- I grew up with my brother and my two parents
and my parents are from Nicaragua.
They've been married ever since my Dad was 18
and my Mom was 23.
They fight a lot, but they also make up a lot.
Sometimes I'm very inexpressive and I don't know
how to respond, or maybe I should be responding
when I'm not.
[Danielle] - I grew up with both parents although they did
divorce when I was quite young but tried to stay together.
I rarely saw them on the same page.
It made me have some trust issues, for sure.
I'm a very caring person and I really want
to do something to help the world.
James and I met back in 2006, on Myspace.
I used to model back in the day, and he did
photography and photo editing.
And we were a part of a forum on Myspace that
was for photographers and models.
- I definitely was, like, this, she is so hot,
I told all my friends.
[Danielle] - One day he asked for my phone number though.
I gave him my number, he called me at least four times
at two or three o'clock in the morning, drunk.
He would call me just to be, like,
I feel like I could just talk to you.
- -And I would
listen to these messages and just be like,
what's wrong with this guy .
But then eventually he reached out to me
and just asked me about my thoughts on some world issues.
- Fish are friends!
- [Danielle] Which I am super passionate about
and we just started having a very good, deep conversation.
Unfortunately at the time I'd just got out of a
relationship, we can't do anything.
I was really financially irresponsible so, I was sleeping
on the floor of a studio apartment struggling.
I was babysitting, working temp jobs, and then he's like,
you need a vacation.
Why don't you come visit me in Charleston.
You know, we'll have some fun.
- As soon as I saw her get off that airplane,
I knew something was different.
It was beyond just, you know, aesthetics.
Beyond just like, oh, she's hot.
- We were only together for probably
about a month and a half.
He called me over the phone to say, hey, if we got married,
don't hang up! .
He was in the Navy stationed in Charleston.
He's like, if we got married, we can get housing money.
You know, you can get dental and healthcare,
and it felt more like a business proposal.
- Are you down, is what I said .
[Danielle] - Yeah, and next month we got married.
It was a good sales pitch .
[James] - Yeah!
- So we're very different people, I have a very
technical career.
She likes to be spontaneous,
she's very emotionally driven.
- I don't really like to plan for the future,
I like to live in the now.
He's a very clean person, he's very anal, I'd say,
about making the bed every single day, the floor being
spotless, the dishes being done.
Well, I get annoyed, I don't have time for this.
I have things that I want to get done,
projects that I wanna work on, and the cleaning stuff,
the making the bed, or doing the dishes
right away is trivial.
- I like to make sure that I know where the money's going,
I know where the finances are, I like to have a budget,
but she doesn't really like to focus on those things.
[Danielle] - I would often ask him, when are you
going to get sick of me?
I would say almost pester him with, when are
you going to leave me?
And so I feel like we really differ on those
kinds of things.
- Yes, we are -- - We're definitely --
- Definitely in love. - In love.
[Upbeat Music]
[Danielle] - We've been married for four years now.
And we live together in LA with our two cats.
- We are planning to eventually save up for a house.
We do want children.
[Danielle] - Being in love means just bringing out the
best in each other, working through obstacles together
and still knowing that the trust and love is still there.
[James] - Being in love to me means understanding a
person through and through, and understanding yourself,
and how that works together.
That's what real love to me is.
[James] -
♪ Soul pancake ♪