The friend zone. It's not somewhere any of us want to be if we like the person.
Today, we're discussing how to get out of the friend zone for a girl.
Hey, it's Mark here from Make Him Yours.
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So the friend zone, it's not something that most people talk about with a girl.
Certainly, lots of guys end up in the friend zone, but if you're a girl and you like a guy,
it's just as crappy to be in the friend zone.
So today, how do we get out of the friend zone for a girl?
Well, the first thing for a girl is you want to check you're actually in the friend zone.
In my experience, a large amount of the time, a girl thinks she's in the friend zone,
she's actually just in "the guy hasn't had the opportunity
or courage to make a move yet" zone.
If that's you, and if you think that might be you, head to the end of this video.
I'm going to tell you exactly how to deal with that. And if you're not sure,
I've got an article on Are You In The Friend Zone? Take The Test.
I'm going to pop that in the comment section below.
But let's say you're like, "nah Mark, I'm definitely in the friend zone.
There's no question about it."
Well, there are some things that even women can do to get themselves in
the friend zone. One of them is very similar to guys,
and it's not having that sexual energy.
So a guy who's one of the girls and ends up in the friend zone,
he doesn't tend to exude his masculinity, and that kind of sexual side to himself.
Well, the same happens with women.
If you become one of the guys, and you're very blokey
and you don't have your kind of feminine sexual energy to you around the guys,
they will put you in the friend zone a lot of the time because a guy has to really
feel that sexual side from you to be attracted as more than a friend.
The other thing they can land a girl on a friend zone is all either being his
relationship coach or being too nice. So if you're advising him on girls,
what to do in various situations, he's going to kind of put you as a friend
because you actually helping him pick up other girls.
A lot of girls think, "Oh, if I help him enough, he'll finally notice that I've
been right in front of him the whole time."
It doesn't really happen. He just gets better at getting all the other girls.
And you want to make sure you're opinionated, so if you're too nice,
too agreeable, the same thing puts a guy in the friend zone.
It's boring. You want to put your opinions across.
Keep your sass about you if you don't agree with him,
and you might find once you've stopped doing a lot of these behaviors
and brought those parts of yourself out more, a guy will suddenly go,
"wow, she's, she's actually kind of attractive. I never even noticed this."
Once you've done that for a while, if you're finding that the guy is
showing more interest, then just head to the end of this video, I'm
going to tell you what to do with it.
If this still hasn't worked, if you've changed your behaviors,
and the guys still just doesn't see you that way, then it is a difficult situation.
And the only real option you have is to really
decide is the friendship worth sacrificing. Cause it's not fair on either of you for you
to stay in the friendship if you're really always wanting more.
And so at that point, you have to think about is it worth me going away for a
while working on myself, bringing out those sides and coming back at another
time, kind of resetting the relationship and the guy's mind?
All right, so whether you decided to take some time away or whether
the guy did start showing some interest in you, or you figured you weren't in
the friend zone at all, it's time to make your hangouts more intimate.
So if you used to hang out sort of during the day, you want to move
it more towards the night, and settings that facilitate more of a datey feel.
And if you used to hang out in groups, it's time to spend your time more
one-on-one. And look, if that goes well, it's time to basically tell the guy
that you like him. Now you can, you can do it verbally,
but I usually say do it non-verbally, so use your eye contact, use your
smile, sit close to him, give him all the nonverbal indicators that he
needs, so that he knows your feelings and he knows to make a move.
Alternatively, you can do it verbally. You just have to be aware that some
shy guys sometimes won't know what to do with that information.
And look, once you've told him either verbally or non-verbally,
you'll have your answer.
So girls, I hope that helps with getting out of the friend zone.
I hope it clears up a lot of sort of the gray area for you. Girls can be
in the friend zone too, but there's definitely things you can do about it.
I wrote a second article as well on behaviors that often send kind of
women to the friend zone and get guys thinking about you as more of
a friend than a potential lover. I'll attach it in that in the description
below. So let me know if you have any thoughts, comments, getting
out of the friend zone for a girl. I'd love to hear from you all.
Don't forget to check out the blog as well over at makehimyours.com.au
and subscribe to the YouTube channel. We're gonna have heaps more stuff
going, girls, so thanks again for watching, and I'll chat to you all very soon.