Hey everybody.
Happy Thursday.
And since it's Thursday,
I'm answering your questions.
And I do keep a pulse on things in the media,
And I may talk about things.
There are a couple,
New discoveries out about mental health.
And so I would like to talk about those.
But I don't have enough information yet to make a video.
But stay tuned for more media.
Don't think that I forgot.
Because I think that's important,
That we keep talking about things that are going on.
And things that we care about.
So that we can all, you know, chime in together.
And as a community talk about it.
Because the more we talk about mental health, the better.
So, a couple of things.
Scotland update.
My meet-up will be on March 28th at 1pm.
I'm not sure where yet.
But, in Elgin,
I will be staying kind of in the center of town.
And I will probably pick like a coffee shop, or a little cafe,
Or some kind of a place where we can all kind of hang out.
Depending on how many people may show up.
You know, I will try to pick a place where everybody has a seat.
And everybody can chat as long as they want, or whatever.
So yeah, so the meet-up with be March 28th at 1pm.
So mark your calendars.
And I may do some other stuff.
But like I said,
I will be at the Elgin Youth Cafe,
So if you want to hear me talk.
I'm talking Monday night, I believe, Wednesday night.
And then doing the closing ceremony on Friday.
So, check it out.
Come hang out.
Because I will be talking about a lot of things.
Okay, now this is the first question.
And why did my numbers go away.
Usually I have them numbered out so that I don't get confused.
Okay.
Not that I'd really get confused.
So, question number one.
'Hi Kati, this is actually my first time writing you a question.'
Well welcome to the community.
'I'm a bit nervous and I wasn't 100% sure where to write it. So I wrote it here.'
Well if any of you are new,
Welcome to the community.
If you have a question for my Thursday video.
Ask it below either this video,
Or the Video that I put out on Monday.
And also on my website katimorton.com
You can go in to,
I believe it's one of the tabs,
It's like Kati's videos.
And then you go down and it's like Q&A for vids.
And you click there.
And you ask.
And other people are offering up answers.
And there's a lot of chatter going on.
So if you're just looking for some support, katimorton.com is the place.
Okay,
'Hope that this is okay.'
Of course it's okay.
You can ask your questions anywhere you like.
'I am recovering from an eating disorder. Every day is still a struggle,'
'But I am a fighter and I refuse to give up.'
I like that.
'My question is, If I am around the minimum ideal weight for my height.'
'Why does my nutritionist want me to gain more weight?'
'My loved ones still feel like I look too thin. But I am not underweight.'
'I am so confused. Could you shed some light on this.'
And this got a lot of likes.
And people were chatting about it.
And I hope Kati weighs in on this. No pun intended. Hah.
Actually pun intended.
I'm sorry.
So, if I'm at the minimum ideal weight for my height.
Why does my nutritionist want me to gain more weight?
Now, there is a couple of reasons.
Number one,
Once we have had an eating disorder,
A lot of things could have been going on in our body that made things hard for our body to do.
Regular things that other people's bodies do,
Ours has a hard time.
And, being the 'minimum ideal weight' for your height and your BMI,
Is not what you should look for.
That's not all nutritionists take into account.
A BMI,
So for any of you who don't know what it is,
Body Mass Index.
Do not look it up.
It's not helpful.
It actually doesn't give you any information about,
What's your bone density.
What's your genetic, like what's your familial situation,
Like genetically, what is your body shape supposed to be like.
Because some people are more hippy.
Some people have bigger boobs.
Some people are just broader shouldered people than others.
Some people have bigger bones.
Some have small bones.
Everybody is so friggen different that the BMI is a bunch of fucken bullshit.
And nutritionists and doctors take it into account, somewhat,
But there are a lot of other factors.
And if we have had an eating disorder,
There are a lot of factors on top of that.
Because our metabolism needs to get back to a healthy range.
We need to feel like we are eating a wide variety of foods,
And make sure that our kidney and liver function,
Our electrolytes, everything,
Is balanced and in a healthy range.
It is so much more than a BMI.
And I know that many people,
Like I have many clients who look to that,
And they struggle with the fact that,
'Well now I'm on the higher part of my thing. And heh.'
Everybody's different.
Everybody, everyone's body is different.
We should celebrate our differences.
And wonder in the fact that we're all unique.
And all wonderful.
In our own way.
So, long answer to that question I suppose.
But the short of it,
If you're like,
'Kati, how come they keep wanting me to gain weight.'
It's because that's not a healthy weight for your body.
And that's just it.
Period.
They are not going to make you get fat.
They are not going to make you over gain.
They are not going to make you overweight, or put you in any harm.
They're actually, the one thing that you can always guarantee from a doctor and a dietitian,
Is they have your best interests in mind.
They're trying to get you to the healthiest weight,
And healthiest amount of food, and nutrition that your body needs to keep you alive.
