did you know that 2000 marriages end in divorce and did you know that because we're so
young there's no chance that our marriage is going to work out yeah no that's that's not true that's
just what people have been saying this is just according to a lot of the comments that we've been
getting basically the vast majority of people are very very supportive of our relationship friends
family followers everyone's very very supportive there's at 0.1 of people that just they hate us
i mean it's not it doesn't get to us i kind of i think it's funny a lot of you guys recently
had been asking why are we getting married so young so we thought let's address the question
yeah and to be honest there's no like main reason as to why we're getting married you
know there's some people in some situations where you know they're having a baby so they
think it's best for their relationship and stuff like that i'm not pregnant i'm just
going to put that out there that's what a lot of people assume well actually how about we go
through kind of people's assumptions yeah let's do that so the first one is because i'm pregnant
i'm not pregnant i'm sorry for those who who think i am or want me to be but i'm not pregnant right
now so that is not the reason that we are getting married yeah check back in like eight to ten years
in like five years check back yeah like 10 years so that is one of the many reasons why
people think we're getting married so that one is debunked on to the next on to the next finances
people think that uh you know it's gonna be a lot cheaper once we move in together which
to a certain extent is very true one of the other reasons that people think we're getting married so
young is of course because of the distance monica and if you guys didn't know we are in a long
distance relationship so i live in cheshire in england i live in new york so that's about three
and a half thousand miles away from each other we literally live on different continents we do spend
a lot of time together though so sometimes it doesn't feel like we are um because we both work
online so we're able to travel and you know work from anywhere so that is definitely a big reason
but it's not like why you know we're getting married but that definitely will help because once
we're married we won't have to travel back and forth we can actually like have one place together
where we could keep our stuff and not have to you know get flights and all this kind of stuff so
that is definitely something that's gonna help and other people are saying just lots of people
coming up with a bunch of random reasons basically why we're getting married young and i actually did
an instagram poll recently let me show you this we got so many replies to this instagram poll
it's absolutely crazy let me just read through a couple so first one is from our friend joey who we
actually just released some merchandise with we're going to put a quick link below if you guys want
to check it out it's a missing new hoodie joe says it's because you've been waiting till marriage
and you want to speed it up and he put till marriage in quotation which means to do the dirty
that's not true next monica's cousin connor actually put because if you two just know you
just know which i'm gonna say is like a really good answer because i feel like that's true with
a lot of things it's like when you end up loving somebody people like how did you know you were in
love like you can't describe it because when you know you know so that's like the perfect reply 100
you just know when you're ready someone outside because you guys love each other and you feel that
it's the right time to do so someone said because in the words of twilight's i've chosen my life i
want to start living literally though are you sure that is a brilliant that is basically true
so having a quick scroll through and having a look at them all the vast majority of people
were saying well it's because you love each other and that's very true it is why should our marriage
not work out just because of our age yeah and we've been dating for such a long time and
because we've been traveling back and forth and staying together for months at a time we're
basically already married so we know that like we get along well because a lot of people they
date for a long time and then they get married and then they move in together and then they realize
we're not that good of a match because you know we used to go back to our own places but we spend
months together at a time i was actually just about saying that you are really like we're
already married do you want really made me realize that we are literally 100 suited for each other
so basically when monica and i visit each other because obviously we're in a long-distance
relationship when we visit each other we stay at each other's houses in our respective countries
um so we are literally together 24 hours a day seven days a week for the time that we spend with
each other what really made me realize that we're right for each other was when quarantine started
and people started actually having to spend time with their spouses or their partners or whatever
you know stuck in a house 24 hours a day with them people are literally like going crazy on social
media saying i need to get out of this house i can't deal with my wife anymore you know i need to
get down to the pub just to have some time alone and stuff i've never felt that way i'm literally
like still obsessed with you to this day like as the first time i ever met you like every time i
look at you i still get butterflies like that's not like normal i don't think i think it's just
because i we're literally soul mates like i know in my heart that we're sold and you've seen how
excited i get every single morning when you wake up i wake up at like six every morning and i get a
ton of work done before monica wakes up so that i can spend most of my day kind of enjoying it with
you yeah monica wakes up about tennis so like four hours later and i'm so excited to see her every
morning because i miss her during the four hours i'm alone essentially yeah and you're okay because
monica does work in bed when i'm asleep however i sleep talk so she can still talk to me
exactly you still kiss me when you're sleeping so it's great the kind of moments i knew that
it was time to propose and time to kind of take the next step in our relationship
