- Heya playa.
Do you have a crush on someone and you wanna
start talking to them through Instagram
but you don't really know how to begin?
Well, that's the question that Dan asked me
when he said, "Any tips on how to start a convo
"with a girl via Instagram?"
Of course, Dan.
And I wanna share those tips with you so that you
can start sliding into your crush's DMs.
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Instagram is a very interesting platform.
There's so many different ways for you
to interact and connect with your crush
that people just overlook.
If you look at a person's basic Instagram
profile page, you can learn a lot about them.
There's the description field, which generally
people write in a quote or something relating
to their school life, or just something relating
to their relationship status.
You could scroll down and see the selected
pictures that your crush actually posted.
Not everyone posts every single photo
that they have on their Instagram stream,
so the ones that they choose are highly, highly favorited.
And if you wanna see what they're doing
in their daily lives, you could simply click
on their profile picture and it'll take you
to the different stories that they're posting
every single day.
Most people are stuck in the mindset
of thinking how they can jump into a conversation
with their crush on Instagram just blindly,
without knowing anything.
But right there you have a wealth of information
and go through.
If you see your crush is posting a lot
of pictures with their friends or just going
out a lot, then you know she's an adventurous
type of person, and that's definitely something
you wanna bring into the conversation.
Sometimes going right for the DMs can seem
a bit scary, especially if you don't talk
to your crush regularly.
So what you really wanna start with is going
through their pictures and leaving comments
on their most recent ones.
By showing your crush that you're interactive
with their content, your name will pop up more
in the mention section, and that only increases
the chances of them taking notice of you
and even starting a conversation with you.
I would recommend that you don't go on a liking spree.
If your crush sees that you've liked
the last 50 posts that they've made,
they might feel a little overwhelmed and like,
"Man, this guy's just a little too much right now."
You might also be thinking, "Well, what do I
"comment on their pictures and their stories?
"How do I say things that'll actually get them engaged?"
I think the best way to go about that is to ask a question.
If someone posts a picture of them out somewhere,
you could always ask a followup question like,
"Did you have fun while you were there?
"Would you invite friends to go there with you?
"Would you ever do it again?"
Just to kind of set the tone for them to respond
back to you in the comment section.
When you see that they're regularly responding
to you in the comment section, that's a clear
sign that now you can move the conversation over
into the DMs and start that private conversation.
This is the sliding part, guys.
You're just gonna kinda slide on into those DMs.
Once your DMing them, you can take
the conversation anywhere you wanna go.
Now, if you don't really know what to actually
talk about, you could check out my
20 Icebreaker Conversation Starters guide,
which is gonna give you things to talk about
to get that conversation moving.
Now there's two more situations
that might disrupt this whole process
that we've just laid out.
One is that your crush is actually private
on Instagram, and the second is that she blocked you.
Now, if your crush is private and you can't see
anything that they post, shooting them a DM
might fall on deaf ears because it goes right
to their request box, and they can see
the message without you knowing that they saw it
and they could just choose to ignore it.
I think in situations like this you can try
to start a conversation by messaging them,
but I think you'd be way more effective
if you just start talking to them in person.
When you're having that in-person conversation,
just slip in, "Hey, you seem pretty cool.
"Let me get your Instagram."
And then ask them to just add you right there on the spot.
Now the second situation, in being blocked,
might make Instagram not a potential choice
for you to start talking to your crush.
This time you're gonna have to do it in person.
You're gonna wanna mend the relationship
between you two so that your crush doesn't think
you're a weirdo or you're annoying or anything like that.
Once you and your crush are on equal footing,
then ask them, "Hey, add me back on Instagram
"and unblock me."
Instagram is a great place to get things moving
between you and your crush, but now I wanna know.
What do you think?
Have you ever talked to your crush on Instagram?
How'd you go about doing it?
Leave your comments below and we'll talk about it.
And un-ironically, if you wanna shoot me a DM
and talk to me in private, you can always do that
over on Snapchat or Instagram.
I do my best to answer as many messages as I can.
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There's a lots to learn about talking
to your crush, whether it's on Snapchat
or Facebook or through text or wherever it is.
So check out the videos I have listed over there
and keep on learning, guys.
I'll see you guys next time.
As always, love and peace.