>> BEFORE WE GO, AFTER ALL
THAT, I WANTED TO SPEND A MINUTE
WITH SOLACE AND PEACE AND CHAOS
THIS MORNING.
CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGIST DONNA
ROCKWELL IS HERE.
I CAN’T REMEMBER YOU’VE EVER
FELT MORE THIRST FOR YOU AND THE
MENTAL HEALTH EXPERTS PROVIDE?
>> THANK YOU FOR HAVING ME
TODAY, DEVIN, ESPECIALLY DURING
THIS TIME WHEN PEOPLE ARE
SUFFERING AND THEY DON’T KNOW
REALLY, WHERE TO TURN OR HOW TO
FEEL BETTER.
SO, YES, I’M HEARING SO MUCH OF
IT IN MY OFFICE AND ONE THING WE
NEED TO UNDERSTAND IS THAT
WHAT’S BEEN ATTACKED IS OUR
CENTRAL NERVOUS SYSTEM.
>> WE ARE -- OUR MIND IS
CONNECTED TO IT.
SO IN ORDER TO SETTLE OUR
EMOTIONS WE NEED TO SETTLE OUR
BODY.
SO WHAT PEOPLE NEED TO DO IS
REALLY REMEMBER TO BREATHE WHEN
WE’RE UNDER STRESS, WE HOLD OUR
BREATH AND THE MOST IMPORTANT
THING IS TO REMEMBER TO BREATH
LET THE OUT BREATH GO, THE IN
BREATH TO COME IN AND OUR ENTIRE
PHYSIOLOGY TO SETTLE.
THEN WE CAN BE SETTLED IN THE
MIDST OF CHAOS.
>> I THINK THAT SOME PEOPLE
THINK THAT BEING TOLD TO BREATHE
IS KIND OF SILLY ADVICE, OF
COURSE I’M BREATHING, I’M ALIVE,
BUT THE KIND OF BREATHING YOU’RE
DOING IS WITH GREAT INTENTION
AND UNDERSTANDING THAT THAT’S,
YOU KNOW, BREATHE IN, BREATHE
OUT WITH THOUGHT.
>> YES, AND TO -- IT’S
AWARENESS, RIGHT.
IT’S AWARENESS OF BREATH VERSUS
JUST BREATHING BECAUSE ACTUALLY
WE HOLD OUR BREATH A LOT.
THAT CALMS DOWN OUR FIGHT AR
FLIGHT RESPONSE.
WE’RE IN FIGHT OR FLIGHT AND IN
ORDER TO RESPOND, WE NEED TO
REMEMBER TO BREATHE.
HOWEVER WE’RE FEELING, OUR
CHILDREN CAN FEEL IT.
ONLY A SMALL PERCENT OF OUR
COMMUNICATION IS VERBAL.
SO WE NEED TO REALLY STAY
GROUNDED FOR OUR CHILDREN AND
THE PEOPLE AROUND US, WHO NEED
TO BE SETTLED.
SO, REMEMBER, WE’RE SETTING A
MODEL FOR THE OTHER PEOPLE
AROUND US, PARTICULARLY CHILDREN
WHO ABSORB OUR EMOTIONS LIKE
SPONGES.
>> REALLY NOT EASY TO DO.
IF YOU’RE SO STRESSED YOURSELF.
BUT IF YOU’RE SEEING YOUR
CHILDREN IN A GREAT DEAL OF
STRESS AND THERE ARE SO MANY
REASONS FOR THAT RIGHT NOW.
WE CAN’T BEGIN TO CATALOG THE
PRESSURES THAT SCHOOL KIDS ARE
FEELING RIGHT NOW.
WHAT DO YOU DO TO HELP SOMEBODY
ELSE, ESPECIALLY SOMEONE YOUNGER
TO FIND BALANCE AND PEACE?
>> WHAT CHILDREN NEED TO HEAR
THAT THEY’RE SAFE AND THERE ARE
GROWN-UPS IN CHARGE.
YOU CAN BE THAT GROWNUP.
YOU CAN BE THE ONE THAT THE LETS
THE CHILD KNOW, EVERYTHING IS
OKAY, YOU’VE GOT THEIR BACK.
I’M TAKING CARE OF THIS.
WE’RE NOT GOING TO HAVE WORRY
ABOUT THIS IN THE FUTURE BECAUSE
THE GROWN-UPS ARE TAKING CARE OF
IT.
THE CHILD NEEDS TO KNOW THAT
YOU’RE OKAY SO THEY CAN BE OKAY
AND THERE’S SOMEONE IN CHARGE
WHO IS DOING SOMETHING TO MAKE
IT DIFFERENT FROM NOW ON.
YOU CAN POINT TO THE NEWS AND
SAY, LISTEN TO ALL THE LAWS THAT
THEY’RE GOING TO COME UP WITH.
LOOK AT HOW THEY’RE REACTING TO
THIS ISSUE.
EVERYBODY CARES, THAT YOU’RE
COVERED, WE’VE GOT YOU.
>> Devin: LASTLY, I THINK THAT
IF IT’S EASY TO FEEL LIKE
THERE’S SOME KIND OF WEAKNESS IN
YOU IF YOU’RE NOT GETTING
THROUGH THIS IN FLYING COLORS.
REALLY IMPORTANT TO LOOK AROUND
AND REALIZE THAT THESE ARE
EXTRAORDINARY TIMES AND IT’S NOT
THAT UNUSUAL TO BE OUT OF STEP
WITH WHAT’S GOING ON.
>> IT IS NORMAL AND NATURAL TO
BE IN A MESS RIGHT NOW.
BECAUSE IT WOULDN’T MAKE IT --
SO, WE HAVE TO ALLOW OURSELVES
TO HAVE THE FEELINGS THAT WE’RE
HAVING AND TO KNOW THAT WE CAN
OURSELVES, JUST A SELF HUG AND
CLOSING OUR EYES AND SETTLING SO
WE CAN BE AVAILABLE TO OTHER
PEOPLE AND IT’S NORMAL TO FEEL
LIKE THIS NOW.
>> NATURAL TO KNOW THAT WE’RE IN
A MESS.