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it states be a state thank you for the
invitation I'm excited to be here but
I'm also excited because in a couple of
weeks
I'm good food one of my most favorite
places in the world it's on a wee Ivan
break up in the north right on the edge
of right on the edge of Scotland
although if you stop it's on the edge in
there at the same time that's how you
see the world but in there it's a place
called the Ring of Brodgar standing
stones that are about 5000 he is off and
it's an incredible place to go and I
love to stand there just at dusk
there's some good stable think of five
millennia of human beings who've
gathered there for different reasons and
been taken in by the wildness and the
silence and the sense of history beneath
your feet and connection to humanity in
your heart there's an extraordinary
place to just remind yourself of what it
is to be alive and part of the whole
human chain dispersed ain't there
there's an incredible archaeological dig
where they discovered what they're
calling a cathedral although obviously
that's I cannot boil the main thread oh
please Wendy we used to gather 5,000
years ago for celebration and dancing
and eating and all that kind of stuff of
course being archaeologists they know
this because they dug it momentum well
the jaw binocular Jesus she's maybe take
another people rubbish it's also
disconcerting thing to think that in
reality you might think
footprint of your legacy actually but
what's extraordinary about that is that
they've discovered from digging in that
matter the full gallop on a regular
basis 5,000 years ago from different
parts of all came to meet together on a
regular basis so they didn't have Google
Maps in those days and only calendars
and all the ways that they just had the
Stars and the seasons to know when to
arrive together there and their tough
reality of life there they took time to
use those things of nature to be
together to build community to build
their trade in whatever form that came
to not jump those relationships because
that was how they lived and cope with
living and that place all those years
ago
where did they do that because at that
primal level we are fundamentally social
beings we find out who we are in the
quality of the relationships we have and
the time we spend in natural
relationships that is the heart of her
existence the moral philosopher John
McMurray he was in it burn 1850s says
that all seeking of knowledge is for the
sake of action and all actions of the
sake of relationships because the moment
we drop in the womb we are the
relationships our well-being our health
lies in the relationships of those
around us and the quality of them and if
anonymously should be then that can be
damaged
if they are as they should be that is
the space and the place when we begin to
flourish we find out who we are and why
we are and whatever can be relationships
define us and how we define ourselves
the solution or the work done around
what called adverse childhood
experiences where fork and discovered
that folk who are in tough realities are
often there because they couldn't be in
the relationships they needed to be all
the relationship they had more damaged
than their previous in their every life
and their development so then they
experience alcohol and drugs did they
experience violence did they experience
the plate that experienced poverty and
although they did in their early lives
and if they did they were more likely to
end up in jail more likely to end up in
you know health and the other damaging
places but what's the dentist think
about that is not just that connection
between adversity and broken
relationships and tough realities but
those who had those experiences and
didn't end up in a play that's what
university looked at that group and what
did they discover was the commonality
wasn't that they got a program or had an
intervention or got a job
the common feature in their lines was
that they had a trusted adult to whom
they did come whenever it could have be
the state mascot there could have been a
teacher it could be another football
coach it could have been just somebody's
granny he wasn't trying to fix them or
soak them or make everything better
they were just there for him and in that
space they discovered the attention
to be who they were and so he didn't to
be jelly well a lot of people who are in
tough realities and what we know is that
solutions might not take telling someone
how they should fix their lives but
joining with someone so that they can
discover in themselves and in that
relationship that potential they may
have what is the new community that we
set up in a small flat and lead and it's
for folk who've been in hospital because
of mental health challenges and one of
them talking when you get me got to this
place he said this is the first place I
call home the last six years my home has
been a bed with a complement and he'd
been in that ward so long that he
literally become homeless and friend mom
because he lost his tenancy and his
friend stopped coming because it was
hard what all was coming to that space
as he was struggling to get his meds
lengthen all the rest and then the
medical profession we candidate good
till he's ready who decides he's been he
should be same any training not someone
else
so keep Leslie sent a call they swore
because I got to choose the duvet cover
and mcoppins and mcLaughlin and when I
eat Monroe England those were the things
that matter and no his probably his
quits I purpose the thing he does to
flourish it's hurtful ground for coffee
and King and he does that so we can
raise money for a lot of charities he
runs his own meat coffee morning and his
home so that he can heal almost though
he still has to take his meds but those
maids only work because of all the other
things around the relationship
position to be part of you also have
gathered in that same hospital grains
and it's accountant we have who come
from the hospital patients and staff and
folk from the community we build a
community around gluing stuff and
growing it and how to spin it and have a
noose together because we know that
people with mental health challenges are
often more like become socially taken
some and therefore will know so this is
a trap chance to try and get full and
intervene early on so that they do it
ain't nothing that something stands and
we did that because it was about
community and relationships and anything
he want but they could discover to began
to work in a way we hadn't expected
because we discovered that the patients
who came to the hospital actually spent
they people the gardens actually spend
less time in hospital so we sent the NHS
well you know what helping you do your
job although interesting we the reason
they said yes was the staff also said
you know like
that's it the reason that's what's for
me that's because when I see people
eating fruit that I have planted I'm
good you they're eating fruit can change
somebody's but it does of course we hate
it is that these many beverage hates me
but I can't sell the fruit to the
hospital for them to end up in their
wards because I don't one last story we
just set up a project for a vet support
veterans about PTSD and other mental
health challenge we've done it because
what we're doing is support not that the
effects themselves directly but their
families because we know the families
are part of the solution at least
mentally not part of the problem because
what often happens is they go through
the trance of a personal challenge and
actually damages the relationships
because they can't be meeting with it
they don't have to deal with it and then
that brings something that makes a
problem with emotion it's a spiral so
we're supporting the families to be part
of the solution by focusing on the
relationships that they have and what's
he saying about is that that was
actually instigated by the NHS mental
health fund understood that he stopped
just seen the presenting bed collection
and start seeing not just the whole
person but all the relationships that
made that person who they are and who
they may be in forgiving the right
option we are not spam than it is in
relationships the fellowship can really
happen so when I go to the ring abroad
camp unless
I'm listening for those spike those
little voices telling me about being in
relationship being in community being
and trade be whatever we wish to call it
they do that thing and we know it then
we are cold I believe to serve the
neighbor and a stranger and even those
who make the strengthens else's identity
and we do that first and foremost by
finding the ways of building
relationship so they're not just day but
we can Flemish and truly be in the human
beings we must
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