I'd like to get to know who everybody is, how long you've
been together, what's currently working for you in the intimacy
department, and what's something you would like to improve.
So we can get to know each other a little bit better
and then I can talk about the products
that might be able to help with some of those needs.
So we'll start here.
After 15, 16 years, you want to change things up.
Sometimes, I need a little different.
OK.
I want a little ombre.
No, no, no, no, no, no.
Well, we're going to get there.
Let me hear from your partner and what he likes
and what he wants.
I'm not her partner, I'm her husband.
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My sex life has been amazing.
Recently over the last few years has gotten better.
I don't know if she's going through a phase.
Ah. Are you in your early 40s?
Bitch, no.
[LAUGHTER]
In your early 40s, their libido tends
to be increased at that age.
Ashley is like, B, no.
[LAUGHTER]
At least Winter can honestly see this is
how Ashley is with everybody.
You know what?
It's because I didn't dye this gray hair
and I knew I should have. - Right.
So she actually kind of hit the nail on the head.
And I feel like over the last few years,
she is just, like, I give it my all.
And my all is--
but even after the all and then a couple of rounds--
She's still ready to go some more.
So now, I work a lot, I get a little tired.
He's old, he has gout.
[LAUGHTER]
I'm still young and tender.
So after banging it out, like, beating
her breaks off, pulling the hair, spitting on all that,
I fall asleep.
This is after five rounds.
And then she's like, baby.
I'm like, baby, like baby?
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So other than that, no complaints.
So we just got to get to a little bit more energy
to keep up with. - I'm OK.
I have energy. This is five rounds.
Most men go one round and need pills.
We're not talking about most men, we're talking about you.
Tell him my business. Exactly.
OK. Thank you.
Thank you. - You're welcome.
Next.
I feel like our sex life has gone
downhill because I have an issue with him
not having a vasectomy.
I don't want to get pregnant anymore, so I'm very
nervous about getting pregnant.
So we have even resorted to him wearing condoms because I
am just so, like, afraid.
You can't help with that, can you?
I brought plenty of them too.
If anybody needs you, it's these two.
Once you've been together so long,
I think we have something called "lazy sex."
We're both older, we've been around each other 30 years.
So I think, for me, I'm still just
as horny as I was back then.
But she's not really that same person.
OK.
Like, when I want to do oral sex, she's like, ew, gross.
I don't say it's gross.
Well, whatever this man.
Yeah.
I'm not really into it.
So it's almost like we're brothers and sisters now.
Like, we've been together so long, that it's weird.
My stop to him is let's hurry up and get
this over because I'm tired.
Brother and sister sex?
No, not ever acceptable.
Like, come on.
We ain't ever trying to be like that.
That's crazy.
Let me ask, is there something that he could
do that would allow you to have a little bit
more time in your day to get rejuvenated to have
sex at night?
More intimacy because it's always like.
That's like, all right, turn over, let's do this.
The buildup was 10 years ago.
I haven't seen that in 10 years.
If you could spend more time with the buildup
and the passion and what she's asking for,
she's going to feel more inclined to give it to you
more.
You got to be specific in what you're asking for from him of I
need you to rub me down, I need you to, like,
take it in the shower with me.
Give him the roadmap.
I know he knew what it was 10 years ago,
but it's different now.
Right.
Because I don't want quickies, I want romance
and all that kind of stuff. - Oh, you do?
- Yeah. - OK.
Romance me.
OK.
She's telling you how to get her there.
Right.
Can you move that big penis thing, though?
[LAUGHTER]
I got to move my seat or something.
- It's making you uncomfortable? - I'm real uncomfortable.
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OK, next.
I'm Monique.
And Chris and I have been together,
like, humping for 16 years.
So we've been married for 10.
And when it comes to our intimacy, we have great sex.
Honestly, if that was a complaint,
we wouldn't be married.
But I feel like it comes down to the love language,
the intimacy, the affection.
I feel like we have selfish sex, whoever climaxes first is done.
OK.
And I don't want that anymore.
I want us to both enjoy it.
It's great, but I feel like it can be a lot better.
OK.
And I feel like I want to get back to where we used to be as
far as being emotionally in tune with each other in our sex
life.
I don't want to just bang, bang, bang, bang, bang, bang,
I want to, like, make love.
I'm going to say something very personal.
When I was probably four or five,
we had a lot of relatives in New York City.
You know, I'm from Alabama, we went to visit the relatives.
And my older brothers, I'm the youngest of four total,
and they broke out this movie at my aunt's house.
And I'm watching porn as a young child.
Right.
So a lot of what I was taught with sex
was the porn side of it.
Bang, bang, bang, do this, do that, do this, do that.
And it's all male satisfaction.
Yes, it is.
It is.
Start off with nasty books, all of us, all of us guys.
And I'm being honest.
So a lot of the way I've taught to interact with a woman
is from the porn side.
And Monique lately, she's like I want real intimacy,
I want lovemaking, I want us to be spiritually connected.
But this is what I know, you know?
But I will say this, Valentine's night, I'm starting to get it.
It was more connected.
Valentine's night was, like, wow.
Amazing.
This is what we've been needing.
Valentine's night.
No, no, let me get it.
You say you want me to talk.
Valentine's night was popping.
Uh, uh, uh.
All I know is we went out to dinner, we talked for a while.
Eventually, the drinks got to flowing drinks.
We went home and it was like the old Monique on top of me.
And it was an amazing night.
All I know is I woke up probably two hours later
and she was passed out on top of me.
[LAUGHTER]
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