In this video, you will learn how to make any man obsessed with you by using the psychology
of seduction.
That’s right, you’re going to learn a powerful step by step plan based on social
and evolutionary psychology that will ignite a man’s desire for you and make him obsessed
with you.
I’m psychologist and relationship coach Dr. Antonio Borrello and I need to warn you-
these seduction techniques are so powerful that they are called “unethical” by many
people.
and because of that, I have been reluctant to share these techniques before.
However, I’ve come to realize that so many women have been on the receiving end of these
seductive practices and they don’t even know it.
so I share this to inform you so you can protect yourself from anyone using them on you disingenuously.
Now, These seduction techniques will work on any gender, But since the majority of you
watching this video are female, I’m going to focus on how these techniques can be used
to make a man obsessed with you.
And it all starts with number 1.
1.
Provoke His Interest and Desire Indirectly Regardless of whether you’re already involved
with a man, or if you are wanting to seduce someone new, you must approach him indirectly.
Because being too direct will telegraph your intentions and cause him to be defensive – Instead,
you must be elusive and approach from the side.
So, let’s take these two scenarios separately.
First, if you’re already involved with a man, then he has been attracted to you and
interested in you at some point.
Now you just need to turn that attraction and interest into a full obsession- and you
will accomplish that indirectly by exploiting his sexual over perception bias – rather
than by being direct with him about your intentions.
the sexual over perception bias is the tendency for men to over-infer a woman’s sexual interest
based on ambiguous information.
For example, men often confuse ambiguous cues such as a friendly smile, a touch on the arm,
or holding eye contact as flirtation and an invitation for sexual advance – and because
you already have some history with him, he probably already assumes that you like him
alot.
That’s why you must avoid telling him your feelings until he is completely yours.
Instead, You can use non-verbal language to show him and seduce him – without telling
him your feelings at all.
On the other hand, if it’s a new man that you are interested in, You still have to make
an indirect approach….
But you can have an even bigger advantage if you are able to make him think that he
is the one making the first approach.
So, To accomplish this, let him notice you in different places, stimulating him with
your appearance or your actions, but never approaching him.
You will get his attention this way, and if he wants to bridge the gap, he will have to
come to you.
Or, you can get closer to him through other people.
When you are able to infiltrate his inner circle, you may still be a stranger, but you’re
a stranger he has become curious about.
Here still you will befriend him while maintaining an appropriate distance for friends of the
opposite sex.
Once you’re close enough, you can start playing cat and mouse – first seeming interested,
then stepping back and luring him to follow.
But, be careful not to give him too much attention.
Too much attention conveys insecurity, and raises suspicions.
Worst of all, it gives him no room for imagination.
Most important for this step regardless of situation, You should never give the impression
that you have ulterior motives.
Instead, you must be coy and work behind the scenes.
2.
Send Mixed Signals Seduction is a psychological process that
requires you to lodge yourself in another person’s mind and keep them thinking of
you as much as possible.
And the best way to accomplish this is by sending mixed messages and keep them wondering.
You see, The initial phases of the mating game involves incomplete information for both
partners.
A man doesn’t know whether a woman likes him or not, while a woman doesn’t know a
man’s level of commitment.
Because a man is usually the one pursuing, he does not immediately know a woman likes
him or not.
When you send mixed messages, you are Exploiting this uncertainty and that will spark an enduring
kind of spell keeping him thinking of you always.
As I’ve said in other videos, the mind doesn’t like ambiguity.
That’s why we are all fascinated by people who are hard to figure out – we are curious
about people who are mysterious, intriguing and difficult to understand.
So, how do you send mixed messages?
Well, you are going to appear interested, then pretend to not be interested.
Give him a compliment followed by a criticism moments later.
Answer his calls, texts and messages promptly one day, then ignore him completely the next
day.
This mix of contrary qualities will keep him obsessively interested.
Mixed signals works for 2 reasons – 1, You will remain in his thoughts because he is
going to try to figure you out.
2.
You will confuse him and keep him skeptical – Never being completely certain of how
you feel will keep a man on edge, intrigued, confused and attracted.
3.
Appear to Be an Object of Desire Human beings are social creatures and are
immensely influenced by the tastes and desires of others.
We all gravitate towards people that others find desirable - That's why it's important
to create an aura of desirability or of being chased and wanted by many.
So when possible, surround yourself with members of the opposite sex including friends or present
suitors and your man will see you as a prize to be fought for.
Remember, desire is both imitative as in we like what others like as well as competitive,
we want what others have.
For women, this one can seem to be dangerous because you don't want to be accused of maintaining
relations with several different men.
That's why it's important to make sure that those who you surround yourself with are strictly
platonic friends.
If you are not comfortable with surrounding yourself with people who desire you, you can
also accomplish the aura of desirability by suggesting to a man the other people who have
fallen for you or were interested in a relationship with you.
The most important caution for this step is that you want to avoid lying about anything
or seeming to purposefully make a man jealous.
Creating the social illusion of desirability to triangulate or make a man jealous.
4.
Soothe His Anxieties and Insecurities People are likely to be seduced and fall in
love when they lack a sense of completeness or when they feel that something is missing
deep inside.
In fact, one of the reasons they fall in love is because they believe their beloved can
fill their existential holes – whether they are worried about the future, insecure about
their looks, or just suffering from a pervasive feeling of unhappiness.
Once you have identified this wound or this insecurity, you must lead them to believe
that you’re the only person who can heal it.
So, try to position yourself as an outsider and someone who can bring about change and
soothe his pain or sense of emptiness.
But be careful not to go too far in lowering his self esteem.
5.
Keep Him in Suspense Falling in love involves anticipation.
So, If you want to seduce a man to fall in love with you, you need to keep him guessing.
You can do this by behaving unpredictably.
Surprise him with new and exciting things.
Be creative and take him to new places.
Show off a little bit and use glamorous touches in your personal appearance.
Give him unexpected presents that show your personality.
These surprises will make him see you as delightful and unpredictable.
Remember, you want him to keep his interest piqued so he will always feel intrigued.
6.
Prove Yourself They say that actions speak louder than words.
This is also true when it comes to being seductive.
When the time comes, you need to show that you are a virtuous person, someone who can
act selflessly.
This will eliminate any doubts he has about you and he will begin to trust you completely.
There will be a time when your man needs help with something.
He might need you to solve a problem or do him a favor.
You can't predict when this will happen, but you must be ready for it.
When it does, go above and beyond what he expects.
This might even be a test for you.
If you hesitate or flinch for even a moment, you will fail.
Make sure your effort is noticed, but if you need to bring attention to it, do so subtly.
Remember I said that many people find these techniques unethical?
Well, here is a perfect example – Number 7-
7.
Mix Pain with Pleasure Kindness is important at first, but it soon
becomes monotonous.
In fact, Being too nice to a man is a huge mistake that will literally push him away
from you.
So, instead of constant kindness, try inflicting some pain and anxiety from time to time.
Then, you are right there to relieve it and soothe his pain away.
Think about this – people really begin to appreciate things when they have gone through
a lot of pain and suffering.
When we come close to dying, we start to really love life.
When we have traveled for a long time, coming back home feels much more pleasurable
So, your goal in this step is to build tension by creating moments of sadness, anxiety, and
despair, so you can relieve it.
Without tension, anxiety, or suspense, there is no feeling of release, joy, or pleasure.
The point here is to never let him get too comfortable with you.
If you want to have him completely seduced, He needs to feel fear and anxiety.
So, show him some coldness, a flash of anger that he didn’t expect.
Stir up his jealousy or exploit his insecurities.
Let him feel that he’s lost you and the reconciliation will be intense.
Before we get to number 8, I have a question-- how do you feel about this process?
Have you recognized some of these steps?
Have you been the victim of another person’s seduction?
And, would you be comfortable using these steps on a man you wanted?
I pass these questions off to you so Let me know in the comments section and let’s start
a discussion.
Ok on to number 8
8.
Turn the Tables to Amplify the Tension If you have been successful with the first
7 steps, it’s very probably that you have your man under your spell and he is crazy
about you… now it’s time to take it up one more notch to ensure that he’s fallen
for you deeply.
And to do this, you are going to take a subtle step back and let them come after you.
Start with a touch of aloofness or indifference.
You could act like you're getting bored – maybe not show up when you are expected.
But don't be too obvious.
Let him only sense it and his imagination will do the rest to create the doubt you desire.
When you withdraw, make it subtle; you don’t want to create the impression that it’s
over, you just want to instill unease.
His self doubt and paranoia will creep into his head when he is along and it will become
self generating.
In your absence, his appreciation of you will grow.
He will forgive your sins and forget your mistakes.
Your subtle step back will make him want to possess you and the moment you return, he
will know that the only way to win you back for sure is to reverse the pattern, to become
the giving and affectionate one.