was when i realized and when i really kind of felt confident about the fact that you knew that i was
proposing to you because i loved you because i was in love with you not because of now because
yeah exactly and that obviously you want to live in america with me so it wasn't like
oh the only way i can do that is you know let's get married right now i mean i'd be
lying if i said that wasn't one of the reasons yeah but it wasn't the reason i mean so it feels
and don't worry like when you did propose i knew you were you were proposing because you know you
love me so much it's not it's not for anything specific it's because we love each other 100
i've had a good think about this recently because a lot of people have been asking us why are we
getting married in our early 20s yeah um well mid-20s for me yeah well basically mid-20s for me
yeah i've broken it down to three main reasons number one the most important is because i love
her i want to spend the rest of my life with you and i really think our marriage can work i really
know it will work you know like i look at say for example my grandparents my grandparents okay
they met each other when they were in their teens they're now in their late 80s and they
are obsessed with each other they are the most perfect couple in the world like before before
krover 19 okay we took my grandparents out for lunch at a local restaurant and we all it was a
glass table and we all sat around this glass table i was on one side i was opposite moniker and then
my grandfather was on one side and he was opposite my grandmother and they were holding hands under
the table and that just kind of i looked down and i just it made me think i just i want that so bad
in 60 years time and you watch movies like up where they're like you know really old and
like together their whole lives and it's just like it's so special because i feel like people
just like a lot of people jump around which is fine but i want that i want to have someone who
like i spend my whole life with and all these experiences with and that's who you're going
to be i've i've had a lot of comments on my videos on tick tock saying because i made a video a while
ago saying like i met my soul mate when i was 18 years old and a lot of people were like wow like
so you never got to do this with everybody oh you never got to experience life you never got
to try out other guys yeah you're never going to experience like what if what it's like i'm like
what do you mean i'm so happy that like i met you so young i'm so happy that like my first
real boyfriend is becoming my husband i think that's incredible like i think that's that was
definitely worth waiting i could have went around and dated other people like all the
time but i didn't want to because i feel like when for me personally when i date somebody it's
because i actually see myself do you never do you never have like a curiosity aspect like what if
you know what if another guy was different what if another groceries in me like this because because
i was i still like have seen other guys before but none have ever treated me the way you do
and none have made me like what connor was saying like when you know you know and i always just had
a feeling like ever since i first saw your photo that like i literally said to my friend i want him
to be my husband before i even knew what you were yeah she actually genuinely did so like i just
i just i knew though like i just there was something where i was like i need to
get to know this guy more because he's this is going to be my husband and guess what suckers
this is getting so sloppy now isn't it but yeah so that is main number one reason the number
one reason why i proposed to monica was because i genuinely felt like it was the right time because
i want to spend the rest of my life with her but that's not the only reason i'm being completely
transparent here that's the main reason there's three reasons number two we live on different
continents as we said yeah life together is bloody hard we can't do this forever we can't like when
we have kids in the future we can't be like all right we're gonna go to england for two months
and then we're all gonna fly back yeah anybody like anybody in a long distance relationship will
know that you know i have my own house here monica has her own house there it's it's you know we're
casting all our kind of clothing and stuff like that back and forth every few months and it's just
crazy so that's the second reason the distance we want to be able to actually start
a life together where we buy a house together we get a car together we really we make plans
together at the moment we're making plans and we're saying like oh what if we can't do this
because i can't be in america yeah like one of my friends weddings is next year and i'm literally
thinking to myself are we going to be there for the wedding or am i going to be here like how am
i going to rsvp if i don't know where i'm going to be or like friends will be like hey do you
want to go on vacation with me my boyfriend it's like we don't know if we're gonna be home like
we don't know if we're gonna what country we're gonna be in so it's just gonna be so much more
convenient a hundred percent and the third reason and obviously the least important but it's still
a reason is the finances i mean like i said i've got a house here monica has a house there we're
flying back and forth all the time we're not going to go over figures but you've got to understand
that that kind of adds up yeah and then like my luggage is always overweight because i stayed
for so long so i need to bring so much stuff every time i always have to bring so much stuff so you
know everything adds up all those little expenses add up like it's just it does cost a lot to be in
a long distance relationship so that's why we're getting married so young i don't know if that's
monica's pregnant oh my god i am not pregnant we just want to clarify because we've been getting
a lot of questions asking why and if we think we're making a big mistake and all that stuff
we are so happy with the situation we're in now and i cannot wait to actually be mrs patterson
i know how crazy is that moniker it's crazy you're literally less than a year away from being
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