And keep you happy.
And keep your brain working.
You know, firing on all cylinders.
And everything.
So, trust in your team.
Fight those voices.
Download my free eating disorder workbook,
If that's something you haven't done yet.
And start working on it.
It's hard.
But you're a fighter.
You can do it.
And know that they only have your best interests in mind.
They are keeping your healthy and happy,
So you can have a healthy mind and a healthy body.
Okay.
Question number two,
And if any of you have gone through that, before I move on,
Let us know below.
Give some words of encouragement.
Things that you know from your struggles and your recovery process.
Because, just me saying it,
As another professional,
Sometimes just isn't enough.
Okay, question number two,
'Hey Kati, I really love to read.'
'And I spent most of my time growing up with my nose in a book.'
You and my brother have a lot in common.
'Reading up to twenty books at once.'
Wow, that's impressive.
'And ready above my grade level.'
'Because of my depression though,'
'I have been finding it really hard to concentrate on reading,'
'And it's really frustrating me.'
That would frustrate me too.
'I'd love to lose myself in a book again.'
'But I cannot concentrate so I have sentences over and over and over,'
'And it really bothers me.'
'Is there anything that I can do to keep focused and to be able to enjoy books again.'
Now,
A couple of things.
So, first of all,
Depression, like I have talked about one of the main symptoms of it is,
Anhedonia, like lack of enjoyment of activities.
So if, you're out there listening to this question,
And you think,
Yeah, I used to love to do something. X.
Play with the dog. Go for a walk. Paint. Listen to music. Whatever it is.
And you don't anymore.
That is a very normal usual symptom of depression.
Please reach out.
Seek help from a therapist in your area.
And just start talking about it.
But if you're one of those people who, you still want to enjoy something,
But you're really struggling to concentrate,
Concentration difficulties are actually one of the least, I guess diagnosed, so to speak,
Symptoms of depression.
People always forget that this is an issue.
I will have many clients who are doing so much better in their depression,
You know I feel like I have a little bit more energy,
I get out of bed, I'm doing much better.
You know, but then when we really get down to the nitty gritty,
They're struggling at work or school because they can't focus.
And they're forgetting things that they have read.
And they can't even watch a whole tv show anymore to relax at night.
The whole clump of things.
Concentration difficulties definitely are linked to depression.
In order to get that back,
Talk to your doctor first of all.
To make sure, you know, that nothing's wrong,
And there is nothing else that we need to take into account.
Because sometimes symptoms that we might attribute to our mental health issues,
Might be explained physically,
You know, like an organic situation in our body.
So we want to check that out.
And also see a therapist.
Find a counsellor.
Someone in your area.
Maybe finances are an issue,
Look for someone who works on a sliding scale.
Or maybe a counsellor at school.
Or any number of things.
There are so many opportunities to get low cost help out there.
And talking about it.
And just putting it out there.
And starting to get some support around what you're going through.
Will lift this difficulty.
Maybe even anti-depressants.
If you see a psychiatrist.
And that's something that they recommend.
These are all things that I would encourage you to reach out and look for.
And get the support that you need.
Because depression can be so heavy.
It can feel like such a cloud.
And I know it's really hard to stay motivated.
I know many of you have asked for a video about depression and motivation,
Don't worry, that's on my list.
It's coming up.
But, if you can muster the strength to make a call.
And set up someone to maybe go with you to the appointment,
To ensure you go.
It's totally worth the fight.
Because we don't have to live in that cloud anymore.
It can be so heavy.
And you deserve to feel free.
To love reading books.
And to read 20 at a time.
And make all of us feel like really, like we just can't keep up.
Because that's crazy.
I'm so impressed.
But, reach out.
Get some support.
I promise you, you're worth the fight.
You can do it, okay.
Now journal topic.
And I didn't write down who gave this to me.
And I'm sorry.
It wasn't the real name, it was like a, you know the name online.
And it was on youtube.
And I couldn't find it.
I looked everywhere.
And I'm sorry to the person who sent this.
Because I love this.
And it says,
'Don't confuse your path with your destination.'
And they said,
'I forgot who said it, lol.'
But it's great.
They said it.
And they told me, and I want all you to think about it.
Don't confuse your path with your destination.
Doesn't matter how you get there,
It's where you're getting to.
We all have different paths.
We all have, you know, some people,
I know I have clients recently who have been saying like,
You know, it's just not fair. They have such easy stuff. And dah-dah-dah.
But don't compare ourselves.
Don't confuse your path with your destination.
You can get just wherever you want to go.
You can get to any place,
Just as anyone else would.
Our path may be just a little different.
So write about it.
Let me know what you think.
I love you all.
I will see you on Monday.
And as always, ask your questions below today or Monday's video.
And I will find them.
And I will chat with you.
Okay, bye!
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