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hello there everyone okay so here's the
deal most of my videos are pretty
serious they're about these very deep
and tense subjects and how to heal them
today I figured I'd give you a little
bit of a break from that and do
something really really fun except for
this is kind of fun for those of us that
are self-awareness nerds
okay so way back when I was 18 years old
I was friends with a guy who was
studying relational psychology
now relational psychology is essentially
found that no matter what race you are
gender you are where you were raised
anything humans in general associate
things with other things
and we can use that to our advantage
long story short years ago he played a
game with me I didn't like this game I
loved it and I've been playing it ever
since so I'm going to tell you how this
game is played so you can start playing
with other people to play this game you
have to get somebody to answer three
questions the first their favorite color
and three deep reasons why the second
their favorite animal and three deep
reasons why and third their favorite
form or body of water and three deep
reasons why for those who don't know a
form of water is something like snow or
ice or rain whereas a body of water
could be something like the Pacific
Ocean or a birdbath or a jacuzzi or a
waterfall if you have never done this
exercise yourself stop this video right
here now and answer those three
questions for yourself and when you're
done answering those questions turn this
video back on
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when they are answering these questions
try to lead them into being as deep as
they possibly can be for example saying
something like I like blue because it's
the color of the ocean it's not a deep
answer saying something like I like blue
because it's infinite is a deep answer
so let's say somebody gives you that
answer
I like blue because it's the color of
the ocean you got a proud them a little
and say what do you like about the ocean
so you're going to have them do this
with each question but what you get to
know is that they're actually answering
the question about something entirely
different their favorite color actually
represents the truth about how they see
themselves how they view their own
personality their favorite animal is the
truth about what they want in an ideal
life partner and their favorite form or
body of water is the truth about their
view of their own sexuality and their
attitude towards sex and some might even
argue because sex is the nature of life
their attitude towards life itself while
you're watching the person answer the
questions you're also taking note of how
they answer those questions after you
asked that question to them everything
they do or say or every little gesture
they're make can be analyzed for example
if it takes somebody a long time to
figure out what their favorite color is
chances are that that means that they
struggle to understand themselves if you
have somebody who has a hard time
playing this game at all that's probably
not a very introspective person another
thing that could be a potential as if
somebody comes up with a difficult time
answering the color question they may
hate the idea of being tied down to
being one way or another as you're
observing them just ask yourself what
does the way they're answering tell me
about this person obviously this
exercise is designed to get people to
expose aspects of themselves that they
may not consciously be aware of about
themselves obviously for the sake of
this video I have to tell you what this
game is about but it is play way way way
better when you play this game with
somebody without even telling them what
it's about because you run the risk if
people actually do know what they're
actually telling you about
of tinkering with and altering the
answers so that they aren't real they're
just what they want you to think about
them
you may think this game is just a fun
little party game but let me tell you
something I believe so much in free
association as it applies to the
subconscious mind that I have in fact
ended dates straight up based off of
this game I'll give you an example years
ago when I was about 19 I was on a date
with a guy and I asked him these
questions now this guy told me that his
favorite animal was a butterfly because
they're always gorgeous they never show
up unless you want them to show up
they're silent sounds like a match made
in heaven right so long story short go
ahead and try this out not only in
yourself but on the people you know and
the people that you don't know and have
a good week
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