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Hellooo everybody! You guys know what month it is. You
know what time of the year it is. You know what some people are celebrating, and other
people are mourning... That means there's one thing and one thing only to talk about today:
(Whispers) Sex!
(Normal Voice) This video is gonna get demonetized super fast, so you better appreciate it! In the past,
I gave you my basic tips for writing a sex scene. I will link it below. Today, I'm focusing
specifically on how to make your sex scene hot! This is for the writers out there who aren't going
for the fade to black. They're writing that sex scene, they're giving the details, and they're
making it spicy! I've got 10 tips for writing an immersive sexual experience without embarrassing
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my 10 tips for writing a super sexy sex scene. A quick disclaimer: if you didn't catch it yet, this
video is about sex, ya dummy! If you are not old enough or not inclined to listen to a discussion
about sex, get the fuck outta here! This is not the place for you! Your brain may explode. For
everyone else who's still here, you asked for it. There's no turning back now. Actually, you could
turn back at any time. You just press the button, or, like, click onto another video...but whatever!
Number One (1): Commit. If you're writing a full-on sex scene, you need to commit. It's not a
lower body–it's a cock. It's not a behind–it's an ass. It's not 'her area'–it's a clit. Don't be a
chickenshit! A lot of writers get super excited to write a sex scene and then when the moment finally
comes, they freeze. What if my mom reads this? Oh well, bitch! It's time to bite the bullet. Tell
your mom to read the Bible, instead. You are literally writing about people pleasuring each
other's genitals. The modesty train left a long time ago... If you are not comfortable referencing
the anatomy involved in sex, don't write sex. Period. Number Two (2): Don't make the thizz
face. The problem with writing about genitals is that sometimes genitals are disgusting. For
those not familiar with Bay Area slang, a thizz face is a facial expression that kinda looks
like you smelled piss. Hmmmm. Have you ever made a thizz face while reading a sex scene?
I know you have! It's usually because the genitals involved were described in a way that
either sounded clinical, unappealing, or fucking gross. That's when you dial it back a notch.
I have seen vaginas described in ways that made me think of paper mache. Is this arts and crafts or
is it sex? Asking for a friend. If you're not sure if your sex scene is thizz face worthy,
think about the descriptors involved. Soggy, greasy, limp, damp. Muggy, folded, flaccid, juicy.
These words, among others, create a gross visual. Don't use them! Be mindful of your adjectives;
they matter. Number Three (3): Sensations over anatomy. "But Jenna, you just said to commit to
the anatomy!" Yeah, bitch! That doesn't mean you gotta stay there forever! This isn't a sporting
event play-by-play. You don't gotta zero in on an appendage going into a hole over and over again.
Yes, you will likely need to reference genitals, but it shouldn't be the focal point. Instead,
focus on how the characters feel. You know, pleasures and orgasms–the entire point of having
sex! Unless you're making babies, but that's not the point of this video. If it's a romantic sex
scene, then you can juggle both physical and emotional sensations. You can talk about the
pleasure they're feeling, as well as their immense love for one another. This is an appropriate time
to get inside your body. Think about how you would describe sexual pleasure. Focusing on sensation is
a lot more engaging, and you will have better odds of avoiding the thizz face. Number Four (4): Sexy
verbs. Sex is an action, in case you've forgotten. So if you're gonna describe the act of sex,
you might as well have some sexy verbs on lock. And I'm not just talking about a dangle-do
entering a hoo-hoo; there are tons of different sexual acts that involve different movements.
Think about every action and the sexiest way to describe it. You could say humping...like a 14
year old boy. Or, you could say grinding, like an adult. Is he licking his boyfriend's body, or
is he trailing his tongue down his chest? Touch, graze, pound, stroke. Verbs have power. Use the
ones that maximize the heat. Remember, you don't have to focus on genitals. The sexiest actions
can be the circling of someone's hips or tugging at someone's hair. Number Five (5): Understand
how sex works, for the love of God! Not everyone who writes sex has had sex, or has had the kind
of sex they're writing about. It's important in ALL facets of writing to do your research first.
