Hey everybody.
Happy Tuesday.
And I know, I'm back in my original digs here.
With my newspaper wall.
Brrt.
And many of you ask about that.
And I got that at CB2 years and years,
Many moons ago.
And I had to wait forever.
Because it's back board.
And it's made by hand.
Which is kind of cool.
Anyway, so that's what that is.
And it's all recycled newspaper.
You are correct,
For those of you who guessed that.
Okay,
So since it's Tuesday.
I'm on tumblr.
And many of you asked your questions.
And I also have a journal topic from anonymous.
So many of you on tumblr are anonymous.
And someone asked today,
'Do I really care if people are anonymous, or.'
I don't really care.
But if you do ask a question with your name showing,
Whatever name you have on tumblr.
I don't answer those publicly.
I answer them privately.
So for many of you,
When you're like,
'But you only answered like five.'
That's because I probably answered like twenty,
That were all to somebody else and you don't get to see those.
Because they don't come up on my wall.
So that is that.
Okay.
Lets get going.
Because we have some really interesting questions today.
And I think that it will be really helpful.
So lets get going.
First one,
'Hey Kati, if someone has panic attacks,'
'Does that mean that they have an anxiety disorder?'
'Also, if someone has an anxiety disorder,'
'Does that mean that they experience panic attacks?'
'Do the two go hand in hand?'
This was a great question.
And very interesting.
And I have a video on,
I think it's actually called,
'Panic attacks.'
Maybe, 'Anxiety disorders'.
Something like that.
But, this was something that I had to drill into my brain,
Bzz.
Over and over and over and over.
When I was studying for my licensing exam.
Because it's very confusing.
But the way that is works,
Is that you can not be diagnosed with a 'panic attack'.
That is not a thing.
That is a part of an anxiety disorder.
Okay.
So I'm going to say that one more time.
Panic attacks are not a diagnosis.
An anxiety disorder is.
So if you have panic attacks.
That does mean that you have an Anxiety Disorder.
However,
The reverse does not hold true.
So just because you have an anxiety disorder,
Does not mean that you experience panic attacks.
Everyone is different.
But think of panic attacks as kind of a symptom of an anxiety disorder.
And some people have them.
And some people don't.
But you can't have them without an anxiety disorder.
I hope that's clear.
That's why I said I had to drill it into my brain over and over.
But, that is how it works.
And the two do go hand in hand.
Many people experience both.
But that doesn't mean, you know,
They're not,
It works one way, not the other way.
Okay.
I don't want to talk any more about it because I might confuse you.
And confuse myself.
Okay.
Question number two,
'#KatiFAQ who determines whether someone has suffered emotional abuse?'
I have had many questions about this.
'Is it fair for a person to say that their parents emotionally abused them as a child.'
'Or do they need to see a therapist to have them confirm that?'
Now, I want to talk about this,
Because, first of all,
If you feel you are being emotionally abused,
You can say 'I have been emotionally abused.'
That's your experience.
That's your truth.
Speak it how you want to speak it.
However,
When it comes to therapists.
We're going to ask a lot of questions and we're going to want to know more about it.
And how old you are.
And all of that stuff.
Because some things are reportable.
Emotional abuse can be reportable.
For children.
For adults.
It's children, elderly, and dependant adults.
Those are the people that are protected with therapists.
We have to protect them.
I'm assuming it's all over the world.
But I know in the states as a whole,
There are all sorts of different laws in place,
So that when we find out something like this is happening,
We have to report it.
We are compelled by the law.
We can actually go to jail, be fined, etc, if we don't.
So that just gives you a little idea about that.
But if you feel you have,
You don't need someone to diagnose you.
This isn't really a diagnosis.
This is something that has happened to you.
That you're feeling.
So yeah,
So if you think that's happened,
Then it most likely did.
Okay.
Question number three,
'What are the biggest differences between depression and anxiety?'
'And how can you tell the severity of depression,'
'If the client has tendencies to hide what they are feeling under a mask?'
Now, the first,
I'll answer the first portion.
Because the second is, it's a very different thing.
So the biggest differences between depression and anxiety,
Because, as many of you know,
And I may have said this before,
They are so inextricably linked.
We have,
And my friend Jamie would be so proud,
Because we're learning the trim model of anxiety.
But, we have resilient zone.
Right.
So there's this part of our life where we are like,
'Things are so good. And I actually feel like myself. And oh my goodness.'
