what is the perfect NLP technique stay tuned hey this is Damon from NLP
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regular basis the best NLP technique is the one that works right now now that
might not be the answer you were looking for what I see one of the major mistakes
I see NLP students make is they go in pursuit of techniques they go chasing
the techniques they want to learn either a lot of techniques or they they want to
learn the best technique the technique that is going to solve everything the
one that's going to work most of the time if not all the time and get the job
done one and done and that's it there's a big problem with that thinking that
type of thinking is this idea that the magic is in the technique and we use the
word magic and NLP basically to explain that there are some things that look
like magic but there's always an explanation behind it so we see people
do these amazing things looks like magic to us but the mindset of in of using NLP
is that we can break this down and can find the structure and we can replicate
that success we can replicate that magic that magic exists in you it does not
exist in a technique the technique is there as sort of a protocol or a way to
access whatever it is you're trying to access a way sort of like a pathway or a
direction even a map if you will of how to navigate to solve whatever problem it
is you're trying to solve or accomplish or achieve whatever kind of success that
you want to achieve it's important though to remember though that it's
coming from you so if you go in search of the magic and the perfection and the
best technique or that the magic in the and all of that is in the technique you
are you're overlooking where the true magic and the true source of the magic
is and that's right here what I like to tell my students is that the magic is
not in the wand the magic is in the magician and you're the magician the
wand is a tool it's a useful tool it's a necessary tool and of course the wand is
the technique or the process so not not in the process or dismissing it it's
it's definitely important just recognize that your skills your abilities are or
where that magic is it that's where it's coming from the worst thing I see is
when someone gets stuck on a technique like they think that this is the best
technique and they think it solves everything and they just need to just
stick to that that what happens is is when that technique fails and it will
fail they all do all techniques and processes are not appropriate for all
problems all people all situations so when that happens and you have someone
who's very attached if you're one of those people who's very attached to a
certain NLP technique or process when that process fails you're either going
to pretend like it worked which isn't going to serve you and if you're a coach
and you're working with someone it's not definitely not going to serve them or
you feel lost because you put so much on that one process or technique as being
the answer to everything now that it didn't work what do you do
now so I'll give you a much better way to think about this and it comes in a
metaphor that I heard the philosopher Alan Watts say one time and basically
that if you were to come to a riverbed you're trying to cross over to this
other mountain and in order to get there you have to go through this water well
how do you do it okay well you create a tool and means this would be the
equivalent of the NLP technique or process so you build a raft and you take
that raft across the water the raft is useful to cross that body of water now
when you get to the other side and you get to the
and you wouldn't pick that raft up and put it on your back and haul it up the
mountain because it's no longer useful the raft was appropriate for the water
it's not appropriate to get you up the mountain see NLP techniques that way
you can use one if it doesn't work you try another don't get caught up on one
of them don't get into this mindset of there's one that's better than others
it's always about which one is useful and appropriate for the particular
situation of the problem or like I said the goal that you're trying to achieve
so what should you do what what is the answer here what what is oh if you're
not going to pursue techniques as being the the magic and you're not going to
look for the perfect technique and the one that solves everything what should
you do cultivate skill one of my NLP teachers Judith DeLozier once told me
she said learning NLP techniques is great but be careful at some point those
NLP processes and techniques will fail but your skills will never fail you now
your skills might not be good enough at a certain point which means you have to
practice more but always rely on your skills and skills take practice so what
do you practice you practice the techniques and this is what makes this
all come together to cultivate the skill through practicing NLP techniques and
not just practicing techniques be precise go at it step by step
don't take creative liberties when it comes to practicing especially in the
early stages maybe that comes later maybe you you try out some different
things you experiment and experimenting is good and as you get better you might
see the need to modify things but in the beginning practice each process and
technique precisely and focus on cultivating this skill this works
together so well so you're practicing the skills it's not like you're just
doing it randomly you have a focus you have a paradigm you have a direction you
have a recipe to follow just think about it how do you
cooking skills you cook but you don't just go to that stove and you just cook
anything you use recipes you take the recipe you especially if it's a recipe
you've never done before and you've tried to follow it and make the dish
like it's supposed to turn out and you do this over and over and over again
until you start to cultivate these cooking skills and pretty soon you don't
really need recipes anymore or you can make your own recipes and that's how I
don't he works as well so you're going to practice the techniques you're going
to practice them precisely you're going to cultivate that skill when you do this
enough you will get NLP in the muscle and you won't have to consciously think
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