Porn doesn't count! I know you got your library stocked, but it's not gonna do the job. Read some
books or some websites about the kind of sex you plan on writing. If you've never had an orgasm,
there are plenty of educational sites for that, as well. I know it's embarrassing
but the information is available and from tons of credible sources. There are entire guidebooks that
are super thick–pun intended–that teach people how to have good, pleasurable sex. Consider this fun
research so you can make sure your sex scene isn't shitty. Number Six (6): Hands. A lot of writers
get so caught up in ding-dongs in coin purses, they forget there's an entire second half of the
body waiting in limbo. Hands and touch are pivotal to making a sex scene feel dynamic and real. You
don't have to describe every thrust. Instead, take a moment to describe what the character's hands
are doing. They could be grabbing a fistful of hair. They could be digging into the character's
back. They could be cupping a breast. Hands communicate several things about sex. First off,
enjoyment. Because if they're clawing at their partner's back, they're probably gettin' it good.
Second, sensuality. Touch is a love language; it makes people feel desired. Having your characters
touch one another will create an immersive experience for the reader. And third, attraction.
If your character is grabbing their partner's ass, that's probably a hot ass, and you want
your readers to know about it! Number Seven (7): Dialogue. Dialogue can make or break a sex scene.
I have read sex scenes that were super hot...until the characters opened their mouths. To speak,
not to put things in them... Before you write any sex scene dialogue, you need to understand
a few things. First, what does this moment mean to the characters? If it's their very first time
and they're whipping out the porn star rhetoric, readers are not gonna buy that. Second, pay
attention to the character's personality types. If it's a romantic sex scene between two lovebirds,
and then they start saying shit like, "Take that dick, you dirty slut!" Readers are gonna
be taken aback and jarred, in a NOT good way. Be cognizant of the characters you're working
with and the world you've created for them. Third, what is your goal for the scene? Is it crazy and
kinky? Is it soft and romantic? Is it fast and hot? And lastly, do you need dirty talk at all?
Moaning is perfectly sufficient, as well as the occasional command or demand, like "harder,"
"faster," "don't stop." The dialogue, if you use any at all, should mirror the ultimate tone and
effect you want for the scene. Number Eight (8): Clarity. If readers can't tell what's going down,
it's not a hot sex scene. I've read sex scenes where the position described made no anatomical
sense. Maybe someone's triple jointed or has five vaginas, I don't know! I'm fuckin' lost! You don't
want to linger on the technical details, but readers should at the very least be able to tell
what the position is. You don't want them reading the same sex scene multiple times just to figure
out what the fuck is happening. At that point, the dicks are limp, the vaginas have dried up;
you've lost your audience. If you're unsure if your sex scene is clear or not, pro tip:
simplicity works. Someone is laying on top of their partner. Someone is on all fours. Someone is
straddling their partner. Clear enough! Get to the point so readers can visualize, then go in with
the good stuff so readers can enjoy the ride. Pun intended! Number Nine (9): Timing is everything.
It doesn't matter how glorious your sex scene is if you added it to the most awkward, uncomfortable
part of your book. The sex needs to make sense and work within the timeline of your story. Here are
some sex scenes I've read that were ruined by their timing. A sex scene that occurred right
after the tragic murder of the main character's best friend. A sex scene where the main character
is covered in oozing lacerations. A sex scene where they've just got some time to kill, so
sure, let's screw, whatever. A sex scene that ends with the main character missing their mother
so desperately. That shit is weird and gross and COMPLETELY unnecessary! Stop doing it! Make sure
the sex is happening at a moment where readers can get excited about it! They can engage in the
story as opposed to getting sidetracked by all the weirdness surrounding the sex. You want them to be
invested in the scene, and in that case, timing is everything. And Number Ten (10): Take your time.
Sex is more than an appendage in a hole. Sex can be about mouths, fingers, hands, toys. Hell,
sex can be about feet! If you get straight to the boom boom and it's over just like that,
congratulations! You've written a quickie. I find it hard to believe all parties involved enjoyed
that, and I can tell you your readers certainly didn't. So take your time! It doesn't need to be
pages upon pages long, but linger in the moment! Savor the details! The key is to make it hot, and
I promise you, hot sex doesn't last 30 seconds. So that's all I got for you today! Writing sex
isn't as hard as it seems. It's just about ramping up the heat and toning down the yuck.
Commit to the moment, pay attention to the timing, your descriptors, your verbs. And for God's sake,
do your research! It takes no time and your readers will thank you. Friendly reminder, you
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