Before we get into today's video, I imagine that there's gonna be
a lot of guys who are watching this specific video because they're in a situation with a woman where
she's backing off, she's being distant (just like the title says) and you're very uncomfortable with
this, this is very hard for you, you don't want to lose this girl. I just want to let you know that
coaching is available for you if you need one on one help. This video might help you and give
you some ideas. But it's not going to be always specific to this situation, the situation that you
are in. So if you need help, if you need more one on one help, I do have a coaching program where
you're working with me specifically. I'll put a link down below where you can see the application
and some testimonials from guys who have gone through the program. If you need more help, let me
know and I'd be happy to help you. Of course, no guarantees which you're gonna learn about today.
It doesn't always work, it depends. But there's some things that you're going to be able to
take away from that either way. Let's begin. First things first is you have to know that if you're in
a situation where a girl is being weird and she's pulling back, she's being a little bit distant,
this is going to be your opportunity to do one of two things. I want to be very clear here. I
know this sounds maybe a little common sense. But guys don't think of this as two different options.
One option is, this is your opportunity to cut your losses. This is your opportunity to move
on from this girl if it's not working out. We're gonna get more specific in just a second. But this
is your opportunity to cut your losses and leave the situation or try to do a few things that can
fix it to then move it forward to then see if it's going to work where then you are going
to either cut your losses or move forward. The point is you've got to do something,
you've got to take action and that's what this video is going to teach you to do. Point being,
it's going to save you time. Time is your most valuable resource. We want to save time. The 3
reasons why she's pulling back are one, you guys have not been physical. No kissing, no sex. You're
in this friend-zone situation. Two, you have been too needy, too overwhelming, overbearing,
which is one of the most unattractive traits. I talk about that a lot on this channel. Or three,
you're in a relationship with her and it's just been very predictable and very boring.
Those are the 3 things. You're either in some sort of friend-zony weird situation where she's being
weird and distant because you have not moved forward in the interactions. Or you're in some
sort of dating and or relationship scenario where you're too needy or you're too predictable. These
are the reasons why this is happening. Let's talk about the friend-zone situation for a little bit.
A lot of women will end up not talking to you, not responding to your text messages
if you're not moving the interaction forward. Some guys think like oh she's being weird,
she's being distant, she's not answering the back. It's probably because (and this is more
in the beginning dating scenario) you haven't made any moves to ask her out, you went on a date with
her but you didn't push the interaction forward. Or, even worse, you went on this like pseudo-date
where she's not sure if it's a date, you haven't really implied that it was a date,
and then nothing came of it. This happens quite a bit where guys put themselves in
this weird purgatory situation where they're in this friend-zone and then nothing happens
and the girl starts to. trickle away. You don't really hear from her anymore.
With this situation, how you're going to fix it you need to escape the friend-zone. You
can either prevent that by making sure that you are asking the girl out on a date and accepting
the fact that she might reject you, but at least you're not going to be in this purgatory state.
Or you can try to escape the friend-zone if you're in it right now by asking her out on a date or
kissing her, making a physical move. I understand that this might be hard because you're thinking oh
no, what if she rejects me? But what's worse? That or you just sitting around doing nothing
waiting for something to happen? And of course the result being she might end up pulling back
anyways. You want to know that you tried. It's funny because I say this to you and it's like
I'm talking to my old self like old Tripp, like all these crazy painful memories... well not so
painful anymore. But these memories where I would not make the move. And of course to this day
you regret those things. And it's like well, it didn't work out anyways, so it hurts so much more
to not go for it. Press like right now if you know exactly what I'm talking about
and I'm sure you do. Next, neediness. Neediness is the most common reason why a girl might pull away,
be weird and be distant is neediness. You're texting too much and you're too available.
Meaning you're always ready to hang out, you're buying her things, you're buying her
flowers and you're over complimenting. Common things I say a lot on this channel, just being
too needy and too available. What this is going to do is to turn her off because neediness is
basically sub-communicating to her that you are desperate and you have no other options, which is
very unattractive. She wants to know that you have something else going on in your life
and the world doesn't revolve around her. My tip for you is drop text communication by 90%.
