Hello my wonderful friend! Today's video is on things that guys do that girls love. Specifically,
what it really means to pursue a woman. I'm gonna let you in on a secret: Pursuing a woman
the right way is one of the very most attractive things you can do, as long as we're talking about
high quality women here. Sometimes it makes toxic women mad, but you really shouldn't be
attracting them anyway, right? Are you ever in the friend zone or do your relationships just
not really seem to go anywhere or do you ever find that the gal you're interested in finds
someone else? If any of that sounds like you then pursuing is something you need to learn how to do,
like right now. In this video, you're going to learn some of the biggest mistakes men make when
they pursue that end up getting them rejected, what to do instead, and some good examples of
what it actually looks like to pursue a woman the right way. Does that sound good? Be sure you
watch to the end. Now before we dive in if this is your first time watching one of my videos,
welcome! My name is Melannie. I'm a Christian dating coach for men. I teach you the skills
you need to attract the girl of your dreams and the relationship of your dreams
instead of those bad dead-end relationships. Not only do you get a woman's perspective but
I'm also a certified coach which means what I teach you is based on science not mind games. So
make sure you subscribe, ring the notification bell, and give me a big thumbs up. Now you may
have seen this video or maybe even this video on pursuing. And if you have by now you already know
that pursuing is really attractive to women. Like really attractive. It's one of the things that
makes her see you as a man. It makes her see you as confident, she feels safe when she's with you,
and she thinks you're super super hot. It really just lights her heart on fire.
Now I'm gonna mention this one more time just because I know I'm going to get comments on this.
If you're not seeing this in women it's probably because they're toxic.
You have to ask yourself what the type of woman you're trying to attract is and use the skills
that will get that type of woman. High quality women, real women, the kind of woman who wants
to spend her entire life loving you, yeah, she wants to be pursued. Now you might be thinking
right now "okay, Melannie, but I've pursued in the past and it did not go well." Is that what
you're thinking right now? That's okay. That's why I wanted to talk about the biggest mistakes
when you pursue a woman. Because if you know the mistakes, if you know what you're doing wrong,
that's how you know what to do right so you can avoid that rejection. Because the truth is
it's painful, right? When you finally work up the courage to pursue her and it goes bad. That's not
what you want, that's not what I want for you, so pay very close attention. When you pursue a woman
you need to look at the big picture. It's so much more than asking her out or getting her number.
It really comes down to what's your body language when you get her number, what do you say when you
get her number, so that conversation is easy and fun and light and does not make her feel awkward.
How do you flirt with her? Do you know how to flirt with her in a way that makes her
feel comfortable and attracted to you? It's so much more than just asking for her number. Does
that make sense? It's a big picture instead of the little picture. Those dating basics are key, like
your body language and what you say to her. When you have those dating basics, when you know them,
that's what makes it fun, guys. That's what makes it so that you don't have to worry about being
rejected. Instead, you attract her and impress her really easily. That's how you get the girl fast
and easy without all that ghosting and rejection. This is why I tell you guys all the time you have
to have the right skills and you have to have the right game plan, right? That's why I love
teaching this in my program, is guys, it's so effective. Now when you don't look at the big
picture and your body language is awkward or you don't know what to say to her and that makes her
feel awkward or when flirting doesn't go the way you wanted it to, that's what makes you needy,
that's what makes you aggressive, that's what makes it awkward and uncomfortable and that
is what gets you rejected. So what's the solution? How do you make sure you don't make that mistake?
How do you make sure you don't keep getting rejected? You look at the big picture. You learn
those dating basics, those dating and relationship skills and you apply them with your game plan. I'm
about to give you some examples of how to pursue and it's very important that you have a game plan
so you know what you're doing. Otherwise, it's going to end in total disaster. If you would like
my help with that game plan I have it all made up for you. Be sure to watch my free masterclass.
You're going to learn more about these skills and game plan in that masterclass. There is a link
in the description below to watch that. And as an added bonus if you are in the friend zone a lot or
if you do get rejected a lot or your relationships just don't go anywhere no matter how hard you try,
you're going to learn why that happens in that free masterclass as well. You're going to learn
why it happens and you're going to learn what to do instead. So do make sure you give it a watch.
There's a link in the description and a link in the pinned comment. Okay, now that you know what
causes you to be rejected when you pursue and you know what to do instead by learning those dating
basics and having that game plan let's move on to some examples of what it looks like to pursue. I'm
just gonna say this one more time, guys, when it comes to things guys do that girls love, uh, yeah,
pursuing is at the top of the list. It's so attractive. Now one example of pursuing her is to
ask for her number. Guys, never, ever, ever, ever, ever, promise me now, write it in the comments,
never give her your number. Always ask her for hers. And again, if you're not
entirely sure how to say that, how to word that, that's where the dating basics come in.
But just know that if you give her your number, guys, she feels awkward. And frankly,
she sees you as weak and not confident. She feels dumb, she doesn't know what to do with that,
and she certainly doesn't feel attracted to you. She certainly doesn't feel pursued, she doesn't
feel that fire that lights up when there's a confident attractive man. So giving her your
number is a definite no. You always want to make sure you ask her for hers. And then you follow up.
I'm serious guys, please, in the comments, promise me you will never give a girl your number, okay?
Please. Comment "I promise!" No lie. And while you're there. I would actually love to hear from
you in the comments. Have you ever tried to pursue a woman and it hasn't gone well or do you have any
questions about pursuing? Please tell me in the comments. I love to hear from you guys. All right,
let's get back to talking about things guys do the girls love. Guys, another fabulous example
of pursuing her the right way is flirting with her. It's super super cute. Not to mention
super fun. If she does not know that you are interested in her she will move on. She just will.
She has no other option. If you're not interested she's going to find someone who is. And obviously
flirting when done right is showing her that you are interested in her, that you are attracted
to her, that you want to get to know her better, but not in like a friend way, in like a date kind
of way. Flirting is one of my favorite things to teach because it is so powerful. You need to let
her know that "hey, you're cute, and I'm cute, and we should get to know each other better." "hey,
I noticed you, I'm attracted to you, and I would like to get to know you better." Do not hide the
fact that you are interested unless you want to end up in the friend zone. Not a good place to be,
is it? Do make sure you also watch this video if you are struggling with the friend zone.
Not a good place to be and flirting and pursuing in general is a good way to avoid that. My next
example on how to pursue and things guys do the girls love is to make sure you lead out in the
relationship. Do you want her to see you as a man and as confident and like you have a lot of
self-respect? Then you need to make sure you are taking the initiative to lead out. That includes
things like paying for the date, asking her out, and letting her know you have feelings for her at
the appropriate time. You obviously don't want to do it too soon or you're going to freak her out.
But when you lead out in a relationship like that, that shows that you have a lot of self-respect,
you have a lot of confidence in yourself. And that's what makes her see you as masculine,
that's what helps her see "wow, this man would be a really good partner." That's what makes her
attracted to you, because she sees you as a confident attractive man. Okay, let's sum up
what you have learned so far. The reason so many awesome guys get rejected when they pursue a woman
is because frankly, they don't know what they're doing. They don't have those dating basics. You
have to look at pursuing as a big picture. It's so much more than just a cheesy pickup line.
So the solution is to get those dating basics and to have a game plan of how you are going to use
those skills. Again, if you would like my help with that do make sure you watch that free
masterclass to learn more about those skills and that game plan. Next we talked about some examples
of pursuing her and what that even looks like. The first example is to ask for her number. Never,
ever, ever, give her your number. Also, you want to make sure you flirt with her. Do not hide that
you are interested in her unless you want to end up in the friend zone. As long as you have those
dating basics flirting with her is very easy, very natural, and does not creep her out. And make sure
that you lead out in the relationship, that you show initiative in the relationship. You ask her
out, and you let her know you have feelings for her. That is how you show her that you are a man,
you are a leader, you are confident, and you are attractive. Thank you so much for watching
my amazing friend! If you enjoyed what you saw be sure to give me a big thumbs up and subscribe and
ring that notification bell if you have not yet. I want to hear from you in the comments. Do you have
any questions about pursuing or any stories you'd like to share with me there? If you do, please
leave them in the comments below. Do you have a friend who really needs to know the things guys do
that girls love, and needs to know how to pursue a woman the right way? Please share this with him.
If we're not your friends on social media I would love to connect with you there. There are links
in the description below for that as well. Thank you so much again my amazing friend and have an
amazing day! [blooper beep] All right, here we go. [singing funnily] Here we go! [laughter] I
don't even know what that was. Okay. It's gonna be one of those blooper real days. I can feel it.
Hello- Off to a good start. Okay, now that you know
why you get rejected- Oh, yeah. Now that you know what, what- [messed up]
[laughter] Yeah! Jazz hands! Just kidding. [laughter]
Okay, now that you know what causes you to be rejected when you pursue and you know- [laughter]
Okay. Now one example of pursuing a woman the right way
is to ask for her number. Guys, never, never, ever, ever, ever, ever, promise me,
right now- [laughter] Okay, I just hit my table. Okay. You have to look at... [pause]
Pursuing! [laughter] Thank you so much for watching my amazing- Oh,
yeah. What? [laughter] I lost my train of thought. I want to hear from you in the comments- [pause]
Yeah, I do. [laughter] My mind just went
blank.