I'm pissed because on the plane, we had a conversation.
And Michael literally gave me an ultimatum
and said that if we don't have sex during the honeymoon
that he won't want to be in this marriage.
The part that's the most concerning for me
is that, when we get on camera, he's
a totally different person.
He's patient, and he wants to wait for sex.
And it's all on me, and it's whenever I'm ready.
But when we get behind closed doors,
it's a totally different story.
So right now, this honeymoon is going pretty bad.
So when we're on camera, there's,
like, this Michael that's, like, put together, and well
thought out, and Mr. Perfect.
And, like, off-camera, you're, like,
a completely different person.
To tell me that I have to have sex with you
within a certain time frame, or you're not going to be still
in the marriage-- you looked my family in the face,
you looked my friends in the face,
and you told them sex is not a huge thing.
Like, it's going to be on Meka's time.
It's whenever she wants to do it.
Like, I'm patient.
I'm letting her take the lead.
Do you plan on having sex?
I plan on allowing her to take the lead on that.
I'm--
OK.
--in no rush.
It's not a demand or a requirement.
And, like, you literally got back to the hotel room
and told me the exact opposite of that.
So, like, how can I make myself vulnerable,
and how can I give all of myself to you when I don't even
know what part of what you're saying is real
and what part of what you're saying is fake?
And my worry is that we were matched
based on what you portrayed yourself as,
not what you actually were.
Like, it's running through my mind
that maybe if he had talked to the experts the way
he talks to me off-camera, maybe we would
have never even got matched.
Everything I said to the experts, everything
that I did to get through the process, everything I did
during the process is who I am.
If there's different expectations
we have about intimacy, I like to know that early.
I don't want to find that out [INAUDIBLE],,
and then that causes a whole 'nother set of problems.
And for me, I feel very strongly about the fact
that I had no intentions of wanting
to consummate the marriage.
I feel the same way now.
So now you're saying, oh, I just
want to be a better husband. I just want to do this.
I just want to do that.
But, like, I just feel like if you
had to save energy off-camera, we wouldn't have
had the issues that we had.
Again, camera, no camera, I'm learning
how to talk to you generally.
But I'm not going to sit there and be made
to feel bad about not understanding
the best way to handle a certain situation
for a person I don't know.
It's 100% natural for me to want to have sex with you.
But I'm not saying, Michael, if you don't have sex with me
in a week, I'm out.
There was never a time limit of when to do this.
The time limit was the honeymoon.
Well, the time limit's that we have seven weeks
to make the marriage work.
That's just not where my head's at.
I came into this with the most genuine intentions.
You said if I don't have sex with you by the honeymoon,
you don't know if you want to be in this marriage.
Can you admit that on camera, that you said that--
No.
--off-camera?
You never said that?
No.
You never said that?
Even on the plane when we talked about it, and i called you out,
you said you said it, but that's not what you meant.
Did you say that on the plane?
What I said is this--
Yes or no?
Did you say that on the plane?
Yes and no.
So--
This is not going to work if we can't get honesty.
This is not going to work if you're
trying to make it seem like it's one way and not the other way.
Again--
That's what you said to me.
And this is the issue is that, off-camera,
you say these things.
And now you're denying it.
But I can give you facts.
That's literally what just happened.
That's what took place.
This is not my opinion.
These are the things that you said to me.
[INTENSE MUSIC]
OK.
Neither one of us really wanted to start our honeymoons
off this way, so I think it's best that I give you
the room for the night, have some space,
and then we can talk about it--
things tomorrow.
It's OK.
All right.
[MUSIC PLAYING]
Again, I didn't have any expectations
to consummate the marriage.
For me, the big misunderstanding is just, when I communicate,
it's direct.
And for me, it's just been really trying
just to find my footing--
how to have conversations, how to make my wife
feel comfortable.
Maybe this hard conversation where feelings and emotions
were fresh, maybe that is the catalyst
to propel us forward to be on the road
to a successful relationship.
[MUSIC PLAYING]