perseverance and persistence on a recovery Journey that's what we're talking about today I'm Dr Trish
Lee thanks for joining me in this video this is an important one if you have chosen to leave porn
behind and create a new life without it it can be tricky on the way and if you don't know I'm
I'm engaging I say that uh with I don't know whatever in my voice I'm engaging in my own
recovery program from healing myself from toxic mold poisoning and I tell you the journey is very
much like the Journey of porn addiction recovery all recovery Journeys are very similar and I gotta
be honest with you today I'm tired I do not feel like living my life never mind engaging in healing
again today today is a day where I want to check out but I'm not going to check out instead I'm
making you this video so that I can reinvigorate myself on my own healing journey and remind you
that not every day is going to be easy I made videos yesterday roses and sunshine because I
felt good today I don't feel good and I'm making you one anyway so let's talk about it here's what
we're going to talk about what is perseverance what is persistence we're going to talk about
number two is what happens in your brain when you exercise perseverance instead of checking
out it's amazing and it helps you on your healing Journey it can be the thing that gives you the
greatest strength in this whole journey and then number three how do you exercise persistence and
perseverance when you just don't feel like it okay so number one persistence perseverance what
is it well persistence is staying the course that you've set the intention and you've put
the action steps in place to follow so in a porn brain rewire you've already made the commitment
and you said okay I'm doing this you're showing up for the no porn November challenge you are in it
now today's day one of the of the no porn November challenge so this video will come out tomorrow
but I'm recording it on November 1st the first day first days are easy you're inspired you're
psyched second days may be pretty good you know Third Day fourth day right now I'm on what feels
like the millionth day of my healing journey and of course I wake up not feeling great and I'm like
what the heck man just give a girl a break can't I just feel better each day it doesn't work that way
healing isn't like this unfortunately it's like this it's got Peaks and valleys on the way to the
ultimate Summit and I know that so that's going to be number three what do I do on those days
of a valley instead of a peak so persistence is even though it gets difficult you're still going
to do it you don't give up you don't check out you keep going you persist you use perseverance to do
that perseverance is the strength and the courage that you muster up from inside to possibly course
correct on a day that is challenging I'm gonna tell you how I'm going to course correct today
and number three but recognizing that you're going to have the strength and the courage and you can
stay the course but you might have to change what you're doing for the day or the moment but you're
not giving up you're going to persevere you're stronger than you know and you can do this so
don't give up okay so number two let's talk about what's going on in your brain when first of all
when you feel anxious tired overwhelmed and then what happens in your brain when you persist and
persevere when you feel tired that is when your brain is using too much slow speed too much Theta
so I know that I'm I know better so I'm not going to give up just because today my brain's using
more Theta when your Theta increases it is a sign that you need a break your brain is working too
hard something has made it so that your brain has slowed down and I'll tell you what it's made it
that way for me what's made it that way for me is it was Halloween weekend I was entirely too busy
for a sick girl but I just kept doing the things of my old life which I can't do which is a huge
part of the message I don't even want to do but I have to be able to have the strength to say I'm
not doing all these things I'm only doing half of them so I didn't I pushed through a lot this
past weekend and then yesterday was Monday it was Halloween I never bought any candy because I have
been sick and I've been busy so uh of course there's no Halloween candy on Halloween night
I thought there would be the last two years with covid there's been extra candy this year none
completely gutted looks like the world's back to giving out Halloween candy so of course I had to
run around trying to score myself some candy of course when my kids got home they're like Patty
why'd you buy this and I'm like it was the bottom of the barrel children thank you Mom for getting
the candy anyways I was too busy running around for Halloween and honestly I was beat by the
time I was trick-or-treat time but I just pushed through went trick-or-treating you know what I did
a little self-care I looked up the best Halloween episodes of shows the one I could find the easiest
was community and it was really fun and enjoyable to just chill after trick-or-treat time that is
one good decision I made and then I went to bed early it was really fun it was a little self-care
blanket at the end of the night trying to take care of myself after a long weekend but anyways
here we are November 1st my brain's cranking with Theta I'm tired so if I try to push through today
and if I try to push through again I'm going to increase my high beta that anxiety mode in my
brain and I don't want to do that I can already feel it happening now for me with mold poisoning
there's a pretty wild thing with mold poisoning you can look it up is that I don't feel anxious
but my body is buzzing it's a thing with mold poisoning your cells literally buzz when you're
overdoing it so I've been buzzing for a couple days so that buzzing in my body is telling me
slow down dude take naps do more of the healing less of the running around I've ignored that voice
inside me and I'm gonna pay the price if I don't listen to it today and I'm going to that's why I
was inspired to tell you listen to that voice in your head when you're on your porn brain rewire
you can't do the exact same thing you were doing in your old life or you get the same outcome your
brain's going to be in that pendulum effect of too much Theta slowing your brain down making it feel
tired overwhelmed unmotivated and too much High beta making you feel anxious or making you buzz
so I don't want that that's not what I want for you and it's certainly not what I want
for me because I've committed my time money and energy to healing and getting these dang toxins
out of my body so I can be healthy again and it goes back to the scales of justice that I talk
about if I keep pushing through and I keep stressing my system out I'm going to be sick
again but anytime I try to push through I have to balance that scales with stress release and with
healing so that leads us to number three today number three today is extend yourself Grace and
self-compassion today don't check out don't give up that's not a choice surrender is not a choice
we burn the boats on this thing we got on the boat we went over to this island of recovery me
and you were like we're gonna put this crap from the past in the past we're gonna learn from it
but we are gonna do new things in the present to get new outcomes in the future and then we burn
the boat when we got to that island of recovery we burnt the boat there's no going back I believe
that was George Washington who said that we are not going back we're here on the island of porn
brain rewire recovery excuse me it's one of those days so what happens once we're on that island is
there's no giving up it's do or die so we're in it so here's the way that you persevere and you
persist get your Journal out and write this down so you can remember it on future tricky days if
you have if you have them hopefully you don't on the challenging days double down on your healing
program so first thing this morning I did my morning routine my meditation I have not done
neurofeedback yet today but I plan on doing it in just a little bit for me I have to use my weird
personal sauna to sweat the toxins out of my body and I have to use my personal fitness trampoline
to activate my lymph system and get it going I have all of that planned for today and I have it
scheduled if it's not scheduled it's not real I scheduled it in and they've already started the
day in a really positive way and I'm also going to extend myself self-compassion and I'm going
to have the courage to say no today would you like to go do this no Mom I need this not today
I'm going to show up and say no to things so that I can get the care that I need I'm gonna
put myself first so that I can heal especially today when my brain's out here in the pendulum
so I can bring it back to the middle when your brain's in the middle that's the mode of healing
so we have to get our brains back to this middle mode where first of all we're able to engage in
our healing programs and it sticks okay I hope this motivates you to stay the course because I
know how difficult it can be on the challenging days and when I show up all bubbly and you're
having one of those days and I'm like let's go dude and you're like listen lady I'm having one
of those days well I understand because this lady's having one of those days I totally
totally get it but I also know that you can do it you're stronger than you know all right if you're
looking for help on the journey please go over to Dr trishlee.com my team and I are here for you my
90-day program is exactly what you need to stay the course and to have the tools the techniques
and strategies to make it to the other side of this thing you can't usually do this alone I'm
so glad to be here on YouTube with you but usually you need someone in your corner I have people in
my corner right now and I literally don't know what I would do without them they are helping
me stay my course so that I can move through this thing to a better version of me and I want to be
able to help you do the same okay until next time control your brain or it'll control you