Brother & Sisters, You Know We Have
Difficulties Amongst Ourselves Sometimes. You Have A Problem, You Have An Issue
Someone Did Something Bad To You, Maybe Your Husband, Maybe Your Wife, Your
Children, Maybe Someone You Worked With Maybe Someone On The Street, I Promise
You As A Muslim You Need To Consider Forgiving Them, Why?
Because Allah Says Sometimes When You Forgive And When You
Embrace And When You Bear Patience, It Is
More Beneficial For You, It Is Better For You,
Those Who Bear Patience And Forgive, Indeed, That Is
The Best Of Affairs, The Best Thing You Could Do It'S Difficult, It'S Not Easy.
Someone Might Say They'Re Doing Bad To Me So Much, They Are Doing Bad To Me So
Much How Can I Keep Forgiving Them? You Have A Point. But Consider, This If You
Forgive There Is A Greater Chance That Allah Will Forgive You And If You Are
Patient There Is A Greater Chance Allah Will Be Patient With You, Amazing And
Sometimes, If You Don'T Forgive The Price You Shall Pay Might Just Be Far Greater
Than If You Were Patient For A While. I Give You One Example, There Was A Sister
Who Contacted Me Some Time Back. She Has Three Children. Her Husband Unfortunately
Had An Affair With Someone And She Told Me That I Need Your Help But Please
Don'T Tell Me To Be Patient, Okay, You Need My Help But Please Don'T Tell Me To
Be Patient. So I Told Her My Sister, What Did He Do? He Did This, He Did That, Wallahi
No Justification, That Was Bad. It Was Unacceptable. It Was Terrible. It Was
Really Wrong, It Was Major. Has His Life Changed? Has
He Admitted? Yes ,He'S Admitted. has He Said I'M Sorry? Yes, He Has. has he his lfie
Changing Anyway? Yes, He Has. But I Can'T Forgive Him, Okay,
No Problem, If His Life Has Changed. If He'S Become Very
Transparent Now In His Relationships, If You Are Satisfied
That He Has Made An Effort And If You Are Seeing Within Him
That He'S Becoming A Better Person Then I Would Suggest You Consider The
Following; That If You Want To Divorce Just Because Of A Mistake That Was Made
Perhaps, You Might Become A Statistic But If You Are After Seeing All This
Positive Change, Remember, I'M Saying This Because I Don'T
Encourage People To Just Bear Patience And Bear Patience And Bear Patience And
The Guy Keeps On Harming And Harming And Harming And Harming; No No No, There Is A
Limit Beyond Which Nobody Can Tolerate It. My Brothers And
Sisters, Sometimes The Difficulty Is With The Sisters. But A Lot
Of The Times It'S With The Brothers Anyway. So What Would Happen Is I Told
Her Perhaps, If A Divorce Happens, You May Be A Statistic Whereby, He Will Get
Married Again He'S A Happy Man And He'S Excited And Perhaps, Someone Much Younger
And You Know, There Is No Shortage Etcetera, Etcetera And I Said What Will
Happen To You? You Will Have Gone Away. Now, You'Re Going To Struggle Because
You'Re Going To Fight For Maintenance, You'Re Going To Fight For Something Else,
People Will Look At You, There Is A Stigma Attached, Unfortunately, You Know, I
Was Asked Recently About Divorced Women And What Is The Encouragement Islam Has
Given About Marrying Those Who Are Divorced And I Said Look You Don'T Need
To Look At My Life Or The Lives Of The Companions For This. You Can Go Straight
To The Life Of Muhammad Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam, All His Wives Were
Previously Married Besides One, Did You Know That? Subhanallah, All His Wives Were
Previously Married Besides One, Aisha (Ra), The Rest Of Them
Were Previously Married. So There Is A Very High Status, There Is Nothing Wrong.
If A Person'S Been Through A Divorce They Are Still As Pure. The Most
pure Of All Chose That Type Or Those Types Of Women,
Subhanallah, Widows And Divorcees. So My Brothers, Let'S Not Have A
Misunderstanding To Say Someone Who'S Divorced Is Actually Someone Who Is
Cheap Or They are Low Or They Have Lost Their Value, No Way. Sometimes, They Will
Add Value That You Would Never Have Imagined, Go Back To Rasulullah
Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam, Take A Look At How He
Used To Miss Khadijah Binti Khuwailid Radhiallahu Anha
Beyond Her Death Such That There Is A
Hadith That Makes Mention Of The Fact That He Used To Keep A Good Relationship
By Giving Some Gifts To Some Of Her Friends Later On, Amazing! Who Are These
People? These Are The Friends Of Khadijah And He Used To Send To Them Something
Sometimes. He Used To Remember Them Sometimes. So Going Back To What I Was
Saying I Told The Sister, Look My Sister, If You Bear Patientce And You Try To
Increase Your Link With Allah, Sabr And Salah You Need To Make Sure That You
Develop Your Link With Allah, That Will Occupy You, It Will Keep You In The Right
Track And Bear Patience. Look At The Man, Remember Allah, Thank Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'Ala, You Will Find Within No Time, Things Will Improve, You Know What? A Few
Years Down The Line, I Can'T Recall How Many, But I Got A Message From This
Brother, Saying My Brother I Want To Tell You That The Advice You Gave My Wife Was
So Brilliant, We Went Through The Most Difficult Time But Today Our
Relationship Is Far Stronger Than It Ever Was Before The Problem We Had. Look
At The Gift Of Allah.
Allah Says It Clearly Whoever Is Prepared To Bear Patience And
Forgive. That'S The Best Thing You Could Do,
Subhanallah, It'S The Best Thing You Could Do.