Tripp Kramer here from TrippAdvice.com.
I had a fun night last night here in Ko Tao, Thailand.
I'm going to get to that in a second.
First I want to tell you, thank you.
I saw your comments on a recent vlog, giving me some feedback in terms of the vlogging
policy advice.
I'm listening to you.
I hear you.
What we're going to do from now on is, if you want to watch the vlog, awesome, but if
you want to go straight to the advice, that's good, too.
I'm going to put in the description the timestamps of when we're giving the advice.
However, I want to say this, I want to encourage you to watch the vlog anyways.
This vlog isn't just like, watch me do fun stuff.
Yes, I am doing fun stuff right now and you can follow along, but throughout the vlog,
throughout the episode, I'm going to be giving you other bits of advice on living life, and
of course dating because that's what this channel is all about.
I'm still gonna be hitting those topics.
I'll put up some timestamps and maybe what the episode is, the core theme, but I'm still
gonna be dishing out some stuff.
I encourage you to watch all of them and check out everything that's going on.
As far as last night, it was fun, met a bunch of people, had some drinks in Ko Tao, pretty
much every night can be a party night if you wanted to.
It was cool.
It was fun to finally meet a bunch of people because in coaching men, we didn't get a big
chance to meet tons of people.
It's not a huge expat community.
I feel like last night was like, finally let's have some fun.
Let's meet people and we did.
One reason why I want to encourage you to travel is because when you go and travel,
it is so easy to meet people.
People come and start approaching you.
People make conversation with you and you make conversation with other people.
Last night, we met people who are getting their diving masters.
We're not here for scuba diving.
Other people talking to us, coming up to us, it's so easy to make friends.
If you want to practice socializing and get yourself out of your comfort zone in a little
bit of an easier way, try traveling because it works very well.
Today's video is all about how to get a woman to impress you.
This goes along with the theme of how to get a woman to chase you, but this is more specific.
How do you get a woman to try to want to impress you?
I'm going to be giving you throughout the course of this vlog some good questions that
you can ask that force her to try to impress you in terms of what she's doing and what
she's up to in her life.
Let's get into that.
Here's the key.
You should be having stuff going on in your life.
Things that are social.
You should be trying to do things a couple times a week.
First of all, that's awesome because you're going to be busy, you’re having fun, meeting
more people and that gives you the chance to meet more people.
Also, when you have something going on, that gives you the power to invite other people
to that thing.
That is a very powerful thing because you're offering a lot of value there to somebody
when you can invite them to something that you're already doing.
That can be as simple as going up and talking to someone, and right away, you’d be like,
we're going to this thing, you should come with.
Or if you get the conversation with someone, you find that they're a cool person, or the
girls are cool, you can say, I'm doing this thing tonight.
We’re going to play beer pong here tonight.
Going to this party here tonight.
Going this event here tonight.
You should come along.
That’s very powerful.
Try that out next time that you're talking to somebody.
I know this is gonna sound counterintuitive, but how's that gonna work with?
Please bear with me while I explain this.
What you want to do is, you first want to act impressed by her.
That is how you're gonna get her to try to impress you more.
If she tells you something that she did recently, or she tells you something that she does for
a living, obviously don't lie about it, but if you are impressed by her, act impress.
You can say, wow, that's impressive.
Or say something like, wow, that's very interesting.
That's so cool.
Maybe ask another question about it.
Once she gets that little hint of, I think he's impressed.
She's going to want to continue to try and impress you because she's gonna feel good
that she's already doing it.
I'm here now.
I don't know exactly what the beach is called.
I know you might be asking me what it is.
I'm here, right outside of Ko Tao.
This is the island that's connected to it.
Took a little speedboat over here and now enjoying the day.
It's pretty crazy to hike up to the top and got some crazy views.
Highly suggest, if you ever go to Thailand, you check this place out.
The big idea here is to get her invested in you.
That's the benefit of trying to get her to impress you.
You want to get to the point of investment.
When someone is invested in something, they want to stick around longer.
That is what we want to do when we're trying to meet more girls.
Get to the point where they're invested in you and when they try to impress you, this
is a form of investment which makes you want to stick around longer and hang out with you.
How'd you do it? From climbing rocks.
Another thing you can do to get her to impress you is, whatever she tells you something,
you can tease her a little bit.
If she tells you maybe what she does for a living, or she tells you something that happened
that was interesting, instead of saying, that's cool to get her to impress you more, you can
do the opposite and say, no, you didn't do that, or no, that's not what you do for a
living.
I don't think so.
You're doing it with a smile on your face.
You're joking around.
She's trying to get you interested in the things that she's saying specifically.
If you're saying no, or you're disagreeing with her, you're putting up
a little teasing front.
It's the next morning now and I want to wrap up the video here.
Yesterday was a fun day, shoveling around the island a little bit.
I was going to do some snorkeling with the waves where pretty crazy that didn't end up
happening.
I did want to come back here to what I'm talking about today's video.
We're talking about this idea of trying to get a girl invested in you.
I want to expand on this idea a bit.
You basically need a girl to want to get invested in you because she's going to want to see
you again.
We covered that.
What is this all about?
When she's invested in you, she feels some emotions around you.
Attraction is not logical, attraction is emotion.
When you see a girl you're attracted to, it's not logical, you're feeling something.
That's what makes you attractive.
That's the same thing that we want to do here.
We want to build up some emotion in the girl that we're talking to.
I give you two different ways
We can go one way, where we're acting impressed so she wants to impress you even more.
The other end of the spectrum over here, where you are being like teasing, disagreeing and
acting completely not impressed.
What's the idea of the two ends of the spectrum?
This is where I want you to be.
I want you to be on an extreme.
When you're at an extreme end of the spectrum, that's where you can cause emotion.
Whenever you watch a movie that causes a lot of emotions inside of you, it's not a boring
movie, or where two people are talking the whole time and nothing happens.
No, something happens.
We want something that happened when you're with the girl.
If you're not on the ends of the spectrum, you’re somewhere in the middle, that is
where the boring happens.
That's where you become forgettable, she doesn't care to see you again and she's not invested.
If this idea makes sense to you, write a comment down below.
I want to hear from you.
Let's talk about this.
Write in the comments down below what you think and what you could do next time to be
able to spark an emotion inside of a girl.
Write that.
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I'll see you on the next video.