﻿Are Women REALLY Obsessed With A Fat Wallet [0:00:00]
Smart women marry for money. This was the title of an article written by a woman
named Ginger. She’s a fashionista in her late 20s, who is wanting to have it all.
Now, in the article she clearly explains why a heterosexual woman she’d be looking
for a financially savvy man. Basically, she breaks it up to financial goal alignment.
What do we want to accomplish? We need to make sure that we’re on the same page.
She rightly points out that most, you know, marriages that a lot of the issues,
a lot of the problems are money problems, even just simply a relationship, you want
to make sure that you’ve got this aligned. Is he coming on with a bunch of debt? Does
he have tons of student loans? Do you have student loans? You want to express this,
you want to make sure that you are on the same page because if you want to own a house, if one of
you wants to travel a lot, these are things that you need to discuss, you need to be aligned with,
otherwise it’s going to lead the issues. And it’s important to note that at the
very beginning of the article, she says, you shouldn’t choose a partner just on money alone.
It’s one of many factors, love and commitment and other things being important as well.
Yet, despite saying this and having I think a pretty good point, the top comment is what
we would expect from the internet. “Wow. You’re a sick human being. Don’t
ever marry, guys. Losing half of what you have in a divorce isn’t worth it.”
There was another gentleman that chimed in, “Choosing money over love?
Kindly stop publishing such bull [bleeping sound] articles. Half of teen girls get spoiled
due to their immature mind and reading these kind of articles. Income will not be a constant.”
And it wasn’t just the guys tearing her apart. “I’m a woman and I personally am disgusted that
you find it okay for gold diggers to marry greedy people, who are motivated by money,
only for the money. This takes away from the intimacy and love that a relationship should stand
for. People like you give women a bad name.” Now, gents, I think anyone with a sound mind,
who actually read the article would realize those comments were a little bit over the top.
That being said, the question is still out there. Do women prefer a man with a fat wallet? Do
looks matter more than money or vice versa? And what does the science say about all these? Guys,
find out in today’s video. [Music]
Now, today’s video, gents, we’re going to break into three parts. First up,
we’re going to talk about the history, how men and women have made decisions about they’re
going to partner up with throughout time. Next up, we’re going to talk about the
prevalent theory that’s out there that’s affecting everything especially red pill,
the whole MGTOW movement. Basically, the way that they are thinking and
where these theories are coming from. And, finally, I’m going to give you my opinion, my
thoughts as someone that has studied evolutionary biology, has a background in biology and studied
this in college. I can tell you that it has changed over time. And what I’m going to say at
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First up, let’s talk about our history. Now, I just finished a great book,
Sapiens by Yuval Harari, highly recommended. But, in this book, he talks about the 200,000
years that modern man has pretty much existed. Now, if you’re not familiar with history,
10,000 of those years, we were agriculture the most recent 10,000.
Before that, we were hunter gatherers. He spent a lot of time talking about how
men for the longest time actually had a very simple dynamic. We were in small groups,
no more than a 100 people and you had men and women actually being treated pretty much equally.
[0:04:55] Now, of course, there were
the obvious differences, women were still giving birth, but in a hunter gatherer group of that size
men and women pretty much contributed equally when it came to the food. And,
overall, this affected the power dynamic. Basically, you had – you didn’t have one person
over the other. What you had is just simply human beings interacting. What’s interesting and this
actually plays into why do men and women cheat. Well, it just turns out in the smaller bands,
there wasn’t exclusive monogamy. What we had here were, you know,
a woman would choose who she wanted to be with. Men would choose who they wanted to be with. And,
you know, there wasn’t an issue with parentage, because basically you were in a tribe. You’re
in this small group and all children were considered to be everyone’s children.
Now, I’m sure that some of you guys out there, this sounds awesome. You’re just thinking, “Ah,
orgy, I can go with anyone.” Other people are thinking, “My gosh.
You know, this blows apart the idea of monogamy and it sounds horrible to me. I can’t imagine
having to share my partner with a group.” Now, gents, down in the comments you guys
can debate all you want about pre-agricultural man and his mating habits. But, let’s talk about
what happened 10,000 years ago when men stopped being hunter gatherers in mass and
started actually down the path of agriculture. So, the shift 10,000 years ago from hunter
gatherer to agricultural basically to a farming society had a huge impact
on pretty much everything we were as human beings. From how many we were able to have in a group.
Again, hunter gatherers work best when there’s about 30, 40, sometimes up to 100. But,
once the group got pretty big, they would splinter off and you got to know everybody there. But, in
agriculture, it work – you could go much larger. This is when the cities started to emerge in
Egypt, Mesopotamia, other parts of the world. All of a sudden we started seeing
these larger groups, thousands, tens of thousands. Nowadays, we’ve go cities in the millions.
And with these larger groups came more structure, came hierarchy, came different power statuses
given to different people placed in society. Now, in a small group of 30 to 40 people,
you know, everyone in general contributes. Yes, children don’t contribute as much,
maybe the elderly. But, you know, for most of the able bodied people, they are seen as peers.
