- Hey player.
Are you in middle school and in the position where
you wanna "I love you" to your boyfriend, your girlfriend,
or your crush, but you're afraid it'll make things awkward?
Don't worry.
In this video, I'm gonna explain how to say "I love you"
so that it goes over well and hopefully everything
works out for you.
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- Before we dive into how to say "I love you," I wanna
explore what we mean when we say that we love someone,
especially when we're in middle school.
Love carries a lot of different definitions and feelings.
It could mean that you wanna spend the rest of your
life with this one person or you just really like
being around them.
How you interpret the word "love" is entirely up
to you, though, and there will be times where people
will say because of your age, you're just a kid, you
can't possibly know what love is.
And when someone says that, it can be easy to interpret
their words as being dismissive or doubtful of
what you guys actually have.
Remember, your feelings are valid and the words you
choose to express them with are valid too,
but what I do think is important is really understanding
what you mean when you say you love someone.
Try to understand your own definition of that word
so that you can better explain it to other people.
One of the main reasons why middle schoolers just like
you are afraid to say "I love you" is because they don't
wanna be met with rejection.
No one wants to confess their feelings and say,
"Hey, I love you," to be met with a, "Thanks buddy."
I've talked about rejection in some of my past videos,
but all in all, what it comes down to is, you wanna
say "I love you" when it'll have the highest effect
on meeting their equal feelings for you.
For example, let's say there's a person you see everyday
in school or you text every single night.
You might wanna shoot them a message that says something
as simple as, "Hey, I really enjoy talking to you
because I feel like you make me feel loved and cared for
and for that, I just wanna say I love you for who you are."
In that example, you're touching on quite a few things.
You're letting them know that they make you feel loved
and cared for, you're expressing your love for them,
and you're saying that it goes deeper than
just surface level.
You're showing them that you love them for who they are,
which is way way better than just saying something like,
"Hey, I love you."
There's no wrong way to say "I love you,"
there's just ways that can be more descriptive
and more effective and plus, there are an infinite
number of ways for you to show your love
beyond just saying it.
You can show them you love them by doing simple things
like, giving them a hug after they've had a bad day
or just being there to listen to them when they wanna
share really good news with you.
Love is practiced in our most kindest and patient moments.
That's why showing someone that you care about them
is an expression of love that goes way beyond just words.
Another reason I've heard from middle schoolers just like
you as to why it may be a little difficult to say
"I love you" is because the relationship may
just be too new.
Maybe you've only been dating for a few weeks or you
rarely ever see them in person.
It could be a little awkward to say "I love you" to
someone in that extent.
I've done a video in the past about what to do if you
never see your crush around, which might have some
helpful tips that can work here too,
but basically what I would say is, if everyone else
is pressuring you to either say it or not say it,
don't listen to them.
Do what feels right to you.
It's always gonna be easier for someone on the outside to
tell you to do something or not to do something because
they never have the full context of what's going on.
Now if you're in a relationship that's still fairly
new and your partner's already saying "I love you"
to you, what do you do?
I would say stick to the same plan and say it
when you're ready.
For example, let's say you get a message from someone
saying, "Awe, I think I'm in love with you," and you
don't know how to respond, I would say something like,
"I think I might feel the same way about you too,
but I'm not quite comfortable using that word yet."
By responding with a message like that, you're letting
them know that you do have feelings for them, but
you're not quite comfortable putting it together
and using the word love just yet.
They may pressure you a little bit to figure out
what you mean, but keep explaining to them that
you'll open up and say it when you feel ready.
Remember, love is word that means so many different things
to so many people, so whenever you're gonna use it,
make sure to be descriptive.
Tell that person why you love them, why you like them,
why you enjoy being with them, or why you wanna
be their partner.
Sharing your feelings goes way beyond just saying
the words "I love you" to your partner.
It's all about giving and receiving with them so that
both of you feel loved, respected, and cared for.
What do you think though?
Is there someone in your middle school that you wanna
say "I love you" to, but you don't know how?
Leave your comments below and we'll talk about it.
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As always, love and peace.