And then above it,
Is our anxiety.
When we come out of that zone,
And we're like,
'Oh my god, I'm freaking out. I don't know what.'
'Oh, what if that test doesn't go well.'
'What if that person doesn't like me.'
That's above it.
And below it,
Is depression.
Where it's like,
'Huhh, I just can't be bothered.'
'I don't want to do anything. It's just all going to be terrible.'
And from the comments that I made,
There in lies the biggest differences between anxiety and depression.
Anxiety being the worry of what's to come.
The fret of the future.
We worry about everything.
We have anxiety about what's happening a minute from now.
A week from now.
A month from now.
Five hundred years from now.
We stress and worry.
Depression doesn't so much worry about the future,
As assume that they already know what's going to happen.
It's already going to be shitty, why go out.
I know it's going to happen.
It's going to be bad.
So you can kind of see the difference.
I'm just going to keep it at that.
There is a lot more to it, obviously.
For those of you who are like,
'But there is, I feel more.'
That's true.
There is a lot more to depression and anxiety.
But in my mind,
That's how I kind of separate them.
Okay.
And leave your comments below.
If you have other things that you think and believe,
I'm always open to the feedback.
Okay,
Now the second question she said is,
'And how can you tell the severity of depression,'
'If the client has tendencies to hide what they are feeling under a mask?'
To be truthful,
That's kind of the,
I don't know.
The art of a therapist.
Now we can also give them kind of questionnaires.
And have you fill out things.
Which many therapists do periodically.
Have you fill out like a 'Beck Depression Scale'.
Or a 'Beck Anxiety Scale'.
Or any number of scales that we have.
And that we're trained to give.
So we can do that.
And that can help figure out what's actually going on in your noggin,
Even if you're not really expressing it.
But also that's,
Then there's the art.
There's the dance of therapy.
There's me asking you questions that make you a little uncomfortable,
But I'm like,
'I know it's in there. What are you feeling. Tell me more. Blah blah blah.'
And from the way that you respond,
Even if it's all hidden.
You don't really want to, you don't want to show it.
And ahh.
I will still gauge what's going on.
And I will still feel where you're at.
And that's part of my artistic talent as a therapist.
And every therapist is different.
But that's just how I can tell how my clients are doing.
And how severe the depression is.
And often times I have check in questions that they know,
That we've worked on together.
Like,
'Are you going to hurt yourself today?'
'Do you have a plan for that?'
'Are you still afraid of death?'
Or, you know,
There would be questions I might ask about the severity,
To know if they are suicidal or not.
Because that's usually my number one concern when they are,
If they are leaving and I know they are having a hard time.
I want to make sure they are safe until our next session.
So there's just a couple of options and ideas about what I do.
Okay.
Now journal topic from anonymous.
Is a really cool quote.
And it goes.
'Very few things matter. And nothing matters very much.'
It's by F. Scott Fitzgerald,
Who is a wonderful writer.
And I really enjoy his books.
And The Great Gatsby was one of his books.
And I loved it.
This reminds me of the book that,
I don't even know where I saw this,
But it was like,
'Don't sweat the small stuff.'
'And it's all the small stuff.'
And this kind of reminds me of it.
Because even right now,
I'm just back from holiday.
And I'm not going to ramble too long.
I don't want you to have to listen to me for too long.
But I just got back from holiday.
And I just feel like I was thrown into a wind storm,
I'm like,
'Oh my god, there's so much shit to do.'
'And so many papers to file.'
'This person needs that.'
'Got to mail this.'
'I need to fax that.'
'I need to blah blah blah blah.'
And I'm like, I'm all over the place.
Like a crazy person.
Like sweating.
Even though it's like 60 degrees out.
Because I'm like max, you know.
But nothing really matters.
And every day goes by.
And I get more accomplished.
And this actually wasn't as big of a deal as I thought it was going to be.
And there's no real need for me to stress about it.
And I really like this,
Because very few things matter.
You know what really matters?
Family.
Friends.
Those who love and care for you.
And those who you love and care about.
Spending time with them.
That's what matters.
And all of those other little things,
They don't really matter very much.
I really like that.
So write about what it means to you.
That's what it means to me.
Okay.
I love you all.
Tomorrow I will be on the website and youtube.
So ask your questions below today's video.
As well as at katimorton.com
And I will see you then.
Bye!
Subtitles by the Amara.org community