- Now if you wanna lower your standards
when you go out and meet men, try this.
Rip ten shots of Fireball before you even get to the bar,
then get a few vodka sodas,
and then you won't feel feelings anymore.
Trust me.
Those standards will vanish into thin air
like an eagle flying through the night.
On the other hand, if you want to have high standards
for the people you surround yourself with, and of course
the man that you end up in a relationship with,
then you're gonna wanna watch this video.
This video is all about upping those standards
so that you can attract true love.
Attract the true equal.
Oh, and by the way,
you can still have a few drinks when you go out at night.
I'll explain why, keep watching.
Hey there, Adam LoDolce from SexyConfidence.com
where I help you create your love story.
And this video is all about relationship standards.
Now the first part of this video
I'm releasing to you on YouTube, right here,
is all about how to actually set your relationship standards
and attract the right men.
Then I have part two of this video,
which is only for my Sexy Confidence Club Members,
and in that part two of this video,
I provide the five questions to ask a guy on a first date
to find out if he's really good for you.
This is member-only content
and I'd love for you to try the Sexy Confidence Club
to be a part of this amazing community of women.
If you want that full video,
you can click the full video that I'm releasing here,
click the link in the description or the link up there,
and you'll be able to join the club.
Now when I say, lowering your standards,
most people assume that I'm talking about
going out and meeting new people, or ugly people
and hooking up with them because you're drunk.
But honestly, in my opinion,
that's not the end of the world.
If you've ever done that and woken up to someone
who legitimately looks five points less attractive
than they were the night before,
you'll probably learn your lesson pretty fast.
(moans in disgust)
Now this video is not about stupid one night stand mistakes
or we've all been there in our life.
This video is more about what it means
to hold through standards for finding love.
And how to avoid lowering them as you go about,
kind of your dating process and finding the one
you want to spend the rest of your life with.
The way I look at relationship standards and the way
I teach it to all of you sexy, single ladies out there,
is looking at it from really two distinct angles.
One are what I call people standards,
and the other are what I call relationship standards.
Let me explain.
The first type of standards are people standards.
These are the people that, or in your case, the men,
or maybe woman, depends.
The person that you choose to invest your time in.
And like I said at the beginning of this video,
most people kind of assume that
the lowering of your standards happens overnight.
- He's ugly, moving on.
He's fat, not happening.
Oh, he looks hot and drives a Ferrari
and donates to children.
Yes, for sure.
High standards, right?
- Then at that moment, you feel really good about yourself
for upholding your very high standards.
Here's the thing, standards don't actually work that way.
Actual lowering of your standards is much more of
a chiseling away of your standards.
It's a slow process.
It's like the example, like that doctor
that ended up really attractive, had a 401k,
actually in six months turns out
to be a total dick to children.
Oh, and it turns out that
he's also go a pretty nasty drinking problem.
Oh, and it turns out that he also doesn't like to have sex
and you found some gay porn history on his laptop.
Having low standards means sticking with that guy,
even though he doesn't achieve any of your goals
that you really want to make you happy.
But sticking with him because he had those high standards
when you first met him.
I want you to have high people standards
and really read out guys as soon as you find out that
they really don't meet that internal fulfillment
you're looking for.
Sure, maybe he's not a doctor.
Maybe he's got a managerial job,
but he treats you really well
and you have great conversational chemistry.
Great, give him a shot.
Having good people standards really just means
being willing and open minded to date
different types of people, but being also very quick
to leave those types of guys when you find out
that they're really not what you wanted.
And the second type of standards
are what I call relationship standards.
You can have very high people standards,
but also very low relationship standards.
Let me explain.
Essentially, sometimes in life
you can choose a really good partner,
but still, the relationship just doesn't work out.
Sometimes, when two good people get together,
even if they're both awesome.
Maybe you've had this happen to you in the past.
If you have, comment below.
But, when you get together with someone,
and you're both awesome, but both of you together,
you just don't work.
There's no chemistry.
You fight a lot.
You bicker a lot.
You clearly want very, very different things.
And this is really hard.
I think this is the worst scenario that can happen is,
when you finally find someone that is what you wanted,
but just the two of you together, just not working out.
Relationships are kind of like cooking.
You can have two sets of really, really high quality,
delicious ingredients, but put together,
they can taste like (bleep).
Maybe you're the filet mignon and he's the chocolate bar.
Put together, it just doesn't work.
But independently, you (bleep) awesome.
And put together, you're absolutely disgusting.
Look out for times when your relationship chemistry
is bad and also be willing to leave that relationship
if you're finding it's just not clicking.
So I'm really curious to hear from you.
How have you been upholding your relationship standards?
I'd love to hear from you in the comments right there below.
And also, if you enjoyed this video,
please give it a like on YouTube
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And if you do want part two of this video,
it's only available to Sexy Confidence Club Members,
go ahead and click the link in the description
or click the link up there, it'll put in a card
and you can be able to join the club,
give it a shot, see if it's for you.
And also be able to watch the full part of this video.
Thank you so much for watching,
and I'll speak to you very soon, bye-bye.