In these larger groups all of a sudden you had people that were at the top,
people that started to dominate. And all of a sudden, people that had things that had access to
these resources were viewed as people of power. Now, compared to hunter gatherer tribes, women
in an agricultural society lost a lot of status. In a sense, they no longer control the food like
they did at an earlier point. They weren’t seen as equal contributors. In fact, many societies,
they were viewed as property. So, all the sudden, women are being
lumped into this group and parentage is becoming a big issue because
all of a sudden you have male children through many societies things being passed on, so it’s
very important to know whose offspring is who. So, all of a sudden, men in society started the
value, hey, I want someone that is chased, I want someone who I know is going to be able to produce
for me children that I can pass on what I have. On the flipside, women are now paying attention to
what men have because it’s important to them. They are very dependent on what the man brings to the
table especially in a lot of ancient societies when you didn’t have women working didn’t have
then earning, I mean, they would be destitute if they didn’t have a guy that could basically
bring home the bacon, bring home the food. And, all of a sudden marriage became a societal
contract. The idea here is that you could move up in society or in some cases move down if you
made a bad choice. And that’s why we saw arranged marriages become very popular and actually to this
say still exists because they’re pretty smart. If you think about it, they’re actually going
through and doing a good vetting versus modern day marriage in many people’s minds is for love,
which is probably if you think about it one of the worst things. I mean, I’m all about love, but
you’ve got to look at all the other stuff, right? So now, let’s move to part two and talk about
the evolved preference theory. This is the predominant theory that we’ve seen
over the last 70 years that evolutionary scientists and anyone that’s in sociology
has seen that men and women are looking for different things when they’re looking for a mate.
And many of these becomes, you know, things we talk about just in general taken as common wisdom,
that women are paying attention to money that they’re going to look at flashy things like cars.
They’re going to look at a man’s resources. They’re going to look at,
you know, his pedigree as education. All that, of course, they’re going to look
at his looks, but they look at that big picture. And as guys, we know, I mean,
there is tons of jokes out there. Yes, you know, she may talk about all her accomplishments,
but a lot of guys, they don’t care. What are they paying attention to? What’s her age,
what is her beauty, what type of – how healthy is she. And they view this
in terms of curves. So, we look at proportions from the chest to the waist to the hips.
And if those proportions are right, I can tell you the vast majority of men whatever they may say,
yeah, you put them in a room with a beautiful woman, all of a sudden,
many of them can’t even talk. They are losing their minds and they’re going to do things,
which they normally wouldn’t do. Why though? Evolutionary scientists for
years have thought that this is just hardwired. This is straight up biology. But, recent theories
have shown that that’s not a hundred percent true. In fact, a lot of these has to do with the last
10,000 years and the way society has evolved and what we’ve been told we need to look for.
[0:10:00] And if you’re familiar with the
nurture versus nature debate, basically, what were you born with certain traits and are you destined
for something. That’s the whole nature versus nurture is the idea that you could become anyone
that society shapes you more than nature. And depending on, you know,
there are all different theories out there and it still is debated to this day. But,
in general what this is showing is that a lot of these is actually in the nurture realm.
This makes a lot of sense when you look at what Chinese women value in men,
you look at what Indian women value in men. You look across cultural in Indonesia, you go
over to Canada, you go down to South America. You go over to places in Northern Europe, where
they have a very, you know, considered to be some of the most egalitarian societies out there, what
are women placing value on and what’s interesting is it does shift from culture to culture.
And, in fact, since I know we have such a global audience, I would love to hear from you guys down
in the comments, let me know what country you’re in and what do you think of the most
important things to the women in your country. I’d love to hear from you guys down below.
Another issue with the evolved preference theory is that it’s really only had 10,000
years to cement itself. Again, all these research that they’re saying about early humans a 150,000,
200,000 years ago is that actually the dynamics between men and women were pretty equal.
And, men, you know, women were choosing multiple men, men were choosing multiple women and, again,
parentage wasn’t really an issue because, you know, it was just the society was passing on and
everyone viewed everyone as their children as one large family.
So, it’s my opinion, what are my thoughts? Guys, I’ve read a lot of books on the subject,
I studied this stuff in college. And at the time when I studied it, the evolved
preference theory was the dominant theory. But, nowadays, I have to say I’m leaning over to
the new theory, which is the social role theory. Now, social role theory is not discounting not
throwing out everything in the evolved preference theory. But, it is bringing to question and asking
some serious, hey, why are there so many holes with this, especially we had such a short time.
And I think it’s going to show how the environment that you’re in, the culture that you’re raised,
the parents that you’re raised by, the town that you grew up in and the city,
so many growing up in New York City I bet is going to have slightly differences.
A woman over there in terms of preferences of what she’s looking for than someone similar – woman
in Cedar Rapids, Iowa. Again, this is a big generalization. Point being is this person
and their beliefs is very strongly affected by their culture by their surroundings.
So, to answer the question, are women obsessed with a fat wallet? You can’t
make general statements like that. There are some women, of course,
that are going to be very concerned about money, especially a woman maybe that grew up
without money, a woman that has gone through hardship. A woman maybe that’s gone through
a relationship that failed because they were always arguing about money.
And you know what? In that case, I can’t blame the person for actually paying attention to
this. And I think that what we want to look for and what, you know, hopefully you’re
able to find in a relationship is balance. For me, that’s what I’m always looking for. And
I do believe that talking about money before you get deep into a relationship is very important.
In fact, if you agree or disagree, let me know in the comments. I love hearing from you guys.
But, yeah, that’s my thoughts. Again, I love hearing from you guys,
so disagree, agree? Let me know down below. So, what video to watch next, gents? How about how
not to fail with women? There are just certain things that guys, mistakes we make that you want
to avoid, I cover in this video right here. Yeah, click on it, it’s a good one. You’ll
magically go over there. It’s a good one. Didn’t get as many views as I would like. So,
yeah, go check it out. [0:13:28] End of audio