What does it look like for type 4 to be on the path of growth? Today not only am i going to
teach you about the healthy side of the four I'm also going to teach you guys three growth
tips that you can start applying in your life today if you're new here I'm Hillary your
Certified Enneagram Life Coach and I love to teach you guys the enneagram in the simplest and easiest
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the growth path for that type 4 look like the type 4 moves towards the healthy side of the one when
they are on their growth path when they are doing really good in their life when you know things
are going well they are investing in themselves they are making really good decisions they are
going down that growth path moving towards the healthy side of the one and so what does that
look like in the type four well it looks like them being very organized self-disciplined uh grounded
reliable consistent for the healthy four they will complete tasks and things that they've
been wanting to get done before moving on to that next thing sometimes the four can
stop what they're doing and just move on and not complete what they were working on but when they
are going towards that healthy side of the one that kind of tends to start happening another
thing is their emotions really come into balance sometimes the four can focus too much on their
feelings on their mood on their emotions they'll really start to get lost in their daydreams and
thinking of the future and what that can look like but when their emotions come into balance they
don't allow those feelings to rule them they don't allow their feelings to be facts now
feelings are good we love that the fours have feelings and the depth of them but for four to
get stuck there if you are for you know sometimes you can get stuck in your feelings and it could be
days or weeks um of you being stuck in them and then when you get on your growth path you tend to
you know kind of go into that more organized lane organize with your your feelings and thoughts and
emotions more in balance and so that's what it looks like for you as a type four the best thing
for you guys to be doing too is learning about yourself learning about what does that look like
to be healthy um for you developing self-awareness of your red flags and your green flags what does
growth look like i call that a green flag what does your stress arrow look like i call that a red
flag i don't think that that's a terrible thing i think it's just a wake-up call and so to stay on
that growth path be looking for these things and so that's kind of what it looks like for a four to
be moving towards the one and now i want to share three practical growth tips for the type four the
first one is going to be for you to appreciate the present moment fours tend to always be thinking
about the missing piece and longing for something else four sometimes feel like something's not
right in the present moment and so they will find themselves longing for the future what can be
you know living in the future daydreaming in the future or thinking about the past and what the
past gave them and getting stuck there and so what i want you to do is try to appreciate the present
moment and i will say sometimes when a four gets what they longed for they realize that it's not
the missing piece it's not what they thought it was gonna be right and so then now they long for
the next thing and they think maybe the next thing is gonna be that missing piece but a lot of times
it's not i think fours feel like when they finally find that missing piece they're to find themselves
what i want to teach you is is there isn't a missing piece nothing is missing you literally
are beautifully and wonderfully made now can you work on yourself yes you know that's what i teach
i teach going down this growth path but in the end nothing's missing in you take steps to find
the meaning in the here and now find beauty in today and so that's the first tip that i
want to give you is live more in the present right and the next tip is for you to use your
experiences to help other people what i've seen in the force is when they focus on using kind of
what they've gone through to help other people to sit with other people to listen to other people
to hold space for other people they ultimately find their own purpose in life and so that's why
i'm saying use your experiences to help other people this helps a four naturally find their
significance when you have a a higher purpose than just yourself and i would love to know can you
think of something that you have walked through that you could use to help somebody else because
fours you know you guys are so emotionally deep and you've walked through a lot and
you're not afraid to go to these hard places with other people and so utilizing your gifts to help
other people really helps the four fours are compassionate gentle intuitive empathetic those
are just some of the gifting's of the type 4 and i really believe not only should you use them for
yourself i want you to have more compassion for yourself be gentle with yourself um but i also
want you to use those gifts with other people in your life remember your ability to feel deeply
is your gift um don't get stuck there but you have this ability to really feel deeply and feel with
other people and so that's just a gifting and what i would love to know is what do you feel called to
what really moves your soul what do you feel totally alive thinking about doing um what
is hidden in your heart that you even feel scared to say like is there something in your heart that
you're like oh i do know i do know that i have a purpose with whatever and whatever that looks like
i would love to know if if you feel okay sharing it with me in the comments i would love to know
the last growth tip is recognize when comparison is creeping in and stealing your joy the core
weakness of the fort is envy and what this means for the four is they compare themselves to other
people and this causes them to feel like they're lacking it causes them to feel shame like they're
not enough like something's missing we talked about that right comparison is a hard road not
only can it steal your joy but it can fester and grow into resentment and envy right because that
is the struggle it's not that a force envious of somebody's things or because the four wants to
be truly who they are but they could be envious of somebody like oh i just feel like you're normal or
and i honestly i don't think anybody is normal truth be told none of us are normal i think
that's just a lie but you know that four can tend to think like well they have it together and i
don't or whatever that looks like for you right it's a lie most people don't have it together
most people are probably just faking it until they make it and then could you imagine somebody's
faking it until you make it and you're comparing yourself to that like don't do it it's not worth
it it's not worth losing your joy over it i want you to realize and tell yourself that you're not
tragically flawed nothing is missing the qualities that you think you lack and that other people have
more than likely are a lie you are original you are special you are unique embrace these giftings
that you have without comparing losing your joy is not worth the cost and so that's why i say
comparison steals your joy and so those are the three growth tips that i have for you today i hope
they helped you let me know in the comments like did they resonate with you did they hit you hard
and if you're not a four i hope this helped you understand the fours in your life and love them
even better and with uh just a greater joy that's all i have for today you guys know i don't like to
close these without letting you know if you don't know your type if you're watching this or you're
with a friend watching this because they're a four and they're like here or hear this or you want to
know the four in your life better but you don't know your own type i have great news i offer a
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