Hi, today's’ video is all about how to get a guy to respect you in the ways that matter
to you and in the ways that you are 100% worthy of and deserving of!
The truth is, respect starts early in a relationship.
It’s much easier to build a respectful relationship with a man early on, than it is to break old
ingrained habits!
It’s also much easier to create a respectful, kind and united relationship when you actually
know that a loving and devoted relationship is what deserve.
I can tell you what you I believe you deserve, though if you don’t believe it, you will
battle with yourself and end up brushing the things that matter to you under the carpet,
that ultimately sees you not get treated how you want to be treated in a relationship.
Also, to act respectfully and to show another respect can be rather subjective.
Humans can have vastly different ideas about what respect is to them and understanding
this will greatly determine if you do or don’t get respect in a relationship.
So stay with me to the end as what I share throughout this video is critical if you would
like to inspire your man or the man you want to treat you like a Majestic Queen!
Hi, I’m Nаdinе Piаt, a dating and lasting attraction coach for smart savvy women and
the founder of Healthy You Hеаlthу Lоvе.
I’m also the creator of 4 world leading love and relationship programs, including;
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Let me ask you… does your man keep doing things that he knows you don’t like?
Does he make an effort to listen to you, truly listen, when you start talking about your
day at work or about something that’s important to you?
Do you feel like you and your relationship are not a priority for him?
Maybe you feel you’re always the last to know when something big happens in his life,
or he makes plans with you at the last minute, or you feel like you’re the only one putting
in the effort?
It takes more than just strong feelings and attraction for a relationship to work.
Attraction is not enough, lust is not enough, and love is not enough, compassion, kindness
and humility are 3 ingredients every relationship needs to prosper..
If you feel that you’re not on equal footing in this relationship, or that he doesn’t
value you, there are things you can do to get him to show you the kind of respect you
want.
And if all else fails, stick around until #3, and I’ll let you know this little trick
our mind plays on us whenever someone doesn’t treat us how we want to be treated
Which brings me to my first point…
1.
Be clear and honest with how you want to be treated!
I know we think that others should know how to treat us, and yes, there are some fundamental
behaviours that most people would deem as respectful and loving, yet we all have different
perspectives.
This means you need to be clear with what matters to you and what your boundaries are.
When he does something that you’re not happy with, like not including you in conversations,
or being constantly late to your dates, let him know.
Communicate it.
When he says something you feel is offensive, call him out.
Maybe he’s a moody guy and you often feel like you’ve done something wrong.
If he lies to you--even if it’s a teensy bit of a white lie--and you don’t like it,
let him know.
This way, you’re letting him know your standards and the things you’re unwilling to negotiate
on, and you must be consistent with your non-negotiables.
The way he responds to your requirements is also indicative of his level of emotional
awareness and investment.
Does he apologise and change?
Or does he say “sorry” but continue doing it anyway?
If this happens then it’s a clear sign that he doesn’t respect his own word and this
is not about you - this is a reflection of his character and I’ll share more about
this later so stay with me.
Unless you’re clear with your boundaries, a man will treat you the way he wants--and
this may sometimes be the complete opposite of how you want to be treated.
And yet, this is not about men, humans are not mind readers and sometimes we’re simply
not aware of the impact of our actions, so we keep doing them.
The good news is, when our values are aligned and both people are invested in honouring
these values they’re able to create a deep sense of love and harmony through mutual understanding.
Now before we move on to the next point there is a caveat: Make sure your requests are realistic
and reasonable, not shaming or blaming.
Let him know what you value in a graceful and empowered kind of way, rather than making
him feel like a criminal.
You see a boundary comes from love, a barrier comes from fear, and some people confuse the
two!
The question is - Is your intention to inspire change and create unity or to shame him into
change?
To help you with this…
I have a powerful free gift called 5 Easy Ways To Get A Man To Commit - it details the
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Next up...
2.
Be appreciative of him
“Respect begets respect” is more than just a cliche.
Let him know that you appreciate his efforts that he puts in the relationship.
When he follows through with his promises or does something kind for you, genuinely
thank him and let him know wonderful he is.
People tend to do more of what they know works, so when he knows what you love and appreciate
about him, he will then tend to do more of this…
Women can at times focus on the negative, we are known to nag, and yes, I know men can
nag too, though women seem be a little more skilled in this area, so be sure to be mindful
of the ratio between encouragement and discouragement.
Multiple studies, in fact, show that positive reinforcement is a far better motivator!
So star reinforcing all the lovely stuff!
3.
Respect Yourself
To expand on what I touched on earlier…
What happens when, even after telling him what feels uncomfortable for you, even after
he’s understood your concerns and knows the actions and behaviors that negatively
impact the relationship, he still doesn’t treat you the way he agreed to do so?
Well, we can’t control how people will treat us, BUT we can control how we respond to them.
Do not be led by your fears and insecurities, for example, thoughts like...
“We’ve been together for so long” or “He may change one day” or “I just need
to be more patient and understanding”).
Remember when I said our brains do this little mind trick whenever we date someone who doesn’t
respect us?
It’s called cognitive dissonance--the discomfort a person feels when you hold two or more contradictory
beliefs, ideas, or values.
Your cognitive dissonance is then triggered, when your beliefs clash with new evidence
that’s presented to you.
According to psychologist Dr. Corrine Leikam, cognitive dissonance in dating often shows
up by rationalising the unhealthy or what you might call he negative characteristics
of a person so that they align with our vision of what the perfect relationship should be.
This can either result positively, wherein you drop all your unrealistic expectations
OR negatively wherein you minimise the red flags and continue dating someone who doesn’t
show you basic common courtesy and kindness.
So which of the two situations do you fall under?
Like I said, if he doesn’t value you, you can’t control that; you can only control
how you respond to him.
And how you respond to a man who doesn’t respect you is based on how much you respect
yourself.
Do you let him do the things he’s doing or nip it in the bud, so to speak?
You come first, the respect you have for yourself should be much, much deeper than your feelings
for him.
Which means you must be willing to walk away from someone who doesn’t treat you with
love and this is how to respect yourself… love you first!
To break free from cognitive dissonance it’s important to remind yourself that you’re
a high value woman with reasonable standards that you’re unwilling to negotiate on.
Of course, if you’re unsure if your standards are reasonable then please get some expert
help with that.
In a nutshell…if you desire a heart-connected and passionate relationship then mutual Respect
in a relationship is crucial because it allows for emotionally safe.
If we don’t feel emotionally safe with another, we’ll never feel happy in that relationship.
Believe me I’ve tried.
It doesn’t work.
Both people have to be invested and willing to work together to create a truly loving
partnership… where they dance in between giving and receiving in a way that creates
a strong and safe bond.
To wrap it up… if you know that you’re not getting the respect that you reasonably
deserve, don’t brush it under that carpet, talk to him and see what happens because there
is a good chance he’s not even aware of the impact of his actions.
Also, don’t forget to appreciate him when he does sweet and thoughtful things as positive
reinforcement goes a long way.
And most importantly, if you’ve done all that I have shared and nothing has changed,
then respect and love yourself enough to walk away.
So many women find this so difficult and it shouldn’t be, why?
Because you matter and what you values matters!
To help you get the respect you want or to have the courage to walk about from an unhealthy
relationship I strongly recommend you check out my program Never Lose Him.
It’s filled with the most critical and love shifting tips and techniques that have the
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