Hey Ambitious Professionals! It's Linda Raynier of lindaraynier.com guiding you
to a career and life you'll truly enjoy. In today's video I am going to teach you
my five tips on how to improve your social communication skills no matter
where you are whether you're at the office
or in a social setting so that you can speak more confidently and present
yourself in the best possible way
Ready to get the job you want? Top Notch Interview is coming soon! For more info
and free training head to JOINTINI.COM As a career strategist I've had the
honour of being able to help numerous professionals land their dream job
offers and so if this is something that you're interested in working with me one
on one I can give you details about that at the end of this video in the work
that I do I get many professionals ask me to help them to improve their
communication skills now many of them are actually people who may not
originally be from North America or Australia or Europe and you're
struggling to communicate at a social level because even though you naturally
aren't really a shy person but when you're faced with certain social groups
and certain social settings you find that you just simply don't know what to
say and so if this is you I just want to say first of all I'm not an English
teacher so I'm not here to teach you English but I'm here to show you a few
tips on how you can improve your social communication skills so that you can
interact with others in a more natural and confident way tip number one
entertain yourself differently what I mean by this is if you really want to
truly be able to connect with others in your environment and really immerse
yourself in the environment then you need to entertain yourself differently
by watching different types of entertainment whether it be TV shows
movies or even live shows now this is the first time I'm sharing this with
people publicly but I happen to love watching Korean dramas when I feel like
watching something that's going to get me hooked and I really want to get a
good cry I'll turn to a good Korean drama to watch but here's the thing if
you happen to be Korean for example like you are originally from Korea you grew
up there and as an adult you moved to the States or Australia or wherever you
don't want to be spending most of your time watching Korean dramas because as
much as they're entertaining and fun and you feel comfortable watching them
you're not necessarily enabling yourself to immerse yourself in
a different culture you're simply reconfirming what you already know and
so if you mix it up a little bit and watch different types of TV shows and
really pay attention to the nuances the language the way that they make jokes
and the way that they speak to one another you're opening yourself up and
your brain to a new way of thinking a new way of communicating
once you broaden your variety of entertainment including by going to
comedy clubs going to different types of live events theater perhaps whatever it
could be you're allowing yourself to learn the humor the different phrases
that people use you're understanding how people really speak and you get to learn
what people really talk about so what happens is once you're in a social or
even just office setting and people are talking about something that is relevant
to what's happening you're gonna understand it and you're gonna be able
to communicate to them in their language that way all of this is going to help
you to relate to your colleagues and co-workers in a more personal way you'll
be able to understand what it is they're talking about and you'll be able to
contribute to the conversation I'm not telling you to completely give up on the
type of entertainment that you love because of course you deserve to watch
what you want to watch but at the same time I'm just saying if you brought in
your variety of entertainment that's going to help you expand and grow as an
individual and that's going to help you with your social communication skills
tip number two hang out with people outside of your culture join an
in-person networking group or Club anywhere where you can meet people
face-to-face so for example if you like playing volleyball maybe join your local
volleyball team or if you happen to work at a large corporation a big company
they likely have social clubs that you can join and meet people there as well
participating in these things is a great way to get yourself to interact with
people who you probably wouldn't normally interact with outside of work
you'll learn what people talk about how people interact and it'll help you to
develop those habits as well tip number three open up share your thoughts and
observations if you want to be able to get closer to people then opening
and sharing things with them is the key way to turn acquaintances into friends
just simply watching different TV shows and being around different types of
people still isn't enough to improve your communication skills if you're not
going to be bold and be willing to speak up to be interesting you need to be able
to share your observations about things so whenever someone brings up a topic
about something that you have an opinion about don't be afraid to share your
opinion obviously you don't want to sound negative about it but you can say
things like you know I always thought it was weird that and say whatever you
thought was weird or I always noticed blank you know when you can share these
types of observations that you've had throughout your life about a certain
type of topic that people happen to be talking about it shares a different
dynamic about you and it reveals a little bit more about your personality
and it makes people feel a little bit more connected to you because who knows
they might be thinking the same thing tip number four is get to the point part
of good social communication is knowing how to articulate your ideas in a clear
and concise way without over explaining the details this takes practice one way
you can start to monitor this is moving forward whenever you want to tell a
story to someone or you want to share something with someone instead of giving
yourself five to ten sentences to tell the whole thing it's better to try to
cut it down to two to three sentences get to the point as quickly as you can
right away and what that's going to do is if there's more that needs to be said
the other person has the opportunity to ask for more and therefore you can have
a free-flowing conversation between the two of you now if you have the opposite
problem where you don't say too much and instead you say too little then you also
want to monitor how much you say by trying to say at least two or three
sentences as well so at the end of the day you want to be able to elaborate
what you're saying in a way where people can understand what it is that you're
talking about but they don't feel drowned in the details and finally tip
number five Connect by being genuinely curious I've said this before in other
videos and it's because it's extremely important
in order to be able to connect with other people you have to be genuinely
curious about them you have to be willing to truly ask questions about
themselves and then ask them why and really genuinely listen to their answers
and then from listening to their answers you're going to learn how people
communicate and you'll be able to do the same as well
and to end this video I thought I would leave you with an inspiring quote which
says you must immerse yourself in an unfamiliar environment in order to truly
understand your own so there you have it those are my five tips on how to improve
your social communication skills now if you're someone who has been looking for
a job for the last little while you've been getting some interviews but you
haven't had much success and you realize that you need one-on-one professional
guidance from me then feel free to reach out to me on my website at
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