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What To Do If Your Ex Is Ignoring You?
What’s up folks, Brad Browning here… as you already know, I am the #1 trusted breakup
coach on planet earth, and best-selling author of The Ex Factor program…
Recently one of my fantastic subscribers sent this question, which I’ll be answering right
here in this very video:
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So, what do you do when you want your ex back, but they’re ignoring you?
OK, the first thing you need to do is chill out.
Seriously, take a deep breath, go for a walk around the block, become a Buddhist monk and
meditate for weeks straight… whatever you need to do to relax and keep your cool.
This is really important because a lot of the biggest attraction-killing mistakes that
I see my coaching clients make happen when they get emotional and lose their head.
It only takes 1 short 2am drunk text to your ex to ruin any progress you’ve made with
your ex, and potentially even kill your chances of getting them back….
So, it’s critical that you keep a level head and don’t cave in to your emotions
or let your self-discipline slide.
So that’s the first thing to do… but, now that you’re calm and thinking clearly,
how can you win back an ex who won’t talk to you?
Actually, you can’t.
Yes, you heard me folks… you’ll never get your ex back if they’ve disappeared
from the face of the earth.
HOWEVER… while you need them to eventually reply to you and begin talking with you regularly
again in order to get them back… you can do a few things to change how they’re acting
right now, and make them WANT to reply to you and even to reach out on their own initiative.
First, though, there’s one critical thing you must understand: you cannot push too hard
or come on too strong.
If your ex has already ignored multiple attempts to contact them -- for instance, if you’ve
sent them 3 texts and left 2 voicemails since your breakup a few weeks ago -- you’re going
to have to give them time and space for now.
Trying to send any further messages or really any attempt to contact your ex when they’ve
already ignored multiple calls and texts is going to backfire badly, and make you look
like a needy, desperate loser.
No matter what, if you’ve tried to reach out to your ex more than once in the past
week -- and didn’t get any reply at all -- wait at least another week before you try
again.
AT LEAST a week.
Preferably longer, especially if you’ve made numerous attempts to contact your ex
without hearing back… or if you know they were angry or upset at you when you last spoke.
Now, once you’ve left your ex alone for at least a week, you can begin thinking about
trying to reach out again.
If you’re in any doubt about whether you need to wait longer before sending your next
text or calling them again, wait longer….
It’s critical you give enough time to make sure your ex knows you’re not desperate,
you’re moving on with life, and you’re not contacting them with any ulterior motive.
I like to say that you want your ex to be back to an “emotional neutral” state when
you reach out and initiate contact, because that’s when some of my more covert psychological
techniques will really start shifting the way he or she feels about you and a possible
future together.
When you’re confident your ex is in that “emotional netural” state, and they won’t
think of you as “needy” if they see you calling or see a text from you pop up on their
phone, you can try to contact them again.
BUT -- and this is a really important BUT here -- you need to use a completely different
strategy and angle from your previous attempts to initiate contact.
In fact, better yet, send your ex one of the “Magnetic Attraction” texts that I’ve
included in my Ex Factor program.
These are texts that I’ve developed over a decade of breakup coaching with clients
in situations like yours, and they are specifically designed to trigger a certain response in
your ex’s brain.
I’ve given a few examples in my past YouTube videos, so you can search those out after
this video is over, or just go to BreakupBrad.com to learn more about the texts and how you
can get a risk-free trial of The Ex Factor Guide by registering today.
If you for some reason don’t want to use one of my proven messages, or if you already
sent one or multiple to your ex previously, then it’s time to change the goal of your
message to something completely different.
Usually, I recommend you start with super non-threatening stuff designed to make your
ex smile or laugh or remember a fun memory you shared when you were together.
In fact, even if you don’t hear back after you send that type of message to your ex,
there’s a good chance it still worked as intended and will help ensure they pick up
the phone or reply to your message the next time you reach out.
So think of a one-liner message (and I do recommend texting or messaging online for
now, no calls or in-person encounters yet) that will make your ex smile, think of a happy
time you spent together, or reference an inside joke they’ll understand and appreciate.
If you can’t think of something funny or come up with a good memory to reference, try
saying something genuinely helpful or interesting…
For instance, let them know about some event or news story they may not have heard about
already.
So, one quick message.
That’s it.
One, maybe two sentences, no more.
If you get a positive reply, great….
Now you can wait another week to reach out again.
Again, slow and steady wins the race, folks… remember that you can’t get back together
with someone who isn’t interested in talking to you, so we’re just trying to build rapport
and shift their mental perception of you at this point.
If you don’t hear back, your strategy is the same -- wait a week or more before trying
again, this time using a totally different angle and probably a different method as well,
like a Facebook message or a brief voicemail rather than another text.
Hopefully, though, if you use one of my Magnetic Attraction texts and think of a great joke
or memory to share in the message, you’ll get a quick reply from your ex.
At this point, you’re likely going to get really excited to hear back from him or her.
You may be tempted to forget all about the crucial tip I gave at the beginning of the
video, and suddenly start calling and texting like mad.
That, my friends, would be a huge mistake… remember, be cool, right?
No matter what the reply says -- well, unless it’s explicitly asking to get back together,
which I actually have seen before believe it or not -- you must do absolutely nothing
for a few days.
Leave your ex alone again, just so that you can be certain they won’t feel threatened
or think you’re going to start spamming them now that they’ve replied.
Once you’ve waited another few days or more, and you reach out again to your ex… and
get another response….
That’s your green light to SLOWLY and carefully increase the frequency of communication.
NOW….
folks, at this point, if I continue to give you specific instructions on how to handle
every possible scenario you’ll face after this point where you’ve begun to re-establish
contact with your ex, many of you will die of old age before this video is over.
So what I’m going to do now is share with you THREE GOLDEN RULES for handling any contact
with your ex after this point.
If you follow these 3 rules religiously, you’ll be fine, and you’ll be on the path to getting
back together... especially if you’re also employing the rest of my techniques to build
attraction and start over in a new and improved relationship.
So, GOLDEN RULE #1 -- all contact must be positive and fun.
No drama, no arguing, no serious or heavy stuff whatsoever in any of your conversations
with your ex, regardless of where or when or why.
Until you’re basically already back together as a couple, every encounter with your ex
must be light-hearted and enjoyable for them.
Anything serious or any drama will just remind your ex why they dumped you in the first place,
and could set you back weeks.
Keep it fun.
GOLDEN RULE #2 -- establish dominance & win the mind games.
I’m a big psychology geek and I love the nuances of the human psyche, so I always advise
using simple, covert strategies to ensure you have the “power” in any interactions
with your ex.
Basically, you want to do and say things that will subconsciously show your ex that YOU
are the one who’ll be fine without your ex…
YOU are the one who can easily find someone new any time you like….
YOU are the one that’s moving on to bigger and better things.
How do you do that?
By being the “Alpha” during your conversations.
That means never replying to their messages too quickly, and letting some calls go to
voicemail.
It means saying “no, sorry, I’m busy” when they ask to meet up even if that’s
not really true.
And it means always being the one who has to end the conversation first.
Just keep this in your mind: your ex needs you more than you need them, they just don’t
realize it yet… and by using these sneaky psychological hacks, you’ll be helping them
understand what they’ve lost and ensuring you hold the balance of power.
And, GOLDEN RULE #3 -- don’t gamble if you don’t know what you’re doing.
Look, I do sometimes pitch my coaching program or my Ex Factor Guide here on YouTube, but
I promise this is a legitimate point and not just a sales pitch.
If you end up facing some sort of situation with your ex where you’re unsure how to
handle things, or where there’s potential risk of making a mistake and blowing your
chances for good, please sign up for 1-on-1 coaching with me and we’ll talk it over
and come up with a plan.
Go to BreakupBrad.com/coaching to register any time, and I’ll be ready to help whenever
you need some guidance or an outside opinion….
Even if I don’t have a coaching spot available, I may be able to help you out, so visit BreakupBrad.com/Coaching
and sign up or shoot me a message so we can talk things over before you accidentally blow
your shot.
OK guys, this is a long video already…
I’m tired from talking so much, and that must mean you’re tired of watching too,
so let’s wrap this one up with a quick review of the key tips I’ve just shared:
Stay cool, take it slow Wait at least a week between attempts to contact
your ex Use my Magnetic Attraction texts to break
the ice initially if possible If you try to reach out and don’t hear back,
switch up your strategy for the next time Keep things fun and upbeat, no drama at any
point when talking to your ex Never try to rush things or get too eager
and show your true colours Play the simple mind games that will show
your ex what an amazing catch you are Visit BreakupBrad.com/Coaching and get my
personal help any time you’re unsure what to do or how to handle a situation
...Do all of that, and you’ll be giving yourself the best possible chance to win back
your ex… even though they’re ignoring you right now.
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