I know it sounds kind of crazy but there are a few techniques that we're going to be going
over on today's video that actually teach you to flirt with your eyes.
There's specific ways of using eye contact that gets her more interested in you and in
the conversation.
But first you have to understand why eye contact is so crucial.
When you're meeting women, whether it's a date, whether it's an approach, whatever you're
doing, whenever you're meeting her, you need to be giving her great eye contact.
When I say great, I mean about 95% of the time you need to be looking right into her
eyes.
The reason why eye contact is so important is because when you're connecting with someone,
when you guys are engaged with each other, obviously you're going to feel more engaged
with them when you guys are looking into each other's eyes.
Let's imagine I was doing a video and I'm looking over here and I'm not looking at you
and I'm completely talking over here.
It makes it seem like there's an audience but either way, I'm not connected with you,
the person who I'm trying to talk to.
That connection is super important.
Another reason why eye contact is so crucial is because when you're giving someone good
eye contact, it shows confidence.
Someone who's nervous, someone who's shy, someone who's feeling uncomfortable, they're
not able to look you in the eye.
Here's a little test by the way.
Test out if some of your friends are a little
bit shy or if they have any issues with confidence,
talk to them and see if they're looking in your eyes when you talk to them.
Even when you're talking to them see if you're looking into their eyes.
A lot of people don't do it, because it can be quite uncomfortable to look at someone
in their eyes.
Why?
Because it's so powerful.
This just proves what I'm talking about.
That eye contact is so powerful.
And when you can do it, it shows that you're comfortable.
It shows that you're confident, it shows that you don't care what the other person thinks
about you and that you're just going through the world doing what you want to do and you
feel good about it.
It can be that powerful that all that stuff can be completely suggested to a girl when
you are looking at her directly in the eye.
That is why eye contact is mandatory and needs to be done like I said earlier about 95% of
the time.
It ok to look away for a second if you're thinking about something and then coming back
like I just did and looking you in the eye.
But normally when you're talking to her, especially
when you're listening to her, you need to
be looking at her in the eye.
That confidence that she sees from you is going to get her attracted and more engaged.
And by the way, don't go quite yet.
We still haven't gotten to the techniques that I'm gonna be sharing with you in terms
of flirting with your eyes and taking it to the next level.
There's one more thing I want to tell you before we get into the techniques.
When you're giving really good eye contact, you're showing comfortability.
You're showing that you're comfortable.
Not only are you showing that you're comfortable with her, but she's going to assume because
you're comfortable with her, that you're comfortable
in general in all social situations and that
you're comfortable with women.
I know that sounds crazy but this is what we assume.
This is what we put together in our brain.
So even if you completely fake it and go up to a girl and you're giving her great eye
contact because you've been practicing it, but in general you're still not really comfortable
around women, that's all gonna go out the window.
She's gonna completely assume that you are.
And a guy who is comfortable with women is more attractive to another woman because she
knows wow, if he's comfortable around other women, that probably means that other women
like him and if other women like him, he is now pre-approved or pre-selected and that
makes her more attracted to you.
Have I convinced you?
I think I have.
Lots of really powerful concepts behind eye contact.
Now let's take it to that next level.
I would say that there are going to be two different facial expressions you're going
to want to make when you're giving good eye contact and you're talking to a girl.
I like to separate them into two different categories.
One is flirty/fun and one is flirty/engaged.
Flirty fun and flirty engaged.
Let's start with flirty fun.
Flirty fun is you looking at her in the eyes.
You're squinting just a little bit and you have a very slight smile.
This is a very seductive way of looking at a girl.
But don't get confused with the words I'm saying.
Just follow the exact directions I'm gonna be giving you but understand it's very seductive.
And when I say seductive, I don't mean you're looking at her like this.
That's cheesy, you see that in movies or posters or things like that.
That's all I'm saying.
Follow these directions even though it's still considered seductive.
Looking at her in the eyes, squinting just a little bit like I'm doing very subtle.
So just a little bit and you have a smile on your face that isn't a full grin like this.
It's just very slight.
I'm going to give you this example right now, this is how it's going to look.
You're going to imagine that you're going to be giving her this type of eye contact
when you're listening to her.
It's actually both of these forms.
Here it is.
Ready?
Watch closely.
I'm nodding a little bit because I'm showing that I'm listening to the person and
I have it just squinted a little bit.
The squint shows that I'm engaged with her, shows more laser focused engagement than
just like staring at her like this.
Squint like you're engaged with her and the smile is showing slight interest.
It's showing her that you're interested in what she's saying and that it's exciting
you.
Again it's all very slight.
That's why this is flirty.
That's what flirtation is.
It's all under the radar, covert, slight.
You're not going overboard, you're just showing a the little bit of subtle interest like this.
That's flirty, fun and now I want to get to flirty engaged.
That next one I was talking about where you're actually listening to her and you're doing
it in a way where she's like wow, this guy is listening to me.
Now I know that was similar to the last one.
But this is different because you're not going to be smiling while she might be
sharing something,
which is a little bit more neutral to serious.
If she's saying something fun and interesting, you'll be doing the flirty fun smile.
But if she's saying something where you're a little bit more engaged and interested like
wow, what's this all about or this seems dramatic or this seems kind of deep, something like
that.
You're gonna look at her, you're gonna furrow your brow a little bit like this.
You're not going to be smiling, you're still gonna be squinting, and you're gonna be looking
at her and your heads gonna be tilted just a little bit.
Maybe your mouth is open a little bit, maybe it's closed.
And I know this sounds kind of ridiculous.
It's like really, do I have to be doing this?
No, you don't have to do any of this.
You can just look at her in the eyes and it can be completely neutral but I'm giving you
a couple techniques to give you a little bit more of emotion.
I want to pound you with a little bit of human life into you so you're not staring at her
like a deer in headlights.
I want you to be a little bit more engaged with her.
Hopefully this is not something that you're faking or you're just doing because I'm telling
you to do it, but it's a way to tap into you being more empathetic.
That empathy is all felt through your body language, meaning the eye contact that you're
giving her and the exact facial expressions that I just gave you to use.
Just being engaged with her, smiling a little bit, and just being a little bit more neutral.
If you want to take this to the next level and make it even more powerful, here's what
you can do.
You can combine you using this eye contact which is more action oriented.
Body language with verbal.
I've talked about this before.
I'll put a link down below in the description to a video where I talked about how to be
a challenge to a woman.
But if we combine these two, you looking at her and being engaged body language wise but
then verbally you're showing her subtle teasing and you're challenging her a little bit and
you're not just giving her tons of compliments just telling her how much you like her or
just saying something that's going to be so intense with your how you feel about her.
If you're combining all this together, it's showing so much that it's not allowing you
to remain a mystery and now it's not so much flirting.
It's just you showing a lot of interest and can not necessarily be that attractive to
a woman.
What I want you to do is combine these two concepts.
How can we show interest with our eyes and with our body language and be a challenge?
Maybe you're talking to her, you're having a nice conversation and you're doing a little
bit more fun, flirty, smiling.
You're listening to her little with a smile on her face.
And then she says you know last week I went to vacation to Florida and you go whoa what,
Florida?
That's like the worst place to go.
Why would you go there?
That place is terrible.
Again, just a dumb example.
But the idea here is that you're being more of a challenge and you're showing her that
you're not going to be agreeing and loving every single thing that she says.
If we combine these two, it makes it more of a mystery.
Like wait, he's showing me interest but he's also not by saying what he just said?
What's going on here?
Combining these two is the power that makes you more interesting because of the mystery
that you're showing.
Here's what I want you to do next.
I want you to test one of these out.
And if you don't feel comfortable testing one of these out, that just means that you're
still trying to practice eye contact.
Practice eye contact first and then get to the point where you can take one of these
and practice them when you're out there talking to women.
Practice makes perfect.
You're not going to get this right away.
You're not going to be comfortable right away.
And I know that it takes a long time but it's so crucial that you do because a woman is
not going to feel connected to you unless you're looking at her in her eyes.
And of course, to have fun with it practice one of these techniques that I shared today.
What we've been talking about today is this concept called tension or creating sexual
tension with a woman.
When you're creating sexual tension, you basically create a context in which she knows that this
is not you trying to be a friend.
This is you trying to be a lover.
And that is really important if you want to make sure you don't get in the friend-zone.
But even more important if you want to stay out of any sort of neutral zone.
You don't want to be a friend, you don't want to be neutral.
She has to know on some level that you are flirting with her.
She has to understand that you're flirting with her.
And trust me, she'll get it.
Once you use this, use the techniques that we talked about on this video.
She's gonna understand it.
Women are amazing at picking that up.
And that's what's going to create this tension between you two which then spikes her emotions
and creates attraction.
I talk about this in my Hooked program and I teach you how to create more attention beyond
eye contact.
There's a few other ways that you're going to want to do it with the way that you speak
to her, a few other body language moves and things you're going to do to make her feel
like wow, this guy is serious.
Go to www.getherhooked.com and you'll find there a video that's going to explain everything
you need to know about the Hooked program and how powerful it can be.
Because it's not just about tension but a few other techniques that I'm going to be
showing you that get her really invested in you.
That's why I call it Hooked because it gets her hooked on you.
This is just step one.
Start with the eye contact, start practicing this stuff, start delving into this world
of creating tension.
Most guys are not doing this and this is what's causing them not to get far with the women
that they're talking to or at the worst place in the friend-zone which a lot of guys are
in.
Learn about this stuff, get the course – Get Her Hooked.com.
The link is in the description down below.
Let's take you to the next level and I'll see you on the next video.