Audio: TANDEM - 7oh2
Audio: Shake It - INNDRIVE
ADHD people, welcome to ADHD Would You Rather where I give you two options and you decide which one you would rather do.
And today I would like to ask you would you rather do your laundry including folding and putting it away,
Or go on an hour walk with your friend, but they're a really slow walker?
Let me know which one you'd rather do.
This is just a reminder that if you've recently discovered that you're neurodivergent,
and by recently I mean within the past few years or so,
It is totally normal and very common to notice your neurodivergency more.
And for some people that can feel like your neurodivergency is getting worse,
for other people it can look like noticing new symptoms and new traits of your neurodivergency,
and for others it can look like spending a lot of time and emotional energy restructuring your life.
Learning that you have a neurodivergency can be a life-changing experience and not necessarily in all good ways and that's okay.
It is an opportunity to learn and grow and understand yourself more.
But for many people that also means unlearning a lot of bad habits and unhealthy coping mechanisms that you used to use to get by.
So after diagnosis if you feel like you're noticing it more, it doesn't mean that you're being overdramatic, it doesn't mean that you're over-exaggerating.
It just means that you're learning more about yourself, and that's amazing but most importantly, you're not alone.
Keys? Forgot my keys.
Have I eaten today?
Whatever.
Backpack. Backpack. Backpack. Backpack. Backpack.
Sweater. Sweater. Sweater. Sweater. Sweater. Sweater. Sweater. Sweater. Sweater.
Keys! The Keys! The Keys! The Keys! The Keys!
Lock the door. Lock the door. Lock the door. Lock the door. Lock the door. Got it.
Wait, did I lock it?
But did I lock it?
How many are there?
36, counted them myself.
Audio: Doin Too Much - Kash Doll
Audio: TANDEM - 7oh2
Hey Catie!
Yeah?
What did you go to thrift store to buy?
A new tray for thanksgiving.
What else did you get?
A new couch!
It was on sale.
Oh well hello TikTok, it's been a minute. Let's talk about ADHD and decision paralysis.
Because I've been experiencing a lot of it lately.
So I just launched my new Minecraft server QuestCraft which I've been streaming on my Twitch.
And when you enter a whole new world of Minecraft there's literally endless possibilities and the mind boggles about what you can do.
And it can get freaky.
So something that often helps me is to arbitrarily limit my options.
Choosing a couch? pick your favorite brown one.
Then you might think well I actually like blue better than brown. Okay, pick your favorite blue one.
Work your way on from there.
And again these limitations can be completely arbitrary. It's just to get it down from infinity.
Can't figure out what to build your Minecraft base out of? Pick a random block, see what happens.
You've got this.
Oh-oh-oh-oh-oh-oh-oh
I know it ain't, I know it ain't the stallion.
You know it's yo girl.
Oh my god! Help me I got shot!
You need a doctor man!
You are the doctor.
Oh fuck! Hey I can't fix that!
Do you actually not want to hang out with your friends,
or is it just that having to convince yourself that your friends do like you and they do want you to be there just a lot of extra energy and effort that you don't have to give right now?
And just like that, *POOF* Lola's gone.
Wrong! Lola's right here you fuckin brussel sprout.
Hi there! I'm aware that I'm a forgetful person so on occasion I will ask somebody to please remember something for me.
And it's usually something like a large number that I have to write down at a later time that I won't have access to again once I leave where the number is,
so I need to make sure that somebody else remembers in case I also forget,
so as soon as I ask that person I'm like hey can you please remember this number
4,876,329
and they say 'Sure Dave I can remember that number for you'
But it's pointless. You can do it if you want but it's pointless, because the minute that I do that my brain activates and says 'Nope, we're just gonna remember this number now'
So then I go and do the thing that I have to do and it gets to the point where I need to write down the number and I think okay I need to ask the person and my brain says nope we got this.
4,876,329 I'm like what a waste of time we could have asked them to remember something else.
My brain's like 'I don't know man I'm all shoulders'
So that's why I ask everybody to remember stuff for me because it causes me to remember things better on my own.
Where's the cheese? It's under the sauce.
There's no cheese on it. It's under the sauce.
Like I'm Italian and this is hurting me. It's from Chicago.
It's just sauce. Cheese is under the sauce.
That's not enough cheese! Cheese is under the sauce.
Do it now! If it takes less than two minutes.
That's me laying in bed contemplating my life, but if I don't do laundry I have to reuse boxers tonight.
So I set a two minute timer, put the clothes in the wash, add soap, and start it and it turns into a race of can you beat the timer.
Fuck ya life!
BING BONG
You see these dogs in your front yard just know upstairs I'm going hard.
Bing Bong
What do you want to tell Joe Biden right now?
What's up baby? take me out to dinner.
HEY YO
Ariana Grande, what's up mama. Come to Coney island-
Audio: Gwen Stefani - Bubble Pop Electric
Here's something I think is really important for people to understand about ADHD.
We spend 15 seconds out of every minute remembering what we were doing.
I mean it, and that sounds funny and quirky and sometimes it is but all that time spent wondering 'why did i come into this room?'
'Why did i open that new chrome tab?'
Ends up amounting to a significant portion of our lives and it makes me sad.
I often find myself mourning for that lost time. ADHD isn't just some quirky thing, there's a lot of suffering that comes with it.
I mean look it's just a perfectly normal- Oh my god he's a weirdo!
We were right!
How much does the Earth cost?
I'm gonna buy the entire Earth and be king.
Today we're going to talk about one of the best ways to get shit done if you have ADHD.
It's called Body Doubling.
Not, not this kind.
Put very simply, Body Doubling is just having somebody to sit with you and hang out with you while you do the work that you need to get done.
And the person who's with you doesn't necessarily have to participate, they just are there.
This can look like inviting a friend over while you clean your closet or even just hanging out on a zoom call while you do your paperwork.
For some people with ADHD having somebody around offers us a little bit more support and structure.
For other people we need the engagement and stimulation that having another person around to talk to provides while we're doing something boring.
For others it's an accountability thing.
So sound off in the comments, I want to know do you use Body Doubling and does it work for you?
ADHD people I bet you can't guess what I'm about to say.
Are you ready? Okay, guess.
Awesome!
I was about to say you should go drink some water right now. If you guessed correctly then why haven't you drank any water?
If you guessed incorrectly why haven't you drank any water?