Should A Gentleman Swear Profanity SCIENCE & How To Cuss Effectively!
[0:00:00] Mother... [bleeping sound]. Son of a... [bleeping
sound]. Bloody... [bleeping sound]. In today’s video, gents, I’m going to
talk about the advantages and disadvantages of using swear words.
Are you ready for this video? Let’s do it. [Music]
Should a gentleman swear? I want to hear your opinion down in the comments.
Quick fact. The word [bleeping sound] is the most recognizable English cuss word out there.
And a little known fact is it’s actually an acronym. It stands for fornication under
the consent of the king. It can be used as a verb, noun, adjective, adverb, and prefix.
[Bleeping sound] yourself. [Bleeping sound] yourself. [Bleeping sound] you. Get the [bleeping
sound] off. As a noun, you can insult somebody by calling
them a [bleeping sound]. You can call them a [bleeping sound]. You can actually indicate
currency of how much you care by going with [bleeping sound] or you can call a situation
that’s all messed up a cluster [bleeping sound].
As an adjective, you can make something more negative by saying it’s [bleeping sound]
or you can just simply indicate emphasis by saying [bleeping sound].
Now, you may be asking what’s the purpose of that brief lesson on the F word. Because
I want you to understand there are many different ways to use this. Some people are going to
say, “You know what? If you’re using cuss words, you have a limited vocabulary, therefore
you come off as unintelligent. However, if you can use the swear words in
the different forms and people aren’t offended by it, it can actually show levels of intelligence
because you understand the different ways to be able to use a singular word with different
emphasis in ways of pronouncing it. Pretty interesting, right? But, again, there
is a caveat, it is situational-dependent. You’ve got to pay attention to the audience
to the people that you’re interacting with. There are some swear words, which literally
go against people’s religion to say them, and you need to be aware of that.
However, if you’re in a safe audience, there are situations in which this can show, hey,
that you’ve got a mastery of the language. So, with that being said, let’s talk a little
bit more about the negative. Using swear words and not even knowing that you’re using them
and showing that you are deaf to the people that you’re speaking with.
I’ve seen this happen multiple times when somebody just it’s a natural part of their
lexicon and they throw it out there and they forget that there may be are children in the
audience. Or that there are people that just simply they’re not used to this type of
language. And, all of a sudden, it doesn’t matter
what message that person has when they thrown out those words, they’ve instantly disqualify
themselves as an expert or someone of an authority position or that deserves that authority position.
They’ve instantly remove themselves simply because of that language.
On the flipside, the advantage, being able to effectively use swear words. There are
tons of options out there. But, whenever you interject them and actually you understand
your audience, it shows that you can go to the point just at the edge of offending them,
but not passing it. All of a sudden, you make them laugh, you
make them giggle. You emphasize what you’re saying by throwing in those words. And this
really just goes to show that you’ve got a sophisticated relationship with these people.
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see you on that list. A researcher named, Emma Byrne, who came out
with a great book called Swearing is Good for You. She talks about this research coming
out of Australia, New Zealand, how people trust other people when they can use the right
type of language. And, yes, swear words were part of this.
Me, personally, I think it is intrinsically human that we swear. Let me explain. Now,
why do I say that swearing is intrinsically human? Because we see it in other animals,
chimpanzees. Project Washoe, 60s, 70s, 80s, they were teaching these chimpanzees sign
language. [0:05:06]
And, one of the things that wanted to get them to stop doing was throwing their excrement.
Basically, when the chimpanzees will get upset, they will take their crap and they would throw
it and, yeah, not a good thing. So, they said, hey, how about we just teach
them a language that that is dirty. And, what’s interesting is when the chimpanzees had children,
they passed on that language of basically grabbing their excrement and throwing it that
is dirty that is bad. And it was basically they took their hands, put that next to there
and pop their chin right there with their knuckles.
Now, whenever these chimps would get upset. Instead of throwing their excrement, guess
what they would do? All of a sudden they would start [chomp] doing throwing their hands up
doing that sign that they were upset. Clearly, they were indicating through their language
that this is dirty that I’m upset. And you look at the history of most swear
words, they have to do with being dirty, things that we perceive in society as taboo and then
we put it into a word. So, understanding swear words have their origins in societal taboos.
You could see how this can really hurt you. Now, gosh, darn it. Now, the variants of that
can really offend I know a lot of my neighbors because they’re practicing Christians. It’s
against the fourth commandment in the Bible. So, when you say something that you don’t
even notice you’re saying it, it can really just turn off and offend that audience.
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Now, let’s talk about emotional control. The use of a swear word in a situation in
which you’re shocked in which you kind of forget what you’re saying, this can actually
be a sign of weakness. It can show that, hey, you don’t understand what’s going on in
the situation. It can reveal to others your lack of control.
I know for me, I’ve got a little bit of story about this. First time, I’ve ever
cussed in front of my parents, I was in the bathroom and a mirror fell and my parents
were in the next room and I just said, “Holy... [Bleeping sound].” I would normally never
have said that. And, if you’re in a situation in which you
want to have the poker face, you don’t want people to know what’s going on, you want
to be careful for them to be able to spot emotion.
That being said if you want to use it to your advantage, it has been shown, yes, that cussing
swearing can actually make you more immune to pain.
Seriously, Richard Stevens at Keele University, what he had people do is put their hands in
cold freezing water. And he was going to say, “Okay, how long can you keep your hand in
here?” Now, when people were encouraged to swear,
they would keep their hands in a lot longer than people that were told, “Hey, don’t
say anything, don’t swear.” What does that show us? Whenever you’re
swearing, whenever you’re able to have that outlet, all of a sudden you’re able to go
through more painful situations. Now, for this next point, I alluded to it
a little bit earlier, but that is to add emphasis when you’re saying something that’s really
important. Let’s say you’re engaging with your team
and you’re being pretty – you’re normally pretty monotone, you realized you got to grab
their attention. [Sound effect] I think if you strategically use a swear word
on occasion especially when you’re not known for it, it is going to shock it is going to
grab their attention, it’s going to bring them back. I’ve seen this used very effectively,
but, again, you got to know your audience. Now, what about swearing online? Swearing
in emails? Swearing in a text? To me, this is something you should be very, very careful
with. Part of swearing and part of engaging with people like this is that there is the
human-to-human interaction. Even through video, I think I can get away
a lot better than I can via an email. You really need to make sure that your audience
understands this. They understand the context, the way that you’re using this.
If there’s any doubt, try to avoid it especially in written format. You, a lot of times it
can fall flat, it can damage relationships and all of a sudden you realized that this
person was gravely offended and they’re not even going to take your call.
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