How to get a guy to like you over text.
Today, I'm giving you one simple and incredibly powerful
content to build massive attraction and make the guy want more over text message.
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Texting, texting, texting. So many questions about texting. Today, I'm giving you a simple
concept to make your texting amazing. And I want to talk about texting cause there's,
there's a powerful metaphor that I like to think of with texting.
Now, you can't communicate much over texting,
you're never going to build your relationship over texting.
However, that is where a lot of it starts, especially online and on dating apps.
I like to think of texting as the little login thing to your phone.
You know, how you'll have the little pattern login thing that you do on your phone.
That is what texting is like. It's like a gateway.
It's not going to win you the guy, but if you get it wrong, it might lose you the guy.
I actually log in with my clients on their dating profiles sometimes
to help them word their texts in the most effective manner,
so that the guy will call them, ask them out on a date and my clients can
showcase themselves properly in those much higher emotional investment
type environments. So here's a simple secret to texting.
It's made up of two questions. One very simple secret to ask yourself.
Is this a good text or is this not a good text to move things
forward and get the guy to call you or ask you out on a date.
Simply ask this, number one,
what emotion does this text generate in the guy?
And number two, will that emotion draw him towards me or away from me?
It's really that simple. Send or don't send the text based on your answers.
Let's run through some examples. Number one, "Oh my God, we
just got our tickets to the UK. So excited."
What emotion will uh, generate in the guy?
Excitement, curiosity, fun, maybe a little bit of jealousy.
Will it draw him towards or away from me? Towards.
Brilliant text!
Example two, "Hey" What emotion will generate in the guy?
Boredom, possible annoyance.
Will it draw him towards or away? Away.
Sh*t text.
Example three, "I need to know what we are."
What emotion does a generate?
Insecurity, neediness, possible annoyance. Why is she asking me this over text?
Does it draw him towards or away? Massively away.
Terrible text.
Example four, "Hey, I'm not on the app much. I'd love to hear more about your business
and what you're doing with it. My number is_____, give me a call tonight after seven."
What emotion will it generate in the guy?
Confidence, honesty, high value, maybe in some guys, neediness.
Will it draw him towards or away? Probably towards.
Especially for the types of men that you're wanting to meet.
Overall result? Great text.
Example five, "You would be so jealous of what I just did." What emotion does it build?
Curiosity or intrigue.
Towards or away from you? Definitely towards you.
Good text.
Example six, "Ahhh, had the worst day at work so f*ckin can sick of my job.
Hate the people in it and the people I work with."
What emotions will the guy feel?
Negativity, annoyance, unhappiness, victimization.
Towards or away? Clearly, it's going to push him away.
Bad text.
Now, just cause this is fun. Let's do one more example.
Let's say, he doesn't respond to that and you've got a date the next day,
and you wake up the next morning and he still hasn't responded.
This is how important wording is. You can say the same thing and
get very different answers to these questions.
Option one, "Hey, well I guess you're no longer interested.
You know, ghosting people is really rude and you made me feel like shit."
What emotion does he feel?
Resentment, annoyance, probably neediness and if he was just busy,
he's definitely not going to want to text you back now.
That text pushes him massively away as opposed to,
"Hey, just checking if we're still on for today. Didn't hear back from you last
night. So I'm assuming not, but my friends have asked me to hang,
so let me know ASAP in the next hour or so if we're on."
What does he feel from that text?
Positivity, warmth, you're assuming the best in him.
He probably feels a little rude and guilty and especially if he likes you,
he's going to feel urgency to respond.
Does it draw him towards or away from you? Towards you.
That's how important this is.
And you can see from all those examples I've been through
a number there where depending on the way you word it,
consider what emotion is the end result going to generate in the guy,
and ultimately, is it going to draw him towards or away from him?
Text is just a means to an end and it is a skill, so make sure you
learn that skill by asking yourself these two questions.
Well that's the video. Thank you for watching.
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