i am sure that you have heard the phrase
communication is key
well whoever came up with this phrase
was right because it is key good
communication will allow you to do
better at work be a better friend get
along with your family better and have a
much better dating life
when people think about communication
they often think about relationships and
how important it is that couples
communicate clearly this is important
but it actually starts way before you
get into a relationship when you are
dating a woman is assessing whether or
not you have good communication skills
because they understand how important
they are in a healthy relationship so if
your communication skills are poor well
a woman's going to struggle to connect
with you from the outset so now that you
have established how important
communication skills are it's time to
learn 10 hacks that will help you
improve them with the women let's go
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number one develop a connection with her
the first hack which will help you
improve your communication skills is to
develop a connection with the woman you
are thinking about dating or the lady
you are dating
when we have a connection with someone
they become less disposable if we just
meet someone randomly have a
conversation and then go our separate
ways without any connection it's easy to
never contact them again why would you
there's nothing left to say a connection
allows you to become somewhat attached
to that person and it gives them the
feeling that you are interested in
getting to know them more be clear about
your intentions
part of being a great communicator is
being clear about everything that
includes being clear about your
intentions often we keep these to
ourselves because we don't want to show
someone all of our cards especially at
the beginning
rather than keeping a girl guessing it's
much better to be honest with her about
what you want you might be dating her
and only want something casual or you
could be dating to find something more
serious telling her this allows her to
ask herself is that what i want and it
avoids her getting hurt at the end
ask her questions women love it when men
ask them questions often on a date girls
will be the ones asking the questions
they will ask a guy a lot about himself
but he won't ask many questions in
return
this leaves a girl feeling that the guy
is not really interested in her and does
not have great communication skills she
wants to date someone who wants to get
to know her and if you start asking her
questions beyond the simple what is your
name she will be seriously impressed
you can ask her what job she does and if
she likes it if she has her dream job
her favorite type of food what hobbies
and interests that she loves they don't
need to be very serious questions but
just asking her anything will show her
that you can communicate
speaking of communication communicate
via your body language
you don't always need to use words to
communicate you can use non-verbal cues
as well we all understand body language
and use it ourselves as its subconscious
that means we don't realize we are doing
it and don't have to think about doing
it it just happens a good example of
this in action is when you are on a date
when your date is talking without even
realizing it you will not to show her
that you are listening and interested in
what she has to say
she will see you nod and think great he
likes what i'm saying so i can carry on
another example is when your date goes
to the bar to buy some drinks as she
walks back you smile at her this show so
that you're excited to see her and that
you do like her now these very small
cues are communicating all sorts of
messages to her even if you both don't
realize it give her a compliment girls
love it when guys pay them a genuine
compliment it makes her feel great and
it shows her that you have noticed
certain things about her
a compliment can make a girl think wow i
can't believe he's realized that about
me this can be where your intuition
comes in handy she might be talking
about something that she is passionate
about for example and you could
compliment her by saying i can see how
passionate you are i love that she will
be delighted that you have recognized
that she is a passionate person although
to you it is easy to see compliments
about how a girl looks are nice and you
should make them when you dig a little
deeper though and allow your intuition
to guide you it can make a woman see you
as an amazing communicator talk about
her that's right talk to her about her
show her that you have listened to
everything she has said and repeat some
of it back to her try and remember some
of the things that you can use them
later on maybe on your first date she
mentioned that she loves mint ice cream
now it might seem like a small bit of
detail but it can come in handy later on
so you need to remember it then on the
seventh date you are both walking past
an ice cream shop and you say to her why
don't we go in and get your favorite
mint ice cream now she would be
surprised that you have remembered what
is so seemingly a small detail and this
will mean a lot to her this shows her
that you are great at communicating and
also remembering those teeny tiny
important details tell her that you
enjoy talking to her women love to hear
that men enjoy talking to them often men
are regarded as quiet and kind of
guarded they don't typically give much
away so if you want to be a good
communicator then you need to be more
open with any woman that you date so
open up and tell her that you enjoy
talking to her this doesn't need to be a
big announcement you can simply say i've
really enjoyed speaking to you today or
i enjoy talking to you on the phone
every day
this shows her that you communicate your
feelings easily which is something that
a lady is searching for
learn about the real her find out who
she really is
this will take a combination of
listening to what she says asking her
good questions and connecting with her
that's right it's going to take a
mixture of your communication skills to
get to really know her on your first few
dates she will be herself but a bit more
dressed up of a polished version and if
you want to show her the real you then
you need to get her to a stage where she
is completely comfortable around you
then you need to tell her that you would
love to get to know her more and she
will open up to you and pull down the
walls that she has put up and this will
allow you to really get to know her and
also for her to get to know you avoid
difficult subjects it can be tempting to
try and prove to her how intelligent you
are the problem is we often do this by
bringing up difficult subjects it could
be something political or something
controversial that's happening in the
world it's better to avoid these
subjects all together and just focus on
the more positive things let that be
silence sometimes to be a great
communicator you need to let there be
silence
often silence is painted as a bad thing
especially when it comes to dating
silence is actually not a bad thing at
all though of course if you were both to
sit in silence for the whole time yeah
that wouldn't be great but if you let
there be those brief periods of silence
it gives you both time to think about
what to say next and it shows that you
are both comfortable around each other
when we are uncomfortable we often try
to fill in that awkward silence by
talking about anything even if what we
are saying is not very important but
really the best thing you can do is to
say nothing at all and there you go
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