to
say anything.
Sometimes the easiest way is to just look at them, make eye contact and just raise your
eyebrows to show them that you are in a bit of disbelief and you know that they are too
and you both recognize that.
That type of humor doesn't have you jumping through hoops trying to get their attention
which is where most people default to.
When you like someone you want to impress them so you think you have to do things to
impress them but the truth of the matter is sometimes you just need to sit back, relax
and observe and bring your crush in on that process because now the two of you are recognizing,
you're synced in your sense of humor.
The third point here is an important one because, in that process of just connecting with your
crush and observing the world around you, you don't want to fall down the rabbit hole
of bullying other people.
This can be a very easy thing to do.
Especially if you see a weird kid in class or some kid just has an issue and they're
struggling with it, making them the center target of your humor is not the best route
to go.
For example, let's say you're in a class with someone that has developmental issues or is
struggling to learn and because of that maybe they make a bit of scene or draw more attention
to themselves, that's not the type of humor you want to aim for.
Instead the type of humor you really want to aim for is are little things that people
recognize are silly or weird for themselves.
Things that they can reflect back on and go yeah, that was pretty silly of me.
Not people who are actually struggling with things.
And I get it, it's not always easy finding that thin line between teasing someone for
humor and outright bullying them so where do you draw that distinction?
Here's what I would say.
If in the process of making that joke, you can bring it up to that person, they recognize
that that's what you're joking about and they're ok with it, that's teasing for humor but if
you're making fun of someone for something and it makes them feel insecure, it makes
them feel bad about themselves, and they don't like that you're doing it, yeah, that's just
straight-up bullying.
And I've seen a lot of people bully other people just to try to impress their crush.
To try to look cooler, tougher or smarter than them just so their crush can go "wow,
you stand out and that person's a loser", that's not the route you should be taking
because it only raises your value while bringing someone else's down.
What you essentially want to do is raise your own value while not hurting anyone else's.
Plus I think your crush will respect you a whole lot more seeing that you're someone
that is clever and witty rather than someone that's just a straight-up jerk to other people.
And that sort of leads into tip number four which is to remember that you are not a clown
there for your crush's amusement.
This is something a lot of people struggle with because if they do something silly or
weird and they see their crush laughs, they want to do more of it.
They may even up the ante by doing something dangerous that might get them hurt or in trouble
at school and that's not the road you want to take.
This behavior tends to manifest into what's called the "Class Clown" and that usually
takes the role of saying something random in class just to get people to laugh or doing
something awkward or weird or silly in class just to get people's attention on you.
And while the feelings behind being the class clown are good in the beginning, people are
paying attention to you, your crush may be talking to you, you'll start to notice that
now you're their dancing monkey.
If you don't go crazier and crazier every time with what you do, they're going to stop
paying attention so you're in a rat race where you're not in control and your crush certainly
doesn't like you for what you're doing, they only like the things that you're doing and
you personally are kind of detached from that equation.
So what should you say, what should you do once you have your crush's attention and you
want them to see you as someone that's funny?
Well, that leads into tip number five which is to share personal, funny and weird stories
about things that have happened in your life.
If I've learned anything over the years it's that reflecting back on your past, looking
back at your blunders and mishaps and weird things that you've gone through can be hilarious
stories to tell so if you're talking to your crush and you want to keep them engaged and
to see you as someone that is funny, be observational about what's going on around you but also
reflect on what's going on on the inside, what you've experienced because no one can
tell your life funnier than you can.
I mean, I've had weird moments where strangers have randomly said things to me on the street
or have just been in a situation that's so crazy and so insane that no one would ever
predict that something like that would happen but those tend to be the best stories to tell
because it gets people hooked, it gets them engaged, it gets them curious about what you
did to handle that situation so the best thing you can really do is reflect on your own experiences
and present that in a way that your crush will be engaged in hearing you talk about
it.
And I'm gonna stop you right there if you're thinking my life is kind of boring, nothing
funny has ever happened to me, I'm just pretty much a dull person because all of us have
experienced weird and random things that we found funny ourselves and I think a big part
of it is in how you tell that story to someone that you like.
For example, I'm gonna link up a video over here of different stories in my life of just
random things that happened and after I told that story over and over to so many different
people, I learned the best way to kind of share it, the funniest way to emphasize different
moments of that story so if you're trying to impress your crush, practice telling your
stories in your own life first to your friends, to people around you and then when it comes
to telling your crush you already have a mastered funny version to share with them.
And look, humor alone isn't going to instantly make your crush fall in love with you, they're
gonna wanna see that you're confident, you're compassionate, you're mindful in what you
do, you're caring about others, you're interested in them and their lives as well, all these
behaviors together are going to help paint the picture that you are someone that's working
towards being your best self and that is going to be the most impressive thing you can do
to gain your crush's interest.
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Also, check out the video over here to learn more about how you can be a more attractive
person.
What it takes to attract your crush and get them to start being more interested in you.
All that information is going to be helpful so check it out, and I'll catch you guys next
time.
As always, love and peace.