Harry used to be the unofficial 'sporting royal' of the British Monarchy, and any quick
Google search is enough to confirm that... past.
But, since Catherine is the new patron of Rugby, it only means trouble for the Montecito
couple, and you're about to understand why.
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Catherine is officially the new royal patron of the Rugby Football Union and Rugby Football
League.
This patronage was given by Her Majesty The Queen herself, after the role was previously
held by Harry.
But what most people are not aware is that this marks the first of Harry's former patronages
to be rediSTRIbuted to another member of the Royal Family since the Montecito Morons stepped
back from their roles as senior working royals.
If you've been following my videos, you might already be aware of how every action at this
level of public personalities has so much weight.
And it makes you wonder what kind of message did the Queen want to send with this decision.
Now, there is one concept that is going to be important, which is perception of character.
Perception of character is something that happens automatically in our brains and in
fact, it's a bit uncomfortable to talk about.
Because it has a lot to do with prejudices.
The best way to illustrate this, is to remember those actors and actresses that most of the
time are just playing themselves.
I mean, they're making an effort to act.
They're professionals of acting, but in general, studios tend to fit a person's appearance,
mannerisms and character to the role they are gonna play.
In fact, sometimes the movie or screenplay is written for an actor in particular.
Some examples off the top of my head are Ryan Reynolds, that usually fits the 'sarcastic
action man', or Jessica Chastain, who is usually the 'smart strong woman', or Adam Sandler,
who got away with the "Funny Man-Child".
Yes, they have played a variety of characters, but if you put those characters side by side,
you'll begin to notice patterns.
Those are the same patterns that we can see when we search for Harry's being sporty.
There's no way that you can miss that he was really enjoying it, and I think it was a good
message for the image of the Royal Family.
Sadly, those days are gone and now he just looks absolutely devoid of that energy.
It has been a radical change almost at the same time of his relationship with Meghan.
That change in character is like you have an Adam Sandler movie and put Clint Eastwood
in it.
It is not going to work.
We usually perceive character in a number of ways.
For example, if you put Ryan Gosling and Tommy Lee Jones side by side, and I ask you, which
one of them looks more dangerous to you, well, maybe you'll pick Jones, who usually plays
the "rugged town sheriff".
I mentioned that this has to do with prejudices, because we always make this kind of guesses
on the fly, on people that we've never met.
We assume that a slim man with a smile is just friendly, and a rugged man with a broad
jaw can be dangerous.
That's automatic, but most of the time, unfair.
Because I'm sure you don't want people to judge you by how you look, but that's exactly
how first impressions work.
Now, there's another way to perceive character, and that's why I mentioned the pictures of
Harry playing sports.
But the same goes for Catherine, who already has quite a catalog of sports photos on her
own.
It's almost like she needs her own Wii Sports edition.
And that is also a message that she wants to project, and I'm sure the Royal Family
wants her to project that message.
Because, as I was mentioning character and how we perceive it, the actions related to
one person usually condition that perception.
For example, If I put a photo of Jason Statham, you'll automatically think of firing weapons,
roundhouse kicks and high speed chases.
Basically, that's what Jason Statham does.
And he does it well!
But it goes both ways, because even if you know he's an actor, you tend to associate
those actions with him, personally.
As if Jason Statham can actually save you from the mafia.
Maybe Harry should hire him for his next visit to the UK.
That's how our brain works.
But we are not talking about guns, punches and horsepower.
We are talking about sports.
And sports have a very clear symbolism.
Sports are usually associated with a competition, but in a deeper level, they are a symbol of
youth and fun.
And I'm going to prove it to you, right now.
Because if you see a photo of an old man playing football, you'll instantly have the feeling
that he is actually younger than he is, or at least he feels younger.
And of course, having fun.
You don't know this man, but this activity is also conditioning the way you perceive
his character.
What we do, and which actions people usually see us engaged in, end up conditioning their
perception about us.
So, it's no wonder that those pictures of Catherine were so uplifting.
Because on one hand, she's got quite a record of being related to sports.
And now, she's becoming the patron of rugby.
That has a meaning.
Harry used to have that patronage because he used to embody that youth, that fun, that
engagementt in a healthy competition.
Well, healthy no more, so...
Of course, since Harry is not a working royal anymore, it was a matter of time until he
would have been stripped of this patronage.
But what is relevant is that this is going to Catherine.
And we already mentioned that sports are a symbol of youth and fun, which are two concepts
that the Cambridges are trying to leverage to bring the monarchy to the new generations.
It's like Harry used to be the ambassador of that youth and fun, but he's no more.
And let's face it.
He no longer looks either young or fun.
That must be one of the reasons he was desperate to be photographed at the Super Bowl.
Because he had lost that edge, that image association with sports, especially with Catherine
so prominently featured in so many outlets lately.
And recently, overcoming William as the second most popular royal.
You can imagine how damaging it could be for Harry's reputation if, on one hand, he has
no longer been seen playing sports.
Well, in fact, he has no longer been seen having fun.
So that's sad enough.
So he must be trying to be identified, in some way, with those days when he was the
most 'sporty royal' of all.
But he lost that crown.
Now, I'm sure that the concept of 'character perception' stayed ringing in your head, and
you might be worried about how people perceive you.
I get questions like this all the time.
"I'm too serious", or "I'm too cheerful most of the time", "I'd like to be more like everyone
else, I'd like to fit in".
Now, it's important to be aware of how others perceive us.
We need that feedback, especially to have some kind of measure of our own behavior.
But it shouldn't be to the point that we become concerned with one characteristic, maybe of
our physical features, or our personality, or our behavior, to the point that we would
like to change in order to fit.
That never works.
And which better example than the Meghan Mask.
That's what happens when you try to act like a friendly human being.
The mask is going to slip, sooner or later.
Yeah, first impressions matter a lot.
But they are never everything.
You always have the opportunity to fix, whatever issue you might have when people meet you
for the first time.
Ironically, if you're too concerned or worried about how to do that first impression with
people, the more insecure you will seem, and the more untrustworthy you could be perceived.
I suggest that instead of paying attention to the things you don't like about yourself,
pay attention to those that you DO like.
Just a shift in focus will work wonders.
That will reflect in your body language and also, in how others perceive your true character.
So it's worth a try.
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