Tripp Kramer here from www.trippadvice.com. I'd say that one of the
most painful parts of the whole process of meeting women, attracting women, liking
women, getting into relationships all that stuff is when you finally end up
falling in love and then it doesn't work out. A lot of guys, everyone in
general goes through just a tremendously painful time when you have this one
woman who you guys had a connection with, you were together and then all of a
sudden unfortunately it doesn't work out for whatever reason. I'm making this
video to help you the guy who is struggling, who is probably in a
tremendous amount of pain from being heartbroken. Maybe being broken up with.
Maybe you're the one who broke up with her. I don't know the situation but she
no longer loves you. I'm going to say to you right now the biggest cliche that
your friends are telling you, your family's telling you and now I'm gonna
tell you but that's because it really is the only answer. However I'm going to
take this answer, this cliche message and actually put some steps for you to take.
What's the message? The message is time heals. Time heals all.
Over time you're not gonna care about her as much. It's like this graph.
Right here you're in a lot of pain and you care about her and
you're thinking about her and you're like ugh she doesn't love me, I love her.
God this hurts and then as time goes on, slowly, slowly that pain goes down.
And then becomes non-existent. She becomes this
distant memory in your head of oh yeah I remember that. I remember when I
was with her. Man that was a crazy time. That was a tough heartache and you're okay
because you moved on. But how do you do this? How do you actually get over this?
I'm gonna give you two things to do. Things that have actually helped me in
the past. One; you cannot contact her ever again. Maybe you've heard of the "no
contact rule". There's a reason why this has been popular. There's a reason why
there's a whole sub-reddit. If you ever go to reddit.com, there's a sub-reddit on no contact.
I'll put a link in the description below so you can check that out.
It's a support group for people who are trying to not contact their ex.
The reason why people do this is because the more and more you contact this person,
the more you keep them in your life, the longer it's gonna take for that graph I
said earlier to go down and for you to care less and less. Because the
more she's in your life, the more you're thinking about her and then the more
recent memories are with her. You're not letting yourself let go, you're not
letting yourself move on. Unfortunately the hardest thing to do is the best
thing to do, especially in this case. That means that you have to unfollow her
from all the social media. You cannot talk to her again.
You cannot text her. You have to tell her to stop texting you if she's texting you.
You have to tell her to stop commenting or liking on anything in your social
media. You have to let her know that you are done and you have to move on and
you'd appreciate it if she would leave you alone. Maybe not in those harsh words
but let her know that you want to be able to not contact her or be connected
with her for quite a while. There is magic in this process. The first few days
are going to be painful. Its withdrawal. You're getting over a drug addiction.
In this case the drug is love and love is coming from this person. You need to
go through the withdrawal so the first three to seven days are really tough.
I'll give you some tips in a second on what to do in those days and moving
forward. But you must do this because on day seven and on, she starts to become a
little bit of a faded distant memory. It starts to become really faded. So what
you want to do in this process is also keep yourself busy as much as you can.
Do not spend any time alone in the first three to seven days.
Yes, it's inevitable you're gonna be going to bed alone, waking up alone.
But you need to spend time with friends, with family. You need to go out. You need to do things,
you need to do activities need to keep yourself visiting you to ask friends to
hang out whatever you can do go take walks go outside be around
people being alone is gonna make this worse for you and it's also going to
probably tempt you to contact her again which is what you don't want we don't
want to contact her so you're gonna keep busy here's another thing you're gonna
do because you're in this tremendous amount of pain because you just love
them anymore and you're going through this withdrawal you're gonna want to do
something it's gonna sound a little cheesy I know but it actually works very
well you're gonna go to the store you're gonna buy a journal okay I don't even
want you to go to Amazon to do this I want you to go to a store and buy a
journal go to the process of picking one up holding in your hands but you know
which one feels good to you and then buy a pen you're gonna take this journal
you're gonna take this pen and this is what you're gonna use when you're in a
lot of pain and those moments where you are alone probably at night before you
go to bed you're gonna be like oh this kills you're gonna take the pen you're
gonna write the journal and you're just gonna write whatever you want this
doesn't have to be a dear diary this is what I did today this is just a way to
express yourself and do it in paper so you take all this pain that's in your
head and in your heart and your body and you just dump it on this journal and
just write anything you want right that you miss her that you love her write the
things you don't like about it that you like about her there's no rules here the
only rule is you got to write it use a pen journal write it all out this drill
is your new buddy it's a way to express these painful emotions without keeping
it inside and letting it go is gonna be very therapeutic for you I got some more
info on this I did a whole podcast on how to get over the girl who broke your
heart I'll put a link to that podcast in the description below this is my podcast
it's called how to talk to girls so you gotta check that out also if you don't
already know I'm doing a live event Saturday November 3rd 2018 go to
trippadvice.com slash events again that's trippadvice.com slash events go
check that out and join me for one of my first live events I've done some in the
past but I haven't done a long time so I almost could
maybe one of my first but come join me with a bunch of other people we'll be
learning some advance of tracks and techniques if you're watching this way
after November 3rd 2018 go to that page anyways cuz that's gonna be an updated
page with the next live event so go check that out
and I'll see you in the next video