- [Emily] Good morning, boys.
- [Fraser] Good morning.
- [Emily] What's everyone doing in my bed?
- [Fraser] And Daddy, too.
- [Emily] This is the space I have.
And Daddy's there, four boys.
(soft piano music)
- I love you.
Oh, look at his!
- [Emily] He likes that.
- I love you, I love you.
- [Emily] That's so nice.
- I love you.
- You're joking!
How do you do this - There's silver
- to yourself? - on Christmas Elf!
- Hi guys, I'm actually filming this
at the end of the day that I have just vlogged.
Basically, I ran out of space on my camera
so I frantically was deleting some things
so that I could do a bit of an outro
and I deleted the first vlog from this morning.
Anyway, the clip that I deleted said
that today we're having quite a chill day
but we are gonna be going to the shops
and getting the ingredients that we need
to bake Daddy a birthday cake and get him
his birthday card and get all ready
because his birthday is tomorrow.
He is the 20th of December.
Because Daddy's birthday is so close to Christmas
I really want to make an effort because he gets
a lot of birthday presents in Christmas paper,
lots of joint presents and all of that.
So I really want to try and make an effort.
This is the most expensive time of year for me
because I have a baby now born in September,
end of October, beginning of December,
and Matt is in December, ah!
And Christmas.
We're gonna make him a cake and try
and make him feel special.
I've got him some good gifts, I think.
He's really hard to buy for.
But yeah, off we go.
Hello.
Hello, big blue eyes.
You've got the biggest eyes.
Will you do a smile for that baby?
(baby burping)
(laughing)
(lips smooching)
What exactly is going on over here?
Caleb, what are you doing?
Are you making a tattoo?
Now is the daily battle to get Caleb dressed.
Never wants to get dressed.
Right, and we're off.
All I had to do is promise him a Kinder egg
and he got dressed.
(relaxed electronic music)
Are you wiping his mouth?
(laughing)
That's very nice, Caleb.
♪ I've been looking for a way out ♪
♪ Of this cage you keep me in ♪
♪ Your hands touch my neck ♪
♪ As your breath creeps up underneath my skin ♪
♪ I can't help but to want it ♪
♪ If you are my lover come get it ♪
♪ And I can't fight that grip on my heart ♪
♪ And if love is a-- ♪
- Alright, so the cake is in the oven
and Caleb is just playing with his little Shopkins.
Jackson's having a sleep.
I'm gonna make the icing.
Caleb didn't really help me make the cake bit
because he prefers the decoration bit
so I thought while he was happy playing
I'm just gonna whip up the cake
and then he can help me with the actual decoration of it.
So that's the plan.
While I've got a minute while Baby's sleeping
and he is playing, I wanted to just talk to you
about a question that I have been getting
non-stop since I put up my baby routine
and that is how do you get your baby to sleep?
How do you get your baby to sleep through the night?
I've had so many emails, so many messages on Facebook,
so many comments and I was just like
should I do a whole vlog on it?
But I actually have done a vlog in the past
about how I got Fraser to sleep through the night
at nine months after absolutely no sleep.
My first was really not a good sleeper at all
but also it was kind of my fault as well
because I would breastfeed him to sleep
and he got a sleep association with drinking to sleep.
So I had to, in the end, use the Ferber method
which was controlled crying which was really difficult
but after just five days of doing it
he would sleep through the night completely.
So it was really hard to do but I did it.
Anyway, I will link that video
down below for anyone who's struggling
(Caleb speaking)
sleep Fraser, we used to get up every two hours
and I would have to feed him every two hours
to get him back to sleep.
It was a nightmare.
And by nine months I was like a walking zombie
so I ended up having to do lots of research
and do this method so I will link that down below
because that goes into loads of detail about it.
Basically, what I wanted to say to all of those comments
and messages and everything that I have got
is if your baby is going to sleep aided,
by that I mean if they're being rocked to sleep,
if they are being tickled, if they are being fed to sleep,
if they are in any way falling asleep
with you touching them or doing something
to make them fall asleep, driving, again, all of that.
They may have a sleep association and therefore,
in the night, when we come to a lesser level
of sleep every three or four hours
and you're not doing the thing that you were doing,
you're still not driving, you're still not tickling them,
you're still not feeding them,
they will wake up completely because they will
be like where has she gone, what's going on?
So the only way to get your baby
to sleep through is to let them fall asleep on their own.
And that is really hard because I had a huge
battle with my first but baby Jackson
I've done that since day one so even now
when I put him down for a nap, obviously
he's very young so hopefully it will work
because I'm starting out early,
or when I put him down at night,
I put him down sleepy but awake
and he will moan for a few minutes
and get himself to sleep but he knows
how to fall asleep on his own and that, I think,
is the whole reason why loads of babies don't sleep,
because of that sleep association.
Because that's definitely what was wrong with my first son.
And that was really hard to admit because I was like
oh, he's teething, oh no, he's really ill,
oh no, it could be this, oh no, he was a bit cold.
I made up every excuse going and at the end of the day
he just didn't have the skill of how
to fall asleep on his own so that was what
I had to do in the end and it took me
a long time to work that out.
That could be a problem with a lot of babies.
I'm not talking about the babies with colic, reflux,
all of that, those are medical issues.
But if your baby seems pretty okay
and they're waking up every two or three hours,
it could be a sleep association.
So I wanted to say that to everyone
but I didn't want to comment back to everyone
that big long story.
So hope that's helpful.
Ask me any other questions about sleep in the comments
because I finally feel like I have a bit
of a clue now that I'm on my third.
But my first one, totally messed him up.
Second one, I was a bit better.
But this one, Jackson seems to have really got it.
I put him down at seven last night,
he went through 'til 4:30 and he's completely
breastfed so I didn't even know that breastfed
babies could do that that young.
And then he got up at 4:30 for a feed
and I fed him and he then slept again
until eight in the morning.
So it's incredible the difference
that it has made using this technique.
And I hope you don't think I'm being
a know-it-all or anything, it's just that I've been there.
I've been the mom that had no sleep,
lived on coffee, was exhausted (laughing).
So yeah, hope that's helpful.
Okay, we need a bit more icing.
(jingle bell music)
- Can I help with this?
- Okay, stop, stop.
- That's a lot.
- Okay, we have to see.
Do you want to hold it?
(mixer hums)
- Oh, that's a lot.
- [Emily] It is, oh my gosh.
Um, I don't think so, mister.
Right, so the cake is finally cooled
and we're going to ice it and decorate it,
aren't K-bub?
- And I'm gonna mix it.
- [Emily] You're gonna mix it up?
Get the cake all ready.
Are you gonna help us make the cake, Jacks?
(acoustic music)
Wow.
Here is the finished cake, which Caleb decorated.
I think it looks pretty impressive.
So we're just hanging out and playing with toys.
Jackson just had an explosion so I'm just gonna go
and change his whole outfit.
We are having quite a chill day
because we have a birthday party after school today
so I kind of wanted to reserve Caleb's energy
because he doesn't have a nap anymore
and sometimes it's quite hard for him
if we cram loads into one day.
So we're just sort of chilling out
and then we've got a birthday party.
He's all clean now and I've added a bib
'cause you keep dribbling so much, don't you.
And he's in this baby grow which is three
to six months but it always looked so massive.
And he's fitting it just fine now, aren't you?
You're too big.
Just done the school run and now we are off to the party.
Caleb has fallen asleep on the school run.
- And he looks pale.
- He looks pale, doesn't he.
I was just saying to Fraser, I'm a bit worried about him
because he looks quite pale and I've just Googled,
stupidly, that if they're pale, irritable, and tired--
- That means they haven't eaten enough vegetables.
- Yeah, it means that they are--
- They haven't got their iron.
- Yeah, they're not getting enough iron.
I think he might not be getting enough iron.
He has become so fussy with his food.
And it's been all I can do to get him
to have a couple of peas, it's ridiculous.
- He never eats vegetables.
- No, he's terrible.
Unless it's in a spinach smoothie
or a smoothie lolly, or hidden somehow.
That's the only way he'll have it
and he's just been really bad lately.
Matt and I were saying oh, he's become
a nightmare since the baby.
He's so irritable, he's so raw.
But maybe it's his diet.
- He only eats, he lives on chicken nuggets.
- He loves chicken nuggets, he loves bread,
he loves, you know, all the beiges.
- He loves crackers with butter.
- He'll eat anything beige but his eating
has just become terrible.
He's good with fruit, he'll eat apple,
grapes, banana, all of that.
It's the veg that he's not eating
and now I'm panicking that he's gonna be ill or something.
- Maybe he shouldn't eat vegetables,
he should just eat the fruit for dinner and lunch.
- Yeah, you need vegetables and you need fruit.
- Yeah, because vegetables are good-er than fruit
because vegetables will make you strong but fruit don't.
- Well, vegetables and fruit but there's still
a lot of sugar in fruit, that's why he likes it.
He likes things with sugar but he needs to eat
vegetables so he gets his vitamins.
I give him a gummy vitamin every morning
but I don't know how much iron is in it
and because he doesn't have formula milk,
like if you have formula, there's iron
fortified in that, et cetera.
So I've asked Matt to go to the pharmacy
and ask them if there's an iron supplement for a toddler.
And hopefully that will help.
And I'm just really gonna persevere with his eating.
I might do a vlog on it because it's just terrible.
It's terrible and I feel a bit bad
that it's got to this point and I just am worried about him.
I mean, he's probably just not had some sun
but now I'm in panic mood.
But anyway, we're off to the party, yeah?
Yay!
I didn't really vlog much at the party
because obviously there were lots of children
there that weren't my children so I didn't want
to film anyone.
So we are now home.
All of the boys are in bed.
Caleb took ages to go to bed.
It's now nine o'clock.
He didn't go to bed until 8:30
and I just made dinner and we ate that.
But it's because he had a nap on the school run.
If he has even the tiniest nap
he stays awake so much later so it's such a hard age
because you need to avoid a nap
but if you get in the car after three o'clock,
that's it, he's straight to sleep.
And even if you wake him after just 10 or 20 minutes,
that's it, he's staying up late.
Sleeping is really tricky but now they are asleep
and I'm just going to chill and eat the cake
that was in their party bags and I'm gonna wrap
the presents up for Matt's birthday tomorrow
and just get all set.
Maybe tidy up, vlog, you know, usual stuff.
But anyway, thank you so much for watching
and I will see you tomorrow.
Bye.