we always paint a up reality
that's not even true
it's reality what we think is true
because our lives aren't what we want it
to be
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i realized that god wasn't going to give
me a get out of jail free card
and from the time i was born
and to the time i was 19 years old
my life
had these hurdles i constantly hit
obstacles
obstacle after obstacle after obstacle
and
i i had to figure out how to manage
suffering how like how to deal with it
because it'd be part of my life forever
at least that's what i thought
so in order to deal with it
i had to be able to conquer it and
overcome it and deal with it know that
in this suffering there has to be some
kind of growth
with every obstacle i look as friction
now without friction there is no growth
you have to have friction in your life
to grow
so i started looking at all these
different things versus the woe is me
mentality like oh my god look at my life
my life's so up i come from this
up family i'm being beaten i'm
being abused mentally physically
i start looking at it as a as the
perfect trial ground
try to flip it upside down it's okay i'm
suffering tremendously mentally
use this to your advantage versus your
disadvantage so that's what i did versus
looking at it as like oh my god what was
me i'm never gonna get out of here i
looked at okay hang on a second
hang on a second
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if i can overcome this
if i can find some power in this some
way to get through this
that right there will be the fuel
for the rest of my life
and so i found great strength and
suffering
great strength in it because why through
all of that
it started to callous my mind
over the victim's mentality
this whole thing about suffering yeah it
sucks
really bad
uh really really bad
but we all live
on this side of suffering
on this side this nice box that's very
comfortable that we know when everything
is going to happen we are in it it's
good we know how everything's going to
turn out
it's those few people who are willing to
go on the on this side of suffering
and once they get through that
ask him how he feels now
his mind
how far he grew
in that short period of time
he grew so much more than the normal
person because he was willing to go
outside himself because on the other end
of suffering
is greatness
it's not over here so a whole bunch of
us we put ourselves in this great box
and in that box there's no suffering in
it
so what we do is we if we sh is we
shelter ourselves from greatness
so for me for instance i was 300 damn
pounds
at one time in my life
spray for cockroaches made a thousand
dollars a month
i was living in that box
i would sometimes look over the box and
i saw hell suffering storms avalanches
tornadoes i'm gonna go over there but i
knew if i could get through that
mentally
on the other side was 185 pound person
who's a navy seal went through ranger
school only person to do this only
person do that only person do this but
that's through all that
all that i have to go through so
you peek over the box and you go back in
and say oh i'm okay being 300 pounds
making thousand dollars a month i'm okay
over here
and on the other side is where you start
to really start your journey
people think they start their journey
because they're born
no there's a lot of people in graves who
have lived 100 years
and have never started their real
journey
your real journey starts when you go
outside that box
and you start climbing mountains and
start climbing mountains and you think
at the top of the mountain you go down
the other side of you think i'm here you
look up there's another
mountain
and it goes on
and it goes on and it goes on and just
when you're getting ready to quit
you crest that final mountain you get
down and you look
and there you are and it starts to make
sense to you then
it doesn't make sense to you until you
get outside that box i'll talk
to so many people and what i say
is not for everybody
so many people don't have any clue
on what the i'm saying because
they're in this box
and it's their brain
you first must go through suffering to
find that great peace we're all looking
for a lot of us want to have there's a
lot of books out there
about this five steps do this do this do
this get there no man it's not that easy
to find real permanent
peace and enlightenment
you must go to the dark side of who you
are
i could have easily just shoved my whole
life under a rug and went straight to
peace are are you happy there
you overcame nothing
you jumped hell
you skipped hell for you you forgo
this part of your life you skip it and
go right to peace
so you always have this thing back here
that's haunting you and that's that
darkness
you must go into the darkness to truly
find that light that you're looking for
because that's what's on the other side
of that
people get it all wrong man
you you have to face suffering
you have to face this dark side this
darkness and there's a lot of energy in
there
there's a lot of goodness in there
that you can use to find greatness but
you cannot find your peace you're
looking for in yourself
until you've overcome yourself
i think that when you die this is my own
mindset
that you arrive in line
it helps me to get past a lot of things
you you arrive in line and i say you're
in front let's say you die right before
me and you're in line
and god's sitting there with the
clipboard okay sitting there with a
clipboard like me you're sitting right
now he's looking at you
and he says hey you made to heaven good
job okay
and then he shows you the clipboard
of what your life should have been
so you live this life that you thought
you pushed so hard you look at the
clipboard let's say myself this is not
me i'm talking about myself now
and i say i got to heaven weighing 300
pounds
i was a
a guy that worked for ecolab was the guy
that kills cockroaches for a living
which is fine it's a job
but now look at this and that's how i
died i look at this and it says on here
where i should have been because god's
all-knowing right now look at this and
they said you should have been 185
pounds you should have broke against
booker world's record you should have
been a navy seal should have been that
should have been that you should live
this great life you should have been
inspirational you should inspire
millions
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and then you get the clipboard back to
god
let's say you lived 80 years on earth
and now you realize that you lived here
being a shell of who the you should
have been
it's now you're in heaven
are you really in heaven
because now you see how much you
left down there on earth
the root cause of the quitter isn't that
you can't do 100 push-ups
you can train anybody to do that the
root cause of the quitter
is when you get in hell
you can't process it
it's too much to process
because your mind starts going back to
the real reality of like i'm not ready
i'm not good enough
it's not trained
so i started training this
realizing that the only thing that makes
me quit not the muscle fatigue
it's the mental fatigue
that makes me quit everything in life
so i became a practitioner of the mind
the minds a very powerful thing it has a
tactical advantage over you all the time
it knows your fears right it knows your
insecurities it knows where you don't
want to go so it will guide you away
from that
and that's why the mind will always win
until you reprogram it
you'll always win
until you reprogram it because
the mind controls you
why is that it's your mind
it's your mind because all those things
that happen to you in your life
all those bad things all those things
that you blame other people for they're
now yours to own you gotta figure out a
way to reprogram your mind to get
outside the box
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