And I know it's such a specific piece of advice. But I know, I just know it that you... talking
to you... are probably texting girls way too much. And I don't blame you. Because we're all texting a
lot. I text my friends. Text messaging is the form of communication. It's bigger than phone calls.
We don't do phone calls anymore. You assume that hey, texting is the way to communicate. That's why
you're looking up videos on how to text girls and things like that. That's why my number one video
"How to text a girl you like" is at 11 million views. Because this is the way we communicate.
However, you have to understand that texting is killing your chances with her because it's showing
neediness and availability. You only want to use texting to meet up with her and nothing else.
That is how you're going to try to fix that. Kill all the texting, and similar to my last piece of
advice, try to move the interaction forward by asking her out and only doing it that way. The
dropping of the text messaging and you not texting as much, what that's going to do is it's going to
send a message to her that you are busy and doing other things. That you might not be available all
the time and... what's going on? Tripp, he used to text me all the time and now she's just gone.
I don't get it, what's going on? It piques her curiosity and can make her more attracted.
No guarantees, but it's your best shot. Maybe you're in a relationship, that could be the case
too. You're in a relationship with a girl and things have gotten predictable, they've gotten
boring. What are you supposed to do now if she starts to feel a little bit distant?
Something you should be doing is something that I called the red wine weekly check in. But then
there's a few more things to do also. The weekly red wine check in... and if you guys don't drink
red wine or you're under 21, then pick another drink or something that you guys like to eat...
and you do that every week as a way to just turn off the TV, put away the phones, put away the
distractions and communicate with each other and talk about whatever you want to talk about.
Hopefully fun things and have a nice moment with each other. And if you do like red wine or some
kind of drink like that, it makes it more fun and more unpredictable by having some sort of drink
that's different every time where you guys can talk about it. You can also do this with a book,
if you guys are reading a book together. There's lots of different options. My idea
here is you're trying to be more unpredictable in the relationship to keep it more exciting.
You can do that red wine check in. Then I want you to do a new restaurant every single month,
or a new type of date every single month. If this is too complicated for you, just stick to a new
restaurant. It makes things more exciting. You got the weekly check in, the monthly
date at a new restaurant. Then you want to do quarterly every three months. Some sort
of local trip or a staycation, going to a hotel for a night and just getting away somewhere,
or doing a little road trip somewhere. Or doing some sort of vacation where you guys go away but
it's only for a weekend. Nothing too big because you're gonna want to do this every single quarter.
That keeps things exciting as well. And then if you guys are in a longer relationship, then you
do a yearly international trip. Once a year you go somewhere further or it can be somewhere in
your country that's further away. That makes it so it's a little bit more special. See what I'm doing
here? There's always something to look forward to. There's always this new thing to help build
the relationship and keep things a little bit more exciting. Another way to do this is to make sure
that you guys are doing new fun, exciting things in the bedroom. Always be pushing boundaries with
consent and making sure you guys are having fun there. Combine all that... boom, lots of
unpredictability in the relationship which makes it more fun and keeps her around. Here's what you
can do this information real quick. First thing is this, if you're in a friend-zone situation,
just make a move and go for the kiss or make a move to get on a date with her. If you're in a
situation where you're being too needy, only text her if you're going to meet up with her. Drop all
texting. Stuff that you can do right now. And if you're in a relationship, what I want you to do is
I want you to grab a bottle of wine or something you guys both like to drink or eat and invite her
over to your place and go to a new bedroom, a new area, a new corner of your place. It can even be
on the floor next to the bed. Of course cleaned up and make it look nice. If you have carpeting
it can be cozy just being on the floor next to the bed. I know that sounds crazy but this is just you
two being in a new experience together in a new place and it works. That's something you can do
right now. Pick a new area of where you live and have a little drink, have something to eat
and connect. Put the phones away. There you go. I hope that helps. If you want more help with me
specifically and you want to work with me, go to Coached By Tripp.com. I'll put a link down below
where you and I can work together and we can handle your situation.
We can do it and make sure that this is going to be your best shot at pulling her back to you.