Did you know that there are things
that a narcissist can handle?
Yeah.
There are actually a lot of things that
a narcissist can handle a lot.
And I'm gonna go through them
when with you in this video since you
are not going to want to miss this one.
I'm actually gonna give you 6 things that
a narcissist is can handle in this video.
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So things that narcissist can't handle.
Number one
Don't ignore me.
Even though they do it all the time,
they use that as a method of controlling
you they constantly ghost you
but I mean, even if they have this
perception that you're ignoring them,
even if you're not necessarily ignoring them,
You could just be busy at work.
You could actually just have
things going on in your life.
They think that you're ignoring them.
You could actually just have other
exciting things going on in your life.
But if they think that you're ignoring them,
they are feeling slighted and some way,
hell had no fury, boy.
They need constant attention.
They need constant validation from you.
If they feel like that source of supply,
there's some interruption in that supply source,
in any way, shape, or form,
then they cannot handle that at all.
Things and narcissists can handle
if one of those things is being ignored.
They feel that they deserve
constant full on attention
and if they don't get it,
they're gonna get angry,
they're gonna get aggressive sometimes even.
So that's number one.
Cannot handle being ignored.
Number two
Even if you were just saying,
‘‘hey, can you just put this back’’
and you just you know, maybe don't wear that.
That looks like criticism,
smells like criticism.
You know, I always say narcissist hear tones,
like dogs hear whistles.
Like, you didn't even have any tone in your voice.
They heard tone.
I mean, they cannot handle criticism
because it threatens their sense of self worth
which is very, very fragile.
Their egos are so so fragile.
They become defensive.
They go after you.
They try to put you down.
They wanna make themselves feel better.
Again, that narcissistic rate gets triggered.
And now they're coming down.
They're coming after you.
They cannot handle it at all.
I mean, it's just one of those things
so they can't handle being ignored.
They cannot handle criticism of
any kind on any level at all.
Even if you weren't even criticizing.
God forbid, you actually are criticizing.
They cannot handle that at all.
So you know, one of those things like whether
it's you know, supposed to be sort of good feedback,
positive feedback,
feedback of any kind.
No, they cannot handle that at all.
No criticism whatsoever.
Number three
If they're not in control of what they
perceive to be their kingdom or their queendom
if it's a female, then they absolutely go crazy.
Crazy.
They are anxious,
stressed.
You know, they really wanna know
that everything is in control at all times
and you know, this is not a person
who's just like a control freak.
This is a person who if they're not in control,
they actually can become abusive
they can become aggressive,
they can mistreat people.
This is a person who when they
see things aren't going their way.
They can start to have tantrums.
They act like two year olds.
Almost like you're watching a two year old
have a tantrum on the floor.
You know?
So that's just one of
those things they cannot handle.
That's number three.
Number four
And so one of the things that they will do sometimes
if they think that rejection is coming
is that they will do like the preemptive rejection.
They'll start to do like the preemptive cheat.
Like or the preemptive discard
or the preemptive lining up the new form of supply
or the preemptive start talking to flying monkeys
and start the smear campaign ahead of time.
You know, start getting prepared for the rejection
because they want to be the one to reject first.
So if they think that this is happening,
then they're not going to wanna be the
ones to make sure that they don't get rejected.
So they take rejection very,
very personally.
It is very, very hurtful to them
and so they react with anger sometimes,
they react with violence.
Sometimes, if they are a
malignant form of narcissist.
I've seen this where they actually become violent,
where they actually can stalk,
where they actually can threaten
to stop where they will actually
do things like file pleadings that are false,
where they'll actually claim
that somebody's a child molester,
if they're not.
Claim that somebody is an abuser,
if they're not.
All sorts of things
and if you start to see this sort of behavior.
It is definitely time to go
and I want you to put that in the comments.
‘‘TIME TO GO!’’.
And if you are dealing with
anybody who's like this
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with somebody like this.
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Number five
Like, if somebody is treating them like,
oh, I feel inferior.
Like, talking down to them in some way,
like treating them like
they're less than in some way,
they definitely cannot handle that.
They need to feel like they're special.
They need to feel like they're being treated
like they're different special.
Like the most important person
in the room at all times
and if somebody is treating somebody else
like they're better than them in some way.
It will definitely trigger them.
It will definitely trigger their
insecurities in some way,
and they will lash out.
They will lash out with judgment.
They will lash out with anger.
They will lash out with
jealousy, defensiveness.
You will see all sorts of behavior toward that.
That will most definitely not go well
for person involved or for even other
people who are collateral damage to that,
especially if they tend to be violent.
You know, really don't have control
over how they behave for sure.
They cannot handle feeling inferior.
That's number five.
Another thing that a narcissist can't handle.
And number six,
One thing that a narcissist cannot handle
is they cannot handle change.
They don't like being moved around.
They don't like change and
I'll tell you something else
that they don't like.
They don't like being exposed
and all like being exposed.
Especially being exposed to people
that are important to them.
To their most important supply sources
to people they respect.
To people that mean the most to them.
So whether it's coworkers to
prestigious people to if you're in court
it's definitely gonna be judges,
other lawyers,
mediators,
people like that in the system.
If it's important people
that you're involved with,
it might be celebrities.
It might be prestigious friends.
It might be neighbors but you know,
you need to know who is the most
important people in their circle
because that is going to be how you build
leverage in your negotiations.
For sure, they definitely do
not want to be exposed,
and that's something that a
narcissist really can't handle
and so if you want to know more about
what happens when a narcissist is
in a situation that they can't handle.
The next thing that you
need to do is watch my video
on signs a narcissist is losing control
because that's what happens next
when a narcissist can't handle things,
go watch that video.
Signs a narcissist is